Just wanted to start a thread so we can all comment on how out Christmas day went. My day was good. I stayed home and most of my family came to me. Stayed in the recliner and ate and visited. Pain was not near as bad as most holidays are. But I also cut down my activities by a lot.. so how was everyone's day?
Merry Christmas to you all, sorry I haven't been able to chat but I am here reading all the chats. My day wasn't so bad I slept in the whole day and my husband and kids decided we go out to eat. It was a challenge but nice am keeping warm and ready to watch the Christmas Story movie
I'm soo happy to hear you had a good day and took things easy and everyone came to you. I over did things yesterday helping my mum in the kitchen and doing the last of the washing up I has to stop because I felt like the ground was coming up to hit me and it felt like my world was turning sideways and i felt very nauseous (I wasn't sure if I was going to be sick because of the spinning and off balance in my ears or because it felt like my dinner was sitting just under my ribcage. I had to take 2 of my prochlorperazine 5mg tablets to help, normally one would be enough but I had been awake most of the night then I was in the kitchen with mum and my sister from about 11:45 am helping prepare everything, we sat for dinner around 5:30pm then I had to stop washing up at about 11pm to take my prochlorperazine plus the rest of my meds as well and go to bed. I can't forget as well opening all our presents as well plus when my youngest sister came before dinner she had brought more presents and we all helped her 3 year old and 7 month old open their presents as well. We all played with them as well as pass the baby around! With all that even when I was sat down I wasn't really resting either don't get me wrong we all had a great day and I did enjoy myself and had a couple of small glasses of champagne with dinner. It was a great day filled with family, love and happiness xx
Christmas was sad for me. Addiction (smoking) trumps health (my chemical sensitivities). It's bad enough he smokes in the house (open area by the stairs in the basement) all the time but knowing how sick it makes me he goes downstairs to have a smoke while I'm in the living roon at the top of the stairs. So of course i say something, to which he responds 'im not feeling very loved'. So i say that im really feeling not loved so it's mutual. Then i told my boyfriend it was time to leave to go to my dad's and i left. (Had my own car there). I also had to beg the boyfriends mom not to open the perfume she was given for christmas. Her response 'I'm not going to spray it'. Because apparently there is no smell when you remove the plastic and take it out of the box. At least in that case she listened and wated until i left to open the plastic. Usually christmas happens in the basement room where he smokes so my refusal to go in the basement moved it upstairs, which everyone questioned. The air purifier helped but not enough. We were supposed to go back for supper but i got dropped off at home after my dad's place and ate some leftovers and showered and went to bed. I'm not going to go back there, and if he comes over smelling like smoke for the boyfriend birthday on Friday I'm going to ask him to not come over any more. They boyfriend response 'he's addicted, what do you want him to do!?'. On the good side, my dad got rid of the air fresheners in his house and his girlfriend didn't wear perfume. So that was a good visit, especially since i was sick from exposure already. But it's boxing day now and the after exposure mental health crisis has started. I hate that it messes with my brain chemistry, i recognize that these feelings of worthlessness and being less than and feeling hated and wanting to end it are from the cigarette smoke exposure. So i will do everything i can to not act on them or lash out but really no one seems to get it. I get told to calm down and stop being so dramatic. Is that gaslighting or am i really being over the top... i don't know. The boyfriend is having a poker game on the 30th and hasnt asked anyone to be scent free yet. I told him he needed to inform people of my illness and get them to at least not wear perfume, cologne, or scented lotion because i am going to send offenders away... i got told to calm down. Anyways, now that I've brought everyone down (sorry)... Merry Christmas
Sezzy , I know the feeling of overdoing and its so very easy to do. I think for me having a open incision helped to remind me to sit my butt down somewhere..lol I hope you are able to lay low and recover today. Even if you don't make the time. You had a very long day. Even with the sitting around I still had to leave the family conversation about 4pm because I was falling asleep. Thankfully we don't have any small children in our household so we all could sleep in a bit. I'm so glad that you could enjoy most of your day.
Gotobef, I'm glad to hear that at least some of your family are getting it and chose to respect your sensitivities when you came to visit.
Thank you newfibrogirl I've paid for it today so I think I'd better learn not to push myself, usually I'm pretty good at knowing when my limit is when I should rest but Christmas day I didn't have much time to think let alone rest! Next time I'll have to make sure I rest up lots x
Gotobef some people are taking your sensitivities seriously but at the same time not, unfortunately them not walking in your shoes feeling how you feel they won't understand. I know those feelings well and you know it's the exposure that has brought them on so you're one step ahead there and as long as you remember that and not act on them you can get thro this. It is your home as well and if people come into your home smelling of anything, it is your right to refuse them, you don't want/need to be exposed to things that will make you worse 😢😕😳
I hope the next week brings you both lots of love and happiness xx