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Can't make my own decisions

Feb 28, 2016 2:37 PM

Seems like since I been sick my daughter wants to make all my decisions for me, like whether or not I'll have fun if she takes me out, I just wanted to go shoot some pool but she didn't think I'd have fun so she lied and said she may not even go. I knew she did go, and I was right. I hate being a bother, well I won't bother her anymore.

Feb 28, 2016 2:47 PM

Bethann..I'm sorry your frustrates.. I understand Although my situation is flipped. I am the daughter but my health got to a point where I had to move home.
I don't know your whole situation but I would give u the advice I was given. Have you tried having a conversation with your daughter. In your case since u r thr mom you could use that card but I would.be careful if u did. If u have spoken with her before maybe try again or if ur able to just make plans on your own and go yourself if your able to drive and get around. Out lives are hard enough ,we should not have to deal with family making thing worse. Fell free to message me if u want to chat. I hope you get some relief soon.

Feb 28, 2016 4:08 PM

If your daughter is bothered by you, try not to take it too seriously. (Probably sounds dumb coming from me, a sick teen. But I know how guilty I feel when people think I am no fun) Just because she doesn't want you there, does NOT mean you don't deserve to have fun once in a while.
She may also just feel confused. I know I did, with both parents having chronic pain, plus my mom being very distant...she may feel like she's not good enough, like she can't be there for you when you're hurting. She might truly believe it's her fault if you have fun but then hurt worse afterwards.
Definitely try talking it out, I can't say for sure what's happening, but there could be more going on. Good luck, and I hope you can get some much needed support from your daughter! ❤😷👣

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