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Sep 18, 2015 9:06 PM

I know what everyone's going to say "you're always denied the first time, just appeal." I was told that the whole time I was filling out all the forms and answering their questions. I tried not get my hopes up, but of course I did bc all I could think was how much easier it would be on my husband and I just to have a couple hundred dollars a month. I thought, with that I could actually do more to take care of myself- eat the expensive healthier foods, maybe get physical therapy. I thought we could use it to help pay off our credit card debt.

The worst thought I have right now is, "what if they're right? What if I'm being a baby and it's not as bad as I think it is?...what if it really is all in my head?" That's what's bringing me to tears. It's basically my word against theirs. They can't see it, or test it, or watch me cry myself through the nights. How could I possibly prove to them that anything is wrong?

This week's been so hard. My husband had to work 52 hrs, I was running back and forth between my mom's (to take care of her during treatment for her cancer) and my house (30 mins away), I had some kind of intestinal problem, I broke out in hives... and now this. I just can't stop crying. My husband is wonderful and keeps reassuring me that I'm not a burden, that he'll take care of me no matter what. I don't feel like I deserve...anything. I just wish I knew how to fix it. Fix me. Fix this system. I don't know. I can barely type through the tears, so, there we are.

I will appeal, I just don't even know if it'll do any good. Night, folks.

Sep 18, 2015 9:29 PM

Appeal and keep fighting. Do not give up. If you give up they win. I have been denied 3 times and my fight has gone on over two years. I had to leave a career that I deeply loved. I meet the criteria that the government made up. You can look up what meets the criteria on the social security website. I hate to say think of it as a game because it is OUR lives but to them it seems to be a game, so play to win. Appeal. There are too many people that seem to have ruined it for those of us that need it. Appeal.

Sep 18, 2015 9:45 PM

What kind of system is it when everyone knows the first time one applies denial is assured?
An insane out of control one.
Yes, fight. Get legal aid too.

Sep 18, 2015 10:36 PM

I completely understand how you feel about getting denied. I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I have gotten denied twice and the reasons was because there wasn't enough evidence and my age, which I don't understand why my age has to do with my medical condition. If I could work and not have pain I would take it in a heartbeat. I didn't want to keep going through all these denials so I obtained a lawyer. I wish you the best of luck with social security. Don't give up.

Sep 19, 2015 6:13 AM

Kittypain, I am so sorry that you were denied your disability benefits. It is a crushing blow when you are trying to survive and take care of yourself and your family. I've been on disability since 2003 and I was told that I was going to be declined the first time and would have to appeal and still may not get my benefits. Well, I was extremely lucky (or just that messed up) because before I even left the building, they told me that I was approved and that I would receive my award letter within 10 business days. It breaks my heart when I read all of the folks on here that have been denied several times, have been to court with medical records and lawyers and STILL get turned down. It's not fair!!! I want to tell you first, you are NOT a baby and what you are going through is NOT in your brad and IS as bad as you say it is. Don't give up!!! You have worked and paid into the system and now that you need it, they need to take care of your needs. I pray that you are able to get the benefits you're seeking and that it takes a burden off of you and your husband. I wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my prayers. 🙏🏻🌻

Sep 19, 2015 9:37 AM

Does anyone have any suggestions for resources on being successful with our disability claims? Knowledgeable attorneys in Colorado?

Sep 19, 2015 2:02 PM

Kitty, what area of PA? I'm in Delaware and probably the closest person to you.

Sep 19, 2015 2:03 PM

Western PA. about 40 mins north of Pittsburgh

Sep 19, 2015 2:05 PM

Alright, will see what I can find. Might take me a little bit of work and time. Will post back tomorrow morning.

Sep 19, 2015 2:07 PM

Aww, Amanda, that's really sweet of you! I do have two people in my life who have been through this before (one being my mother). So I'll be talking to them about what lawyers they used. I'm just letting the weekend pass.

