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Dec 10, 2016 3:38 PM

Does anyone else have trouble housekeeping? I look at piles of stuff all over my house ugh! with no energy to do anything about it.

Dec 10, 2016 3:51 PM

I do have problems housekeeping . Sometimes I will not eat so I don't have to do dishes. Or I won't do my laundry and will just stay indoors in my PJ'S when I have nothing clean . I think it has a lot to do with my depression

Dec 10, 2016 3:59 PM

👋 ... this is my biggest stress as a fibromyalgia sufferer, single home owner and a full time employed person..... i have weeks and weeks of ironing, a constant layer of dust on surfaces and a almost empty fridge..... never mind the list of jobs for outside to maintain!!... all these jobs stress me out so much!!... my partner thinks i should invest in a cleaner but theres something i cant afford one as my finances are so fragile!.... i tend to do what i can and leave a day in between cleaning jobs to help my body recover

Dec 10, 2016 7:27 PM

Absolutely! You are not alone in this challenge!

Dec 10, 2016 8:41 PM

If it's not an immediate safety or health concern it can wait. That's how i roll.
But i also pay someone to come in once a month to do the scrubbing since i physically can't. That's why i really can't afford to not work

Dec 10, 2016 9:23 PM

tamtoad, just do what you can when you have the energy. Prioritize what you need done and go from there. (Take breaks and listen to your body). You can do it.. We all get like that. When it gets to the point that I can't stand it, I get my ass up and fix it... LOL!! Hang in there, it'll be ok😊💕

Dec 10, 2016 9:26 PM

I really struggle trying to do any of my house work. If I vacuum my living room I have to lay down afterwards and it goes on like that, it's not just feeling tired it's feeling so exhausted that I gave to lay down, my body is soo heavy I just can't stand no more.
I try to get my kids to help me but because I'm soo tired and have to sleep they don't do it and I just don't have the energy to argue with them....Altho sometimes when it gets to the point where I just can't stand it anymore I unplug the router and hide it until they do get some bits done!
The only thing that I'm on top of is the washing but all the clean washing is piled on top of my armchair waiting to be put away....I only iron school uniforms or if the clothes are soo creased that even 10 minutes in the tumble dryer doesn't take the creases out.
Ironing is the one thing that doesn't stress me out if it's not done because I hate it and I've always ironed as I need too but everything else stresses me.
My mum came over a few weeks back to help me sort out my kitchen and living room. The living room I seem to be able to keep tidy apart from the big pile of clothes on the armchair but my kitchen has again become a major stress point for me again....I can keep the worktop clean but the washing up has built up again, I can't stand at the sink washing up for long before I'm shattered, literally shattered like I can't stand up anymore, like I need to lay down then and there, I can't even make it upstairs to bed I have to lay on the sofa!
Cooking is the same, I'm doing a lot of one pot dinners in the slow cooker or I bring a chair into the kitchen and help my 10 year old cook.
My son is 14 and is pretty much refusing cooked dinners at the moment because it not cheese on toast, cheese sandwich, cornflakes with milk, glasses of milk or pizza (pizza is a new addition to his list!).
I am really trying not to let it stress me out too much but it's hard.
I still have a lot of stuff in boxes from when we moved in earlier this year and all the paint and decorating materials but I've only decorated the living room and just waiting for my dad to lay the laminate floor. I just can't muster up the energy to do anymore decorating, nearly every room needs to be done except the kitchen and bathroom and being that we had to completely move I don't have the support of friends that I used to have to help me. Family can't help as much either as my mum and dad run a pub, my next sister down lives in Switzerland, my baby sister is a met police officer who works shifts and has a 3 year old and a baby who's 7 moths old, and my brother also works shifts in as a train driver but lives a fair distance away and doesn't have a license or drives a car!

Oh wow I'm really sorry, I have the ability to go off on tangents quite often!!!

Do things when you can and take plenty of breaks but don't push yourself too much because it'll take you 2-3 days to recover then you'll be even more behind than you was originally! Be kind to yourself.

Sending you positive vibes and warm healing hugs xx

Dec 11, 2016 1:41 AM

Thank you all for your sharing. JessieNova. I live in PJ'S too!
stagefrightgirl...how can you work. I'm all admiration 😀I appreciate the suggestion for small tasks with rest between.
FatiguedFighter ...I am feeling your support.
gotobef...I think I am going to get a housekeeper. Not sure what I can afford as my husband provides me small income. I wish I could work.
Alwayinpain...I love your encouragement. I will work harder to get mine out of bed😀
Sezzy...I know what you mean about the vacuuming😫 I send prayers for energy for you and lots of hugs & kisses💕

Dec 17, 2016 2:11 AM

I can't do anything that involves twisting and bending. My hubby does everything. Next year I want to pay a cleaner to vacuum and mop to give my hubby a break.

Dec 17, 2016 2:39 AM

I live alone so yeah housekeeping is a struggle... Trying not to overdo when I have some good days but it usually ends up with me doing all in one day and not being able to move the next few days... To be honest it's much easier to keep the small tasks with breaks when I'm not in my best shape..

Dec 18, 2016 12:28 AM

Yes, in the beginning of my pain journey my house keep feel to zero. As I think back on how bad it real got I'm embarrassed. At the time my boyfriend did a few things. But we didn't live together so most times he would come by after being gone a day or two and things just built up. Even now I am.nit able to do anything around the house it wears me out.

Dec 19, 2016 4:36 PM

I went from being a very strictly organized home/work/person to being the most disorganized person I've ever known. I was a type-A perfectionist...Was. I do good to get my basic functions done, and struggle with things that aren't day to day functions, like bills, budget, cooking recipes. I pace any activity with rest in between. And if I need to do something I have to put it on my phone calendar so it reminds me when my brain forgets. If it's something I need several days to do I just set a repeat however many times I need it. It's helpful, like things to pick up at the store on Wednesday when I finish PT, or baking pies on Thursday with my hubby, or cooking lasagna sauce Friday so he can put the lasagna together later, etc.

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