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Jan 23, 2016 11:41 PM

Does anyone have any helpful tips on how to get out of a bad depression? I'm on antidepressants but they haven't really helped since my last surgery. I had to have 2 surgeries this year to correct a fusion that didn't fuse. I almost died during the 1st surgery so I've been healing since May. Unfortunately, I don't feel any better - in fact I have more pain now. I've been sleeping all day & night. I'm exhausted most of the time & now I'm having periods where I cry uncontrollably. I really want out of this misery but am having a hard time getting out of this. To be clear - I am too afraid of death to kill myself so that is not a concern.

Jan 24, 2016 1:00 AM

Hi Catlady, I'm sorry about your depression and the failed back surgery. I hope you have some kind of pain management program. Antidepressants dont work well when there is an obvious reason for depression like pain. Your situation is very specific so its difficult to say what could be of help. A trial and error stragy is important, as is acceptance. Do you have support, did you try counseling?
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Jan 24, 2016 1:33 AM

Good morning Catlady. I am sorry to hear about your depression. I can understand the feeling especially when feeling hopeless and constantly in pain. I am in a similar situation. Talking about it helps. Finding a support group nearby may help you, perhaps 1 on 1 counseling? If it's impacting your relationship you could include your partner. Best option would be to ask those who are closest what they think might be best. They will be the ones who will want to help you more than anyone.

Jan 24, 2016 6:57 AM

I've been dealing with depression too over the past couple years and what helps me the most is talking to friends about it. I've tried counseling with psychologists several times but I rarely get anything from them that I don't already get from family and the Internet. Do what you think is right to get yourself feeling less depressed, not just what others say to do. You are the only one that has to feel your pain and go through what you're dealing with. Doing things with children really helps me be positive because kids are usually so innocent and caring. I know you can do this Catlady!

Jan 24, 2016 11:43 AM

Depression is diffifult and challenging on a personal level to defeat.

B-12 along with B-complex injections once a week for about 6 weeks helped me alot.

Jan 24, 2016 12:54 PM

I can relate! Your depressed because your in so much pain. I dont get much sleep because im in so much pain. Ive lost my job, twice. Last december 2014 i was dragginv my left leg for over a month. My back has severe nerve imping 2 herniated discs among other things. I have been told to walk..i got a walker in aug. Wat makes me depressed is the anger. I feel like a guini pig..like how much more do i have to indure. Ive been on every anti dep ..are you on neurotin? If so google it!! Thats all they will give me. In the past ive been on mscontim 15mgx3 a day. My pain pa will not help me and says its fibro pain!!! I just went to a new pcp and she diagnosed me w a depressive disorder!-omg really? Im depressed because im on a great deal of pain. As i contiplated taking my own life several times ..i googled the suicide rate for my state. Oregon is #2 the county i live in is 32% nation wide...i wonder how many people have died because they cant get treated for their pain. I have been red flagged..i keep askinh why. Ive never have abused my meds..ive never sold them..ive never have asked a provider for meds ..as i am writing this im very tearful...i feel that the untreatment for the pai. Is i humane! I am a very soft spoken person..i told my bf no more! I hooe you well..you need help for your pain!!!

Jan 24, 2016 1:33 PM

I'm on 200mg of Zoloft a day. Seems to help me but I was diagnosed with depression long before the pain set in. I hope that you are able to find a solution for your depression or that a good psychologist may be able to help you better cope with it. Sending you {{{Hugs}}} and prayers that you get some sleep and relief from your depression.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Jan 24, 2016 1:44 PM

Hi always! I guess i didnt relate the whole issue. I just completed a year nd a half of counselling. I had the best. She would go w meto my dr appts. We moved and we are about a hr away and i have to start all over...wat im trying to convey is the mri shows how bad my back is. Ive been told by a ortho surg "why do you have so much arthritis?" My response was i dont know. It has been a comedy of errors. I have a very supportive partner and hes going to go w me to a neurosurg. Wat im really trying to say pain isvery depressing. Its not the depression before the pain , i also was dx w ptsd. What works for me is journalling. And try to stop obbessing over my medical treatment. I had one p.t. evaul last march. No dr will refer me back. Do you do fb? I started a group called "faces of pain in central or" i post articles that are helpful ..i also belong to the national pain institute...ive written to the or health authority. I get help from things like this app...i wish you well! Do you use lidoderm patches?

Jan 24, 2016 1:51 PM

Oops im still new here..sorry. cat lady and always hello
.ty for your posts. I dont feel so alone..