Sep 19, 2015 4:48 PM

Don't give up we are in the same boat load. It is hard. We have lost everything we worked for and have held on to 1 vehicle barely. For a time we were homeless and I broke down fast and hard that our situation was completely my fault. That I am dragging my husband and son to hell and back with me. Every week having more bad health news and ssi and my retirement system denying me. Some people have told me they want to make sure you are serious I think thier motto is deny deny deny and you will give up. I was sent to one of "their doctors" and they didn't ask anything I could barely walk into the appointment and could not sit. Put it in an attorneys hands and let them deal with all of it focus on your health. Keep going to doctors getting everything documented, get tests that help prove your case. If your dr isn't doing tests and helping find another it is to your benefit. I am at the apply for a hearing my attorney thinks with all my new test results and diagnoses the judge will review my case and new information which in his opinion will get my disability approved. Time since filed 1 year. Attorneys estimate of time to hearing 8 to 14 months.

Sep 19, 2015 5:18 PM

Shammagren, I'm SO sorry to hear all you're going thru. I know it's not a competition, but I feel like I have nothing to complain about compared to you. I won't give up, I promise, everyone.

Sep 19, 2015 8:10 PM

Kitti, if you need me, just let me know. More then willing to help.

Sep 19, 2015 8:11 PM

I have my second hearing on Tuesday. I am in thdme same boat as you. I meet all the criteria that the government set up, and also my rheumatologist wrote a 6 page report about my limitations. Don't give up, and dont think its in your head. I have dealt with those same feelings before. Just kerp fighting! !

Sep 19, 2015 8:33 PM

I've been through this I fight for my disability with no attorney before the administrative law judge for SSI. Get depositions from your husband for hardship and I'm sure intimacy. Have friends and family that know you say how it is changed your life. And see if they'll write it down and take it and have it notarized. I do advise a lawyer the judge advised me 3 times that I was entitled to representation. I told him my medical records say it all if you will truly read them you will agree. I was turned down twice then I got mad. I wasn't about to give 33 and a third percent to a lawyer I don't advise you do it that way but I did. It really helps to have it documented on the hardship on the family your life and your friends. I wish you the best don't give up I pray that you get your disability.

Sep 19, 2015 8:36 PM

I should say by deposition is just a letter wrote up by your husband family friends on how it's changed your life. I truly hope that everything works out.

Sep 19, 2015 8:39 PM

I should also say I did win and got it activated. Stay strong you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Sep 19, 2015 8:57 PM

kittypain, I have been fighting for over 5 years. My doctor said I could not work; social security says differently. I am not giving up; sure my 5 years of back pay is gone, because I have to start all over. But, I know how I feel and what I can and cannot do; so do my doctors. It would have been nice to had all that backpay, but I just want to be independent and live on my own. Find new ways to deal with all the pain. Don't give up, you worked for what you are applying for. I will pray for your case.

Sep 19, 2015 10:11 PM

Kittypain, many of us are still fighting because of denial. I'm meeting with my Atty soon for when my case court date is set. I'm faithfully believing I will at some point be approved. It's just a battle of wild. They want us to give up and quit, but I refuse to. Don't you give up either. Just get a good disability lawyer. 🙏🌼

Sep 19, 2015 10:22 PM

I started with a well respected disability attorney and was still denied 3 times. It seems to just be the name of the game. I think the system hopes we die before they approve anyone. The statistics are very low on approvals, it makes you wonder. Keep fighting.

Sep 20, 2015 1:17 AM

How in the heck do people lie and get disability? I figure paying the attorney helps some stress having to deal directly with ssi and allows me to focus on my health. Besides what does all the back pay matter once you have lost everything and hit bottom it doesn't change what ssi does to you, doesn't make it better.

Sep 20, 2015 1:49 AM

Let's also keep in mind that there are two different things that Americans can apply for- SSI and/or SSD. Not everyone applies for both but I think many interchange the terms often. They are not the same.

Sep 20, 2015 6:08 AM

LMD I noticed I made a mistake and said SSI instead of SSD. I do know the difference and the quote is often miss spoken as I apparently did.

