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May 12, 2016 12:09 AM

My boss asked me how many pills I take which I thought was none of her business so I did not give her an answer. She then proceeded to tell me that she want to monitor me to make sure that the information that I give out is appropriate and accurate and is concern that the medication I take is impairing my judgement and there maybe a liability concern. She is against pain medication and is all for natural healing has been pushing me in that direction since the beginning of my illness. I think this is another ploy to force me to do what she wants. Which I think is more than unfair...if not illegal. What do you think? 🆘. 🎅🏻

May 12, 2016 12:48 AM

Illegal! or Should be if it isn't in your area IMHO.
Invasion of privacy if you didn't seek her advice. And exactly how would she monitor? And on what basis would she Judge your doctor's RX? your judgement? the accuracy? I'm sorry this is going on.
I certainly hope she finds a graceful way out, doesn't feel she has to fire you just to save face.

May 12, 2016 4:02 AM

This is bullying and none of her business unless she can prove your medication its causing a problem with your work. Also her thoughts on alternative medicine should be kept to herself as she is not your medical practitioner.

May 12, 2016 7:21 AM


I am very sorry to hear that you are in this predicament with this type of questioning. It is really to bad that we tell people things and then it comes back to bite us. I believe that you don't have to share your health information unless you ok it. The only time that I believe it may become an issue is if it alters our judgement. To me It is dangerous or a concern if major concentration is needed, using equipment, driving, etc. If they have a specific concern then I think mentioning it to you is ok. But knowing exact illnesses or medications I don't think so. Unless the job has the the right to do random drug checks like police department or sky rise window washers, etc.
Be strong and document these times incase you may need specifics later. I hope that you continue talking about this with us. It is a great way to gain different types of perspectives and support. You are not along and amongst people through the app who have dealt with similar situations, empathetic and compassionate, or allow you to air your thoughts.

May 12, 2016 8:19 AM

Sorry to hear that you have to deal with this type of person, that her only concern is liability for her company! I will write down date and time she comes to you with those questions. Your personal live is none of business. I'm pretty sure you are completing your job, as well as I am, we deal with different kind of pain every day and we still have the strength to get up and want to handle it. Keep record and report it to the HR or employment department in your area. She'll have to face investigation and you can even sue her for discriminating you! I pray God that he helps you and open the door you need to get this problem solve.

May 12, 2016 1:32 PM

Mysisterskeeper, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this bullshit. And that is what it is in plain English!!! It is none of her business how many pills you take in a day and I am sure that you would have gotten notices of mistakes of you had not been in your right mind. HIPPA Privacy Laws make it illegal for an employer to ask you for your medical information. That being said, if a job is of a physical nature and involving machinery or situations where it could be dangerous for you or others, her concern is merely for her liability of people getting hurt on the job and having to pay out a Workers' Compensation claim. She is being a bully and I would go to HR and have it put on record what is going on and check with the Departmebt of Labor in your area what the laws are. I wish you all the best and hope that this situation comes to an end and you can get on with your day without this bitch annoying you. {{{{Hugs}}}}💕🙏🏻🌻😊

May 12, 2016 10:04 PM

Omigosh. I have felt like I am in a similar situation, although I VOLUNTEERED what medications I take, what for and how much. Now I have to get a form filled out by my doctor stating I am capable of work AND be re-evaluated at my job before I find out whether or not I will have a position in the fall. I've been there two years and have not taken a day off because of my pain. Only a couple of contagious colds, etc.

Anyway. Your boss may have "overheard" your diagnosis somewhere and googled it... and found out that sometimes strong medicine is needed. As if anyone would ever go to work spaced out or incapable of functioning. Sheesh, how would we even GET there if we were having that bad of a day?

Basically, some bosses just HAVE to stick their noses in where they want to stir stuff up for a little drama. Don't give any drama... just smile, nod and kill them with kindness... and some kind of information to set her back down in her office chair where she can do her own job and let you do yours.

All the best to you!

May 12, 2016 10:23 PM

Illegal and none of her f'ing business. I would ask her exactly when and where she obtained her medical degree. I would call the EEOC and file a claim against the company. This is a complete invasion of your privacy.

May 12, 2016 10:33 PM

It is illegal, none of her biz and so on. I know from dealing with HR where I worked when I complained my boss said I never said that I am not sure why she would say that.

If I had a "do over" I would have sent my boss and email "following" up on our conversation and asking for her to elaborate on what exactly she wanted so I get get it from my doctor. Or at least asking something that would prove what she is doing. This way you have some sort of evidence.

It is best never to discuss ones health at work.

May 12, 2016 11:19 PM

The short answer you are taking what is prescribe so that you can do your job and take care of your health.

Keep personal life off the job. Do not talk to anyone at work or work friends off work about your issues. The looking for away to let you go in my opinion 😖

May 12, 2016 11:30 PM

Sometimes it is a VERY hard lesson to learn that co-workers are not necessarily our friends. It's easy to confide in someone we see everyday; someone we care about and we imagine might care about us. Sadly, it's often just gossip fodder, so no more friends at work anymore; at least not to confide in. That's really said, because for many of us, that's the only place we ever see anyone. Work, home to crash, back to work, home to crash.

May 14, 2016 8:33 AM

Hi Kamal, you are really telling the truth I never taken my job home and I never taken my personal business to work because you don't have any friends when you are in a professional environment I never rolled like that that's why I had a lot of enemies because of how I take care what's important to me. Thanks for sharing

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