So I consider myself to be a strong person that can handle anything. I have been in pain for years but have only had a diagnosis in the past year. I attempted to pull out my Christmas decorations for the yard and I almost passed out when I bent over. So I threw quite a two year old fit. So thanks to my amazing husband he helped me get my decorations out. I know I am not the only one who has had this experience.
((Hugs)) totally understand. I was always very strong and could handle almost everything. Now it’s so hard. Especially when I know the pain I’m in and still push it. Thankfully my husband has stood by my side and caught me every time I have one of my “fits”. Lol
I have never admitted this to any one but I am always the Leader in my home, so when my Spine begin to literally crumble . I took a long look at how strong I had been always doing things on my own while Hospitalized in January, the excruitating pain forced me to realize I could no longer put up a front and pretend my Husband did not need to help me.So ladies be proud of yourselves, and thank your husbands every chance you get, because I was not fortunate to have help and because of my pride I made family and friends think my husband of 36 years helped me with physical things when he hardly lifted a finger, from me to you it’s ok to be vulnerable and ask for help, because now I realize had I asked and insist he did more I would’ve had a better quality of life and wouldn’t be facing paralysis In my future. I have since explained to him it’s his turn to do more, so he though spoiled does more.
Cb1227, kudos to you! Been there, done that, and as you know...paying for it. I'm fortunate that my hubby has always been supportive, since I took him to appts with me and he heard the doctors. It's hard for me to depend on others even now, but my oldest has taken over the family Christmas plans as our youngest is coming home this year. Having lost my Dad in May, and my stepmom going from physically gardening to a broken hip followed by 2 dislocations, and mental/cognitive decline to a childlike state of mind, my heart hasn't been in "celebrating" mode. And I've been laid up 2 weeks from a labrum tear in the hip joint & a recent slip/nearly fell. During this time I've had to depend on my hubby and a sister to keep check on & visiting our stepmom. I'm thankful others have stepped in to help. We should feel blessed ladies! Love hugs and prayers as we all face the holidays, and remember it's ok to step back and let others do more! 🙂❤🙏🌼