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Apr 04, 2016 9:00 PM

Shehaze67 and Others:
I am very ill, and a survivor of abuse from childhood to 50+.
-I Got Out-
I talked to my doc who gave me a phone number that led me to help.
Save Yourself.
I gave up every Thing. Things can be replaced.
Save yourself.
You are unique. Know that there are gifts you've yet to discover.
* * I'm talking to myself here as well you because I still battle depression.
But this truly is a community of support. These people who have never met me have helped immeasurably.

Apr 04, 2016 9:09 PM

7autoimmunes, You are a true fighter & a loving person! May God bless your life in ways you can't imagine! Hugs, love & prayers, and sweet dreams. 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 05, 2016 9:59 AM

Keep going! Wow I wish I had more resources when younger, I only went through abuse for a few years as a young adult but it still affects how I react everything! I didn't realize it until recently. I believe I may enter into some counseling for this 40 years late!

Apr 05, 2016 11:36 AM

I wish i had your strength to go on but i just havent reached that point yet but really like to get there with your all help

Apr 05, 2016 12:42 PM

You sound like me!.I was abused as a child then late teen then got the battered wife situation and that I earned just because I started with Arthritis and spinal degenerative desease. I also started to self har,
M, I walked away remarried within 12 months to a younger man 10 yrs younger and from the time we dated he came to every hospital appt ,looks after me makes me laugh. The scars I have I hated for a while but now I like em they remind me how far Ive come. Depression n pain dont quite rule my life but its a daily fight. I talk to myself and tell my self it wont take me down so far again. Life is hard for all of us The biggest thing besides pain is belief from other people and rejection. It doesnt matter really what others think, but sadly it affects us, I had 3 grt friends and over the yrs they dropped me because ,1 said she could go out with me it would cramp her style. The other said I am a responsibility that she doesnt want, and the other said I dont want to go and arrange dinner or anything cos you. Cancel sometimes. Now I dont bother with anyone. Those of you who manage to work and mix good for you.
On another note, The injections no, Dont go there, Sometimes they work some times not. But you can get nerve damage which I got and their isnt a lot you can do. Nerve damage is painful, and Id never risk it again.

Apr 05, 2016 12:46 PM

Sorry guys on reflection my bit sounds like Im full of woe. Not so. I do think Im lucky their are folks worse than ne always will be. Make the most of what you have, Aim for new goals every day no matter how small, Everyobe take care.

Apr 05, 2016 12:55 PM

If i was to ask a hypothetical question you you call 911

Apr 05, 2016 1:07 PM

Definately.They can help and they can give you support to break awy from your situation . Even if you dont want to really go to court etc. They will understand the trauma and fear. What I did was photo copy all bank
statements. Wage cheques etc. Started to put things in a bag or case each time he was out. It took me about 2 months then one day I picked up the phone made a call and left while he was out. The night before we had gone at it quite badly only he came off worse. I never saw after that one night. But if you want or need to leave now espe ially were your safety is concerned ring for help. Or get a cab and at least go some where you know you have time to think and sort out a new life. But dont go to family known to a partner. Families dont really want trouble but also a partner will be good in company. Let them no youve moved out an will be intouch. Hope you act. And be safe.....

Apr 05, 2016 1:10 PM

People in situations of abuse, pain and stress only make their illness worse and besides the emotional pain you go through your increasing your physical pain. You will feel relief and less stressed in a month or so. After all making the move will have you bewildered and edgy until you see things are going to be fine. And they will get better......

Apr 05, 2016 5:03 PM

Just my story: When I left I had a sense of freedom within 20 min. As soon as I cleared the the city limits and knew I wasn't being followed. My transmission went out in a tiny mountain town but I sold the vehicle, rented a moving truck, ditched my old cell -- got a new one with a new #. Fresh start. I moved in with my DD and her DD's whom I love and I'm with them now.

Apr 05, 2016 5:15 PM

I too felt free by the end of the day. I was excited with a mix of what I had done and how now I. Could do whatever I liked. I was very wary when I was going any where, I left town moved elsewhere changed my surname by deed poll. My mum thought Id go back, but no way Id focus on a plan and once id done it. Very happy.
The person who was intetested in calling 911 out of interest, I would say if you are not in that frame of mind yet, were you know you can hatch a plan and go,
your time will come something will just click and nothing will stop you!
my only bug is that rathet than improve health wise its nose dived, I cope, I fight but then I have days when you just cant be bothered to even move. And the pills they give you..... still life is what you make it. You do what you can and enjoy whenever you can.

Apr 05, 2016 5:25 PM

Everyone as their own story, and each one a little different. But focus on what you could have and what you need to try and do to get you out of your situation. If you focus your mind on different situations on how you can move forward it will help. Try and make enquiries on how to get into a place for battered wives, or get out of town even if it means a day off from your routine. Your life is your own its not for abuse of any kind from another. Dont tell any of your family or friends what your plans are that way who ever you want to leave cant find you. Take your time in thinking things through go over and over your plan and tick the boxes as you reach each goal in your head. If money is tight try to save and hide small amounts of change weekly or monthly, you have to plan in order to make it work. But if you need to get out now you need to get help from 911 or some kind of charity. There are places and they would come pick you up.

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