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Concerned about being self-absorbed

Mar 13, 2016 9:17 AM

I started using CatchMyPain a week ago, but skipped several days. It just seems to me that if I stop to focus on my pain, it is harder to work through it and keep going. I'm not at all sure it is the best thing for me to be coloring on a little figure when I have some many more positive things to take up my time.
However, it's good to see where the pain goes... and how it ebbs and flows. I almost wish I could tie it in with My Health dashboard to see how activity levels coincide with relief (or not).
I have dealt with pain for over 30 years (I am 60, now - divorced in 2009 after a 31 year marriage) and was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in November 2015. Prior to that (over the course of 15 years) I was told I was depressed, overweight and needed to exercise and diabetic. My doctor changed the Zoloft I'd been on for 15 years to Cymbalta and it has helped with the depression quite a bit and some with the pain. I didn't expect a flare up (now that I know what they are called) but just came back from 2 weeks of hell with one of those. I am going to ask about some medication for pain other than the Meloxicam, which doesn't upset my stomach as much as ibuprofen, but neither helps me with severe pain at all.
I just don't know whether I am going to put any pain colors on my little person figure unless it is bad enough to set me down to do it. Otherwise I'd be coloring all day long. LOL. I have to laugh, of course, or I WILL have to start coloring.
Thank you for listening to my rambling and for being here in a forum format. I'm glad I downloaded CatchMyPain, I just don't want to abuse it!

Mar 13, 2016 9:38 AM

GrandmaD, I had been looking for a support group for sometime. My desire was to interact with people who truly understood where I was. I was unsuccessful in finding a group in my area then I stumbled upon this app with this forum. It has fulfilled my need for support from those who understand. I color my little person in who that I will be able to track a pattern of improvement one day soon. As well as a result of illness and all the medication I take I have memory fog and can not accurately report my pain days to my doctor because I can't always remember them. Having my little person colored in helps me with that. I usually only color my person once a day. I am also trying to track headaches which have seemed to gotten ahold of me...at least the last few days. I am amazed at the people here such as yourself who have dealt with pain and diseases for decades. I am a fairly new suffer. I can not imagine being like this for 10 , 20, 30 years. Years ago I probably couldn't imagine having pain for 1 , 2 , 3 years... But guess what? I have. I hope you will stay and share. Whether you color or not. Know it or not I am sure you have a word of encouragement, or advice for someone on here. So speak freely and from your heart ...so many of us are open to receive what you have been given to say! Blessings!

Mar 13, 2016 10:43 AM

GrandmaD, Welcome to the group! Color how it helps you to color! If once a week helps you keep track, color once a week. I personally only color when I have a drastic change in my pain. I can go days or even weeks between changing my pain picture. I'm here mostly for the support I've found in the community.

Mar 13, 2016 10:45 AM

Thanks, ScaryAnn. I always seem to get all wound up in trying to do things the "right" way! LOL. You'd think by now, I'd have figured out, we do things the best right way we possibly can -- and anybody who judges us, simply doesn't understand.
I can see I'm not alone, and that is a HUGE relief. Thanks!

Mar 13, 2016 11:09 AM

MySistersKeeper, thank you so much for your response! I had been told most of my life that complaining doesn't do any good and that there are people with worse pain than I could ever experience. I never really realized that my pain level was so skewed until after I'd had 3 C-Sections, my Gall Bladder and my Appendix removed. Those surgeries were mere discomfort compared to the back pain and leg pain I had experienced. I thought childbirth labor was gas! LOL! Sorry to laugh, but ... well, you know, it's laugh or cry and I'd rather laugh.
Now that I have realized "Yes, I AM in bad pain!" I still keep in mind that there are others hurting even more and it helps me to think of them and pray for their relief. I'm not "religious" but I have faith. Does that make sense? "This too, shall pass" gets me through a lot of bad times.
I've read many of the posts and am impressed with this very caring community.
Thanks for the welcome!

Mar 13, 2016 2:29 PM

GrandmaD - you make complete sense to me! I am really sorry that you haven't had the kind of support, we all need and crave. The good news is, we have it here!

Mar 13, 2016 3:57 PM

Our pain and personalities can make us quite suspectible to being a bit self absorbed, self focused, etc...when all I do is focus on how bad I feel, I take away all the extra energy I have to give love , support, concern for other human beings...Welcome to our group ,Grandma,Say what I will focus on you and your needs, and you can focus on me..that way we can be the selfless,Loving, strong, caring women that God designed us to be...feel free to call me or text ...I need to love others and share in order to get thru my stuff.(903-714-1644).. Any pain warrior can call ..love and blessings, Terri

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