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Chemical sensitivity rant

Mar 11, 2017 10:46 AM

My brother and his wife are having their first baby soon. I missed the "gender reveal party" because of a run in with someone's lotion at work the day before the party and was to ill to attend. Today is the baby shower.
I've been low intensity sick for a while now. Increased fatigue, sore throat, loss of appetite. Starting to get better, actually wanted food yesterday.
So I texted my brother this morning and told him that we've been low intensity sick and i don't want to pass it on but i want to be a good sister and go and asked for his opinion.
His response was that if he was being 100% honest they never expected me to go, they invited me so i wouldn't feel neglected or left out. He said there will be 30+ people there, none of which were asked to be scent free. He told me to do what I felt was best for my health, the low intensity illness wouldn't be a problem. He's been working 16+ hours days since the 1st and I think he's gotten 1 day off so he might be sick too.
I hate that this illness has made it so that i can't be a good sister. I hate that im trapped in my house with everything closed up. I hate that i have to miss out on everything because when i leave the house i get sick.
And the 3rd party company that is reviewing my medical and determining if im fit to work, if the company has to find a different job, or if i should go on disability said they'd contact me with their decision on Friday.... that was yesterday and i still haven't heard anything. Work has me scheduled to go back April 1st working by myself after being off for 2 months when several things have changed. I'm not going to know what I'm doing. If things haven't been figured out by then they'll have to get someone to cover it, no notice overtime. I can't leave the house without getting sick, i really hope the 3rd party company says i need a work at home position. I doubt they will though.

Mar 11, 2017 12:54 PM

I am so sorry! Would it be possible for you to go early before others come and wear a mask 😷 so they don't get sick? You could go after the party bu I know how smells linger (they trigger my asthma and migraines too!). I know it wouldn't be quite the same but al least you could enjoy watching them open their present from you. And you could ask your brother to video it on his phone to send to you. Just remember that the best part is after the baby is born anyway. Being an auntie is always special. I have 2 grown nieces and 2 nephews who love and visit me despite the fact I have missed out on parties and birthdays. Heal up so you can hold that precious gift!

Mar 11, 2017 4:18 PM

Why do we feel bad for the other people in our lives?
Why can't people around us be more supportive? I've turned down parties, gatherings, dinner. I've missed more then my share.
Isn't that enough?
No one misses it more then I DO!

Family members do not go out if their way to visit . Yet, I make the effort when I'm well . Mind you it takes its toll on me bc of the amount of energy needed for the drive, visit, no nap.

I don't get it!

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