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Coping with going to a hairdressers/salon

Mar 15, 2018 8:42 AM

Hello, I try and get my hair done every 6wks if I can manage it. On a good day, I just about manage with the whole experience of going to a hairdressers, the travelling, the social interaction while in the salon but I struggle hugely with the actual haircut/brushing/combing/colouring etc. With Fibro, I find my head and hair feel extremely sensitive. Brushing it can often be a nightmare and I’ve been in tears many times but I try to work through the pain/sensitivity because I don’t want to look like I’ve been dragged through a bush several times. If the hairdresser is very gentle, I can sometimes finding it soothing but most of the time, I feel like I’m being tortured! Some trainee stylist are ever so gentle when washing which I can just about manage but some even though they are gentle, can feel like my hairs being ripped violently from my scalp. I know that sounds like an over exaggeration but I can’t describe it any other way. Does anyone else experience this and how do you manage it? I used to have really short pixie crop hair but now I have long hair because I couldn’t handle getting my hair cut so regularly. A couple of hours in the salon can feel like an eternity! I have friends who love nothing more than getting their hair done, the who salon experience. Whereas I find it can be quite traumatic time. I am autistic which does cause me sensory issues such as heightened senses but the fibro is heightening things to the extreme. I’d love to hear other people’s input and how they cope with those visits etc. Thanks in advance!🦋

Mar 15, 2018 8:55 AM

I wash hair before I go trying to get there when still wet. I have short hair. I just can't deal with it being long. I don't get there as often as I should because I don't have the money. My hair grows really fast and is gray. Some hairdressers can be rough. If you go to same person every time I would gently tell her what you do like and what you don't. If you feel comfortable tell her why. That way she knows and might be a little gentler. I finally found one I like after several years with not the best haircuts. This last one did exactly what I wanted. Good luck.

Mar 15, 2018 9:14 AM

Hi Lilibet, thank you for posting this, I have the same problem. Before my symptoms started I was trying to grow my hair long for charity - The Princess Trust - so I could donate it so a little girl with cancer could have a long hair wig. Now I'm stuck with extremely long hair which is soooo painful to brush - my husband has to help me and 9/10 I end up in tears. I'm terrified to get it cut because most of my pain is centered on my upper back, shoulders and neck - right where my stylist would be lying me down to wash my hair and to cut it. The thought terrifies me! But I feel like I have let the charity down - I still have all the consent and fundraising forms at home. I am going to try all the recommendations here and talk to my stylist about my condition see if that helps settle my fears. Thanks again! 🌈 Good luck Hayley x

Mar 15, 2018 5:12 PM

Hello Lilibet, yeah I know that feeling, I have Autism and find having my hair cut hurts after the fact (after it’s been cut, and I touch my head it hurts).

Mar 17, 2018 11:22 PM

I have allways had my hair long but within the last year it has been so difficult to maintain. Brushing is the worst and leaves me in tears. I found that I was spending more and more time with it in a messy bun just so I could avoid brushing it. This of course led to problems when I would decide to brush it. Just 2 weeks ago I had finaly had enough and grabbed a pair of scissors and chopped my hair to my shoulders from lower back length on my own. It was rough but when I was done i felt so much better. It's not perfect straight. I made it choppy Intentionaly so that it doesn't look like I cut my own hair. Maybe if you feel brave enough you can try to trim it down on your own. Have a back up plan though. Do it a day you feel half way good and can manage a quick trip to get a hair cut just in case.

Mar 18, 2018 7:59 PM

What about hair oils or serums? That might help ya!

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