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ACE-Adverse Childhood Experiences

Dec 01, 2018 9:24 PM

Anyone have high ACE score from trauma?

Dec 28, 2018 9:17 PM

Yup

Dec 29, 2018 5:28 PM

Unfortunately, my ACE score is 8 (out of the possible 10). I didn't actually know about this risk factor scoring s system before as we have different ones in the UK but it made for interesting reading and if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here

Jan 01, 2019 12:18 AM

Thank you
I’m going to do some trauma work when I can. Like Somatic Experience. I was at a place 10 yrs ago and in a group session where I suppose it was so concentrated that I was triggered and my body shook (like when you averted a horrible accident or something) and in that state I identified that I thought my family was trying to kill me (as perhaps a child perceived such inconceivable idea or I didn’t consciously have that thought but my body has stored it )
The bodily part was a trip and happened unexpectedly n not at a time counselor anticipated. They kept asking if I was ok but I hadn’t disassociated... I left 2 weeks later against advice. I remember very little but more from verbal and emotional. The physical Abuse was from mother who was drunk and my brother was able to bully me physically (serious). A parent can use a child to harm another child. My mom had poor upbringing and I accept that she’s incapable of loving me. I don’t know what it’s like to feel really wanted, or feel affection or feel deeply cared about by a parent so I’m quite used to saying “well at least they provided or a parent didn’t leave or at least you still have a brother.., I’m forced to live with my mom currently and I see her verbal abuse tactics etc. But “at least I have a roof over my head.” Well, that’s no reason or excuse to dump your crap on others...people try to rationalize so much crap. I have started speaking up at age 49 (I have in past but this is different) and I knew stuff was not right 45 yrs ago. It’s hard to feel what you were deprived of but they didn’t have the skills to share. Trauma is behind soooo much illness. It’s staggering

Jan 11, 2019 4:14 AM

I'm so sorry that happened and is happening to you. I agree that people frequently rationalise or shrug off big issues as if you told them nothing at all... it's frustrating and it's one of the many reasons that I have serious trust issues

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