Ok im going to be straight to the point, I havent had sex since March (when i had my back injury). I cant do it cause the movement hurts a lot, with her on top i cant do either as it kills my lower back. And as for head i xant even receive that due to when im about to climax i tense up and it send massive stabbing pains throughout my whole lower back and leg. Anyone else have this problem. It's ok to talk about it, dont be shy.
Lack of libido and pain during sex is pretty much driving me insane so I kinda get where you're coming from. What about a sex swing? I've never seen one but maybe something like that would be helpful for reduced mobility? I there's a lot of stuff out there maybe there's a solution for you?
I agree that a sex swing might be worth a try. Is it every time you cum? Are you able to masturbate without pain or is with and without a partner? I'm lucky in that sex actually relieves a lot of my pain as long as he's doing most of the movement, but the pain and meds have killed a lot of my libido and ability to cum.
I'm going add my two cents. I place a very high priority on intimacy in marriage and have gone to great lengths to ensure my illness doesn't impact our sex life. At one point the hubs had a back injury and our experience was very similar to what you're describing. We found that a deep tissue massage before hand with an oil that helps keep the muscles relaxed, specific timing of pain meds so they were at their greatest effectiveness during sex, and the use of an oil called ylang ylang (applied to the bottom of the feet inner ankle and lower back) helped him. Also, pillows, patience and positions can make all the difference.
I have probs with libdo & pain in sex. Fatiguedfighter, what a great post! I want to try some of yr sugg. with the hubby. I have never heard of a sex swing. We could never again show the new bedroom to friends??!! 😳