Im sick of this pain, it wont even go away for 1 minute. Im sick of not being able to sleep in the same bed as my wife, i have to sleep on the lounge with a heap of pillows under my leg. I cant even lift my 2 year old daughter which hurts the most. I havent worked in 6 months which hurts as im meant to be the bread winner, the hunter and gatherer. I just wish the surgeon would hurry up and see me. Thanks for listening.
I'm hearing you. I also sleep on the couch. Hopefully I find out this week about surgery. I envy everyone who goes out to work each day... I miss the momentum it brings each day and the feeling of wellbeing to be productive and earn a wage. My pain regime is good at the moment but I get used to the dosage so it will get increased if I'm not operated on soon. I keep going by planning things and achieving little things each day... Some days nothing much can be done and other days I can achieve one basic thing and feel elated! I live in constant guilt for my situation... A lot of my life feels "on hold"... I don't feel depressed but I has caused me to be in the past... I think I'm focused on the surgery and then will have to take it one day at a time to figure out recovery & rehab and new adventures. I wish you well. This forum has saved me a lot of loneliness and from feeling isolated. It's also made me laugh! I hope you rest well tonight fellow couch buddy!!!
I also live with permanent pain after breaking 17 ribs puncturing both lung's and having a brain injury. Spending 2.5 weeks in a coma in chch icu. I wake each morning glad to do so but also feel life is " on hold" I work 20hrs week but am exhausted when I get home. I still ( 18months later ) have 4 non healed ribs,2 inoperably so and about 8 malunions where the ribs have joined wrong. The mri makes me look like a hunchback. It's hard on the partners cause you can't physically see pain. I don't like talking about it. ( feels like I'm whinging ) just retreat to my bedroom to try to get comfortable. Keep taking more med's which also gets in the way of living. Hoping for a op soon, not looking fwd to them breaking 4 ribs to fix the deformation. Still remember vividly the agony of the accident. Geez I was supposed to encourage you and it's turned into a rant. What gets me through is A: There is always someone worse off B: I'm so so glad to be alive and still be here for my wife and 3 sons. C: it will get better... ( I hope )
Chipen1967... You go!!! Amazing and uplifting even though you said you're ranting. You've just simply pointed out, very well, that there's always someone worse. Stay strong, we're all here for one another. 😊
MarkS, I understand your frustration & pain! My original back injury occurred when my daughter was 2. I could no longer pick her up and yet a toddler was very much in need of being held. I felt guilty. Big sis (6) started teaching her to climb up into my lap or the bed (she came out of a baby bed early, crawling over it)! Lol 😉 I leaned over to change her diaper one day and my muscles went into severe spasms, locking my back around the ribs. My hubby was in court and not able to be reached, I had our oldest to walk the 2yr old to the car and buckle her in the car seat, then I drove to the ER. By the time I got there I could barely take a normal breath, due to rub spasms. I got chewed out by doctors & nurses for driving, and had to wait for someone to pick us up; they wouldn't allow me to drive home. Long story short, 2 years later I had my first neck surgery, and the whole time I could not lift my youngest. So instead of upsetting her by telling her no, she would climb into everyone's lap to "be a big girl" like her suits, and take naps with mommy on the big bed. I would suit on the sofa or bed with her if I couldn't get down on the floor to play. This created a very independent and carrying child who is now a compassionate adult. She's none the worse for it. Try and make any necessary changes you need for comfort seem like a game for her. As for sleeping separate from your spouse I've gone that many years now, on & off due to various health issues. We are actually now I'm separate rooms for both of us to sleep more restful and not keep each other awake. We've become closer over our near 35 years of marriage, because we have had standing breakfast dates 2 of 4 Saturdays a month, and for all of our differences were share all the major issues in common. A copywriter once told him if I were his wife GED have walked away. My hubby told him, "and that's why you're still alone after 4 failed marriages." We know our love for each other is strong and occasionally wer do sleep together still. Like I would tell him when he felt guilty being away so much in the girls younger years, "It's not the quantity (of time) spent together as it is the quality that matters." You are still a very gold loving father. Teach that baby girl to climb in your lap or on your bed, and snuggle close!! Hugs love & prayers for you my friend! 🙂💕🙏🌸