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Absence due to Super-Stress!

Feb 17, 2017 3:30 PM

Sorry I've been missing and my catching up is going to be slow. I hope I don't miss anyone, especially greeting newbies. I was at my dad & stepmoms Sunday through Wednesday, thinking I'd get a semi vacation. NOT! He's 86 with Alzheimer's, having had 3 previous surgeries with bad anesthesia reactions. He was cleared by two cardiology studies to have total knee replacement this week. I'm scared about another reaction stealing what mind functions he has left. And then there's the higher risk of death due to his age. But If he dies, he'll die believing he's getting a new knee...A happy man. But he's miserably in terrible pain, and if a new knee can help relieve it then so be it.

My daughter leaves in about 6-10 days for her new job in Texas. I'm nauseated and worrying about her being so far away and alone. She's never handled her own emergencies well. And I worry about her financially. As the saying goes, she "hasn't got a pot to piss in" and she has no idea of how much it takes to set up her own home. Because of my health costing me a job and not having disability, we aren't in any position to help her out at all, let alone go there in an emergency. And we get to keep her big dog who has been getting on my very last nerve. I love him, but he's too active at age 1 for my lifestyle, and rambunctious to boot.😵 I'm NOT looking forward to her 6 weeks away training and then who knows how long to find a home for her & him. Ugh! 😭

Also, a family member and their spouse were arrested on felony arson, something I was not aware of. They have 3 children who've been thrown into utter chaos, let alone how all of us adults are handling it. Omg! Then my dad & stepmom come up this way to see other family, only to find out one person deliberately avoided seeing them. They caught him in a lie when they took the others out to eat, and there sat the liar (who was oh so busy). Grrr! 😤 My dad's heart broke!! 😢

Let's just say all this stress is flaring my IBS-C, fibromyalgia, sjogrens (blisters in mouth and painful swollen joints). And I'm not sleeping. I'm so exhausted. But my granddaughter's coming tonight through Monday, something planned for months. How am I going to find the energy? 😖

Hugs love & prayers for everyone to have as good a weekend as possible! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Feb 17, 2017 3:37 PM

Sounds like a very stressful time for you. I feel similarly about the drama between friends and family right now, it is incredibly exhausting trying to care for everyone else when you don't even have the time to care for yourself. I hope you have a great weekend and find the energy you need. Sending prayers your way ☺

Feb 17, 2017 3:48 PM

I will say a prayer for you dear, you are way too overwhelmed and that's the worst condition to be in when managing pain, among other things. Does your granddaughter like to color? Setting her up with some of those really detailed pics could buy you a little down time, allowing you to rest but still have conversation together.

Feb 17, 2017 5:03 PM

So sorry about all the stress! Yikes! Praying for God's comfort & peace for you.

Feb 17, 2017 6:08 PM

So sorry to ear that ... sending love!

Feb 17, 2017 9:35 PM

Flappys I hope your stress let's up soon. Your sleep chart looks a lot like mine. I'm sure your gonna enjoy your grandkids. I actually find thst children are way more respective and understanding to limitations. Put yourself in the middle of a circle filled with activities your grand like and just enjoy being in their presence.

Feb 22, 2017 2:22 AM

Flappsy, I am so sorry you're having such a hard time. I wish there was something I could do to help you. Hang in there, remember to breathe and know that I am sending you healing {{Hugs}}, well wishes and positive vibes. Always here if you need me Flappsy.. your way🤗💕

Feb 24, 2017 7:57 PM

Thank you all so much for your support! The stress has not let up and I'm hanging on as best I can. But my rope is feeling pretty fragile & frayed this week. I'm in a full fledged fibromyalgia & sjogrens flare and sleeping so little it's affecting my ability to function. I actually kept my hubby awake all night last night. I had to drive to an appt and when I got home I refused to get behind the wheel again, even though I needed to run errands. I'm usually chatty but I'm in a flare and at the worst level in a very long time. That's why I haven't been getting online. My pain is like screaming in every muscle, bone, and nerve fiber, much worse at night than early morning. I'm getting less than 5 hours sleep a night this week, only 3.5 hr two nights ago. I'm so freaking tired and in pain. I literally can't remember when I hurt so badly! I wanted to cry last night but f didn't want to wake my hubby. I didn't know he wasn't sleeping because I was keeping him awake.

To catch up on some stress factors:. My dad is cleared for total knee replacement on Tuesday. If I had not been with them (dad & stepmom) at pre-op the docs wouldn't have known about his medication allergies, prior medical problems, or reactions to aesthesia, or the fact he has Alzheimer's and has suffered cognitive disruption twice after surgery. Thankfully they are going to do a spinal block instead of general anesthesia. I'm praying for positive results for him! I know I'll be going down multiple times to help out. But as of yet only one of four siblings is planning to help out. Thanks, not!

Our daughter leaves Sunday for training in Texas. Her dogs been sick for two days and I'm making her take him to the vet tomorrow. He's eaten part of a towel, and I'm worried he may have a partial blockage. He was shaking his head severely yesterday, and like "Turner & Hoch" he slung 15 globs of slimy slobber all over the room! Then he threw up 5 times. He's thrown up what little he ate today too. Ugh...I can't clean it up or I'm throwing up too! She has visited every friend she has all week and now has 1 day to pack her stuff up for her trip, & see family. So being stressed to get it all done she's been very snippy with me and her dad and both dogs. With what she's told us about her finances we are worried about how she'll possibly make it. I just pray she does!

Well my brain just went kaplooey so ... I hope everyone has a good weekend! On a positive note, my hubby can sleep in the other room come Sunday night, and my tossing & turning won't keep him awake. Yay 😖💕🙏🌸

Feb 24, 2017 8:07 PM

I'm so sorry you're going through all this. Thanks for keeping us in the loop. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Feb 26, 2017 7:47 AM

Heading to the airport. Our daughter doesn't even want us to go in with her!? 🤔😢

Feb 26, 2017 8:01 AM

Big hugs and much love xxx

Jul 21, 2017 6:21 PM

So sorry to hear about all The stressful situations in your life. I'll pray that some of these stress filled situations will lessen. Having children myself I can understand your concern for your daughter. Sending you 🤗😘. My dad and aunt also had altzheimers and my heart breaks for you. Be good to yourself and give yourself a break when you can.

Jul 21, 2017 7:14 PM

@FlappysLady81. Welcome back 😊🤗🤗 I am sorry your vacation wasn't good to you. Very stressful is not good . I hope things gets better for you and your family. ((Gentle hugs))sending prayers your way

Jul 22, 2017 5:22 AM

Welcome back, Please don't worry about having a break from here it sounds like you have a lot of very stressful things going on and I bet your exauhsted try your best to rest when you can and don't feel bad for asking for help. Sending hugs 😊

Jul 22, 2017 8:29 AM

Don't even know what to say. Your plate is overloaded. I will pray for strength and endurance. Hopefully those precious grandchildren will bring a smile to your face and fill your heart with love. ❤️

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