Sep 20, 2015 7:46 AM

My attorneys applied for both in my case, SSI & SSD. I don't understand when doctors say you cannot work but the government says you can.
If I had won my last attempt at my first try; Social Security would have owed me over $60,000. The government doesn't want to pay us anything let alone a big chunk of money. But, I want to be independent and find better ways to cope with my medical issues. I will fight social security until they realize I am not going away.

Sep 20, 2015 8:07 AM

Sue that's where I messed up by not having an attorney. I did not receive my back pay three years worth. When I won my case SSD they gave me the cost of living increase on that money over the three years. But didn't give me the back pay just the cost of living on the back pay. I called and contacted them they pretty much told me they were going to give me the back pay. I wasn't about to fight them over that because they have the power to take it away and they know it. My cousin who had an attorney she got the cost of living and the back pay she has MS. I think that's the only way you can get the back pay is by having a lawyer. Keep up the fight Never Surrender & Never Give Up.

Sep 20, 2015 8:41 AM

My attorney says when I get mine I will get back pay plus back pay for my son. My attorney applied for both ssi and ssdi I was like great on the one I paid into but the other, to me, feels like social security welfare. Amazing they think we are fighting to be poverty level. I would rather get better and be able to work. I wasn't rich, I wasn't poor but I was dang comfortable. Just some food for thought here was myself talk on getting an attorney: if I lose I start back at zero if I hire an attorney social security has limits on how much they can charge and bottom line part of something is better than the part of nothing I currently have plus they can probably get more than I could have on my own. They are emmotionally unatrached so they can see my case in a better perspective. Funny but I would have been happy on my 2nd round review with just getting a monthly income. And finally with my anxiety, depression, ptsd and so on it was a huge mental relief. Now I don't think about it because it is in good hands. It is so great to be able to discuss this in a forum where people get it and understand. My family gets the financial ruin but they don't understand what a degrading process this is. If I could draw I would make an image that describes this process in my opinion. It would have a huge store called disability and it would show all of us in what ever position we find comfortable with tin cans out for money. Some with signs like "I am not sick on the outside" "you could be next" "unable to work for food"

Sep 21, 2015 11:15 AM

Im right there was denied and told I'm a frud and now was told by a ssi lawyer that it is almost impossible to get approved

Sep 21, 2015 11:39 AM

Nanacindy did lawyer tell you it's a long process or impossible all together? If it is the impossible you need to talk to a different lawyer. Mine told me straight up fibromyalgia will have to go before Judge before I will get it.

Sep 21, 2015 11:42 AM

Yes the lawyer said because the attend general said I was a frud that it is almost impossible to get approved now

Sep 21, 2015 11:53 AM

Fire that Doctor! Keep going with same claim and start getting to a new doctor, specialists whatever. Fire your attorney if he didn't tell you that. Sometimes you just have to be the squeaky wheel at Dr office to get where you need to be. I swear I am going to write a book on firing doctors/employees who are not working for the patient/employer.

Please do not give up even though you have had doors slammed in your face.

Sep 21, 2015 12:11 PM

Not my new set of Dr they are very good just the lawyer I had just don't know where to go or what to do I will be losing my med ins at end of the month and my husband lost his job in April only 495 a weeek in unemployment but say we make to much money so I'm really having a hard time to much stress hurt really bad just want to cry and end it all only thing that keeps me going is my Lil granddaughter

Sep 21, 2015 1:17 PM

Nanacindy hang in it is a tough road and a good disability attorney can take that burden off. We also fall in a your broke rear ain't broke enough yet for help. I have shared my story from comfortable to homeless on here. Some suggestions I am not sure where you are located but where I am there is a place called hopelink. I have an advocate caseworker who visits me at home. Her job is to help link me up with what I need. I don't know how I would manage without them. They have work programs that have gave my husband leads in jobs, leads to low rate rental units the list is endless. Don't wait like I did to find resources get a team before it gets really bad.

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