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Jun 08, 2015 8:48 AM

I received a letter from SSD board. They've agreed to giving me a hearing but want to do it via video conference. I've never heard of such! How can they get the whole picture without seeing me fully, not just my face and voice? They said I can request a face to face hearing, which I think would be best. Hmmm?

Anyone have thoughts or advice on this? πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jun 08, 2015 9:41 AM

My attorney said the face to face will push back the time and take longer to see a judge. But I agree with you. It is not about us apparently.

Jun 08, 2015 10:55 AM

It's the new face to face lol I liked the old face to face too

Jun 08, 2015 1:03 PM

My attorney said we're going for the real appearance.

Jun 08, 2015 9:29 PM

Thank you both. My attorney's secretary called when she got the email. Even though my letter said a copy went to them they didn't get it. Go figure! She said my atty doesn't like the video conferences, but didn't say why. I don't know how much longer it might delay I it but it should be easier.

Jun 08, 2015 9:53 PM

They probly think video is quicker & easier - for them. I agree that face to face is better if you can do it. I know that it helps your case tremendously. It helped during my 5 year review. My approval was based solely on a meeting with an SSDI agent.

Jun 08, 2015 10:04 PM

Amie - that is exactly what I hear. After many denials most win at the Adj. hearing.

Jun 09, 2015 4:29 AM

I agree Flappsy face to face would be better. I know this is a different type but when my daughter saw the Specialist she saw them through video conference. I didn't like it,but that's how they do things these days. I don't think it's good I'd rather be where than can touch you. I guess we are showing our ages.with this. Lol

Jun 09, 2015 8:10 AM

I was sent for a psych we all and then a physical. The doctor that did the physical said he didn't see why I shouldn't be approved because I had more limitations than many he'd seen before. I was denied twice. So that's how I'm with a lawyer and getting the hearing. They didn't bother to get the records from my doctors, they just went by their exams.

To me, it would save them a lot more if they'd just approve it after getting all the records. They wouldn't have these long drawn out cases they have to pay court fees for or anything. Nor would they be praying bulk lump sums of Barclay. Oh wait, they're making interest on our money and the longer they keep it the more they make! $$$$$$$ πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jun 09, 2015 10:33 AM

They hope we die, go broke or stay drugged and try to work. They are not in it for us. I have started voting issues no longer just voting by party. I take the time to research my city, county government too.

Jun 09, 2015 1:51 PM

I keep reading all your comments. I have been waiting on my appeal process to allow me to see a judge. I was denied February 2014 & it was such a run of the mill type of letter. I filed without a lawyer as I have all my records from the 1st day I was injured. I have CRPS type 2 & I have had 4 hand surgeries in less then 3 years. So when I was denied & their letter stated I was a 34 yr old female (I was 35 when I got the letter) and that I can stand, walk & carry up to 20lbs in my right hand! My right hand is the injured hand. I can't even hold toilet paper in that hand. So I hired a lawyer for the appeals process. It's now been over a year & I am pretty sure I will be called soon. My lawyer thinks I have a good shot as this is a pain case & not a one handed case so to speak... He said that all my records from my dr's show that there is no question that I have CRPS & that the pain is beyond bad. Anyway when I hear people's stories it seems like it takes about 3x's before you get disability. I really hope that this is not the case. I don't know if I could go through this again. I have been out of work since September 2012 when the dr's physically took me out of work. ( I did facials) I didn't have my 1st surgery until 3 months later. Thought I would be back to work within a month. Obviously