I'am so sick of them both at this time ,all their do is fight verbally ! No. Stop and I get it from both side , again I've been in tear tonight over this , his not the most Careing father ,his don't do much with her ,I guess in her 14 years I can count the times his taken her out on one hand ,it's the same taken her to school getting up. With her , again on. One hand ! ,and now I've had it ! If I go their have to sort it out !
I have the constant bickering between dad and 17 year old daughter too, so really do feel your pain. He doesn't stop moaning at her (which frankly wears me down too) and she ends up snapping at him in retaliation (which although is disrespectful, I quite understand). I try to tell him to use negative comments frugally so that they are effective, rather than constantly. She's not a bad kid; untidy room, dirty cups stored up as scientific experiments, sleeping in till midday etc - the usual teenage jazz. I have tried to explain that she could be worse.... Smoking, drinking, hanging around with the wrong crowd, stealing, being violent. Instead she has a new boyfriend who is a regular church goer, so she now attends church regularly, is learning to drive, hands in college coursework on time - but does forget to put her dirty breakfast/lunch/dinner things in the dishwasher! I get exasperated with being between this bitching between the two, but I'm afraid I'm with my daughter as I think he's unreasonable and needs to use more carrot and less stick - metaphorically speaking of course!