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Anxiety running rampant, need advice on how to get rid of it without vitamins it meds

Jan 07, 2016 5:06 PM

I was OK until today with my Aunt's passing, and since this morning it has gone out of control and I've done everything I can to get rid of it! PLEASE HELP!

Jan 07, 2016 6:43 PM

Deep breaths! I know it's true but you recognize the anxiety for what it is, that's the first and hardest step. Just take a time out. Find a spot alone and remind yourself that you are in control of you. That's the only thing you need to be in control of. Breathe in and hold it while counting slowly to five then breathe out also on five. You've got this, you are strong and it's OK to take time for you. Keep five count breathing until you feel yourself slow down and come back under your own control. Remind yourself that you have got this. You are strong enough. Take things one step at a time. Don't worry about step two. Do step one of whatever you have to do and then breathe. Then, see what you have left to do and what WAS step two is now step one. So focus on step one and then breathe. Do everything in a series of step ones. Look at it as if you only have one thing to do. And when that's done, you only have one thing to do. Never look at the whole list. And always take a break for YOU after each step one. Do not let ANYONE rush or stress you, not even yourself. Remember you have a right to take time to grieve and you have a right to ask for help. I hope this helps. I don't know exactly what your triggers are, but this works in most situations. It was part of my CBT. Good luck, I'm here if you need me 😊 God bless and gentle hugs

Jan 07, 2016 8:59 PM

Moparmom, Phoenixrising is right. Staying calm, or trying to relax to regain the calm is key. Allow yourself to feel the grief. But also try not to let it take control. It's hard but you can do this. I'm here and so is everyone else. Hugs & prayers! God will help you through this! 😷🙏🌼

Jan 07, 2016 9:19 PM

I have just lost three people in the space of 3 months and I've tried the keeping calm and grieving thing and it didn't work for me the rage, grief, anger etc came out at the worse time. Then I was given some advice that has really helped "Go either out in your garden or out in a wide open space where you can be alone and just scream Scream at God, scream at the universe, scream at the person that died just scream, scream at anything by the time you're finished screaming you feel better Now I'm not saying the anxiety won't come back but hopefully you will be and feel a lot better for having done it x

Jan 07, 2016 9:35 PM

Tiggerhurts, those emotions are all part of the grief process. And your idea to let loose and scream, I've done it into a pillow many times. It takes time to adjust to one loss, and there is very hard., although the 3 I went through was over aa 9-10 month span. I can't imagine what you are going through in such a short time! I'm very sorry for your losses, and hope that in time you'll be able to come to a point of less pain. Losing my mom was the absolute worst for me, in '99, and though it still hurts the painful memories have been taken over by older find memories. (((Hugs))) & prayers for you too! 😷🙏🌼

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