I feel bad that this is even an issue. However like most of u I'm in a constant state of pain all day everyday. Super fatigued emotional distressed etc . in addition my father has two forms of cancer r and I've moved in with my mom and dad to try and take some pressure off my family. When I moved home I was not aware of all my medical issues.
So my issue is my mom constantly leaves me alone with my dad for long periods . even though my therapist and my dad therapist has repeatedly said this is not to be done. I only have partial use of my my right side in addition to the server pain and meds I'm on. My dad goes through periods of extreme weakness and need help with basic needs. Which means lifting and being able to catch him if he falls. I can't do this. I've in the past and I've injured myself more many times. I admit my mom and I need help in the home with my dad and I feel bad when i get upset or just flat out say no to my mom. My dad is still totsly competent. So he tries to get around and do what he use to do before he got sick. It scares me when I know I have to be alone with him. He tries to just sit still til mom gets back but its not fair to him either. If he needs to move or go to the bathroom he shouskd be able to go. Not to mention even if he stays put I can't take my medicine like I need to because I have to stay alert for when people come or call. Am I wrong for feeling this way? How so I get through it without disrespecting my mom.?