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Confronting the healthy

Feb 17, 2017 5:29 PM

So this comes from an incident between me and my god sister. We had a phone conversion where she began to berate me about my eatting and life style. Basically,me staying in a lot and not expecting her invites out. Of course this hurt and pissed me off.
So, she called me today and invited me over so I went. I was telling myself thr while time over thst I have to be nice and calm.
When I get there and walk in her door. She freaks out and snacthed the cane out of my hand as I'm walking with it. I'm like WTH!!! Then she grabs me and started to pray for Me. Now don't get me wrong I have nothing against praying. But her reaction was so over the top. So I sit her down and began to talk to her. She had a hard time with this conversation but I had to get that off my chest. At the end of it all I feel we ended well. I still feel she need to be educated more on chronic pain.but I'm leaving that up to her.

Feb 17, 2017 8:01 PM

Good job not freaking out. If it was me I probably would have lost it.
It's baby steps now, you've sent her in the right direction now though

Feb 17, 2017 9:58 PM

I probably would have got with the cane lol. Congrats on keeping your cool!

Feb 17, 2017 10:00 PM

*hit her. Maybe there's a reason why the autocorrect got me in that one 😊

Feb 17, 2017 10:03 PM

Honestly, I'm surprised I didn't loss it either. I think I was mostly shocked thst she did that.

Feb 18, 2017 1:51 AM

Wow Newfibrogirl girl, I would have lost it a bit when she snatched the cane or I would have fell over because my balance is soo bad.
Her reaction was soo extreme and to be honest I wouldn't of had a clue as to what to do or say about it. It's one thing to pray for you in their normal daily prayers and church prayers but to actually snatch your cane and to start praying for you while still at the door is over the top.
Hopefully she will try to understand how much of a struggle it is for you being in soo much chronic and that she'll start to research and realise even a little bit that it's not easy.
Would it be worth sending her the links for the spoon theory or the letter to normals? They might help even a little bit?

Well done you for playing it soo cool x

Feb 18, 2017 8:48 AM

Sezzy, I did stumble a bit but thankfully there was a wall near by. But she grabbed me so fast she is what kept me from falling over. She has always been a bit extra it down way deep she is a good person.
I actually thought about asking her to please do some reason chronic pain but im not sure how or if she will do it. But I might still send an article or two.

Feb 19, 2017 1:05 AM

I hope she now realises that you do need the cane and she won't try to snatch it from you again.
Hopefully with you talking to her it will help her to start to realise how everything you've been thro is a big deal and you need more time as your is still settling down and that suffering from fibro means you will always have dome pain at varying degrees

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