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Jan 24, 2017 11:31 PM

So today I had an art field trip and I was in a wheelchair cause I can't walk around downtown. While we were waiting for the bus kids started to look at me standing by my wheelchair. When we got to the art museum they started to say things like " you can walk" or "stop trying to draw attention to yourself " and many other things as well 😔. I'm scared to go to school tomorrow because I don't want to deal with the question and all th "your walking just fine today ".

Jan 24, 2017 11:46 PM

Horsesnuggler12, you don't owe anyone an explanation for why you had the wheelchair or how well or not well you're walking. I wouldn't want to be your age ever again. It's an awkward time as it is without dealing with added stresses. Kids can be so cruel abd heartless (so can adults for that matter), however, as you get older, usually people gain a bit more control over themselves (unless they're a total shit).
You go to school with your head held up and if anyone says anything just either ignore it or you can simply say "I'm not even going to give you the benefit of an explanation because clearly it's beyond your mental capacity to even come close to not being ignorant). Hang in there, Sweetie, you've got all of us behind you and you're a strong young lady. Sending well wishes, gentle {{{Hugs}}} and positive vibes your way.💕🤗

Jan 24, 2017 11:58 PM

I get that too a lot tbh but I guess over time you get used to it. People always have prejudice and its hard for them to understand what they don't feel or know. Alwayzinpain said that u don't owe them an explanation but it feels a lot better to tell them(from my experience). Even a teacher has mocked me but after I told him what's going on he has looked at me in another light and i don't feel that shame anymore in class. I hope this helps you and it is your call wheather you want to tell them or not :)

Jan 25, 2017 3:13 PM

Horsesnuggler12, It's always heard knowing others are judging you and that they don't understand. You don't owe them any explanation. But think about how many of them could be even slightly educated about your condition(s), or how people with disabilities struggle from one task to the next. My daughter thought my granddaughter was too young to be told the facts of my many illnesses, at age 8. I didn't and I chose words she could understand to explain why sometimes Granny could walk/sit on the floor/have her come overnight, etc, but not always. She amazed us all by coming up with alternative things to help me out. She even explained it to her stepsiblings & parents. Don't be afraid to speak up and educate others. It's possible they know nothing to minimal info about any disability. I've found that unless they experience it, either firsthand or through a loved one, they really have no idea what others go through. Hugs love & prayers your day goes much better than you think it will! 🙂💕🙏🌸

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