Jan 24, 2016 1:53 PM

I appreciate the update of your situation. You're right, it seems to have been a comedy of errors. I'm sorry that you are going through all you are. Yes, I do fb and will check out your group. I have used lidoderm patches but they don't do much for me. I'm glad that you do get help from this community. We're a tight knit bunch and we are always ready to help each other. I wish you the best as well!! {{{{Hugs}}}}πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Jan 24, 2016 2:40 PM

Thank you so much always!! Hugs back β™₯

Jan 24, 2016 6:29 PM

Aww sending u big hugs I've also been in at bad depression stage, the best thing for me was my gp changed my meds, I also made 1 challenge for myself that day weather it was having a bath/shower, putting makeup on, going to the corner shop etc anything that seems so simple to do do it. It does make u feel like u have done something then take each day as it comes and make 2 plans for that day and so on. Hope u feel better soon xx

Jan 24, 2016 7:01 PM

Some people cant walk..i wish i could

Jan 24, 2016 8:11 PM

Do you have any pets, even small rodents or fish? They don't make me feel much better, but my dog helps me cope and my ferrets were the sweetest thing to come home to.

Jan 24, 2016 9:43 PM

Yes pets are very helpful ferrit where i or are you?

Jan 25, 2016 7:23 PM

Catlady, I'm so sorry you are in such a deep depression. I've battled it on & off since I was 27, and I'm 54 now. My last episode started after chronic pain issues from 2008 forward. I just started working with a psychologist last year, and I'm on antidepressant & anxiety meds. You should let your doc know your depression is worse because it could be a medication side effect causing the worsening depression. They had me on cymbalta but took me off after 9 mos when my depression suddenly worsened and I began wanting to just die (not suicidal, just wishing for death). I left work in 2010 for what I thought would be recoverable surgery; turned into 5 in 1 procedures with complications. Unfortunately one dx led to another, and so on & so forth, until 6 years later I have 3x the dx heinous pain issues and cannot work. I now use a cane, walker, or electric cart in big stores. It's totally not where I thought I'd be. And like Dr. Fouradoulas said, I had to come to the point of accepting my new life before I could begin to find new ways of coping with my limitations. It's not something that will happen overnight. Everyone has to grieve what we've lost before we can accept it new lives & go forward. To keep my depression from taking over, I'm trying to focus to get organized and intentional every day (like Sammyp), to do something productive in the house. It's helping me not sit and focus on all my medical issues. The fibro fog and memory loss I have is a challenge that I'm trying to work through. My counselor has me developing a calendar with a timeline of the things I want to accomplish. It's not as easy as it sounds, because of my wandering thoughts. I was trying to go it alone for several years but was getting no where. And it was making me more depressed because nothing was getting done and I was feeling like a failure, worthless. The counseling is helping me. But there are days I really struggle still, and that's why I'm so thankful I found this app with all these wonderful supporting people (now friends). I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs!!!

Walksoftly61, I'm sorry you are struggling with depression and chronic pain too. I oppose what I said to Catlady can maybe help you too. You'll be in my thoughts & prayers too. Hugs!! πŸ™‚πŸ™πŸŒΌπŸ’•

Jan 26, 2016 12:10 AM

Dear Catlady, I think it is good for you to share.
I have had depression and anxiety since a child. I have had fluctuations with this. Tried many medications all my life. The depression got really bad 10 years ago. I became catatonic and even tried shock treatments. Didn't change much. I cried for 4 years, couldn't stop. I was suicidal and still am at times. I did go to a support group which helped greatly for a long time. I was surrounded by people who were like me. At that time I could feel normal and not alone. Hospilized when necessary for safety. Sometimes respite leaving my home for 5 days. Now I have come to understand that I have post traumatic stress due to my upbringing. I am 47 and still learning :) So comes all the baggage with mental and physical health, probably due to poor or no coping skills leading to high levels of stress.
My counsellor said can you take a vacation. Example a vacation away from your wanting to die. Hmm I now try to take mini vacations away from this place where I have dug a deep dark hole. She also has me working on visualizations to allow myself to go somewhere else or putting things in a box even if it's for a short time.
Catlady, keep talking and please remember you are not alone. It is the illness that makes us feel this way. The illness is a part of you, but not the whole of you.

Jan 26, 2016 1:28 AM

Beets, that is awesome advi:e. :) I also suffer. It's a daily struggle.

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