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Aug 29, 2016 7:07 AM

Ok im going to be straight to the point, I havent had sex since March (when i had my back injury). I cant do it cause the movement hurts a lot, with her on top i cant do either as it kills my lower back. And as for head i xant even receive that due to when im about to climax i tense up and it send massive stabbing pains throughout my whole lower back and leg. Anyone else have this problem. It's ok to talk about it, dont be shy.

Aug 29, 2016 8:23 AM

Lack of libido and pain during sex is pretty much driving me insane so I kinda get where you're coming from. What about a sex swing? I've never seen one but maybe something like that would be helpful for reduced mobility? I there's a lot of stuff out there maybe there's a solution for you?

Aug 29, 2016 8:38 AM

I agree that a sex swing might be worth a try. Is it every time you cum? Are you able to masturbate without pain or is with and without a partner? I'm lucky in that sex actually relieves a lot of my pain as long as he's doing most of the movement, but the pain and meds have killed a lot of my libido and ability to cum.

Aug 29, 2016 11:26 AM

I'm going add my two cents. I place a very high priority on intimacy in marriage and have gone to great lengths to ensure my illness doesn't impact our sex life. At one point the hubs had a back injury and our experience was very similar to what you're describing. We found that a deep tissue massage before hand with an oil that helps keep the muscles relaxed, specific timing of pain meds so they were at their greatest effectiveness during sex, and the use of an oil called ylang ylang (applied to the bottom of the feet inner ankle and lower back) helped him. Also, pillows, patience and positions can make all the difference.

Aug 29, 2016 7:53 PM

I have probs with libdo & pain in sex. Fatiguedfighter, what a great post! I want to try some of yr sugg. with the hubby. I have never heard of a sex swing. We could never again show the new bedroom to friends??!! 😳

Aug 29, 2016 11:23 PM

Haha I think you hang it on hooks in the roof and put it away when visitors come, at least that's the impression I got from my (very open) aunt who has one

Aug 30, 2016 3:45 AM

I have one! But u prob guessed that! Hehehe 😲

Aug 30, 2016 9:49 AM

When I started reading this and saw sex swing the first person I thought might have one of here was you lulabel 😂😂.

Aug 30, 2016 10:30 AM

Uh-Oh, Lulabel, all your secrets are getting out.. LOL!! Gonna put you in your own naughty book!!😂🐫😜😳🏇🐫

Aug 30, 2016 10:46 AM

Lmao! I deserve that one! Hehe 🐫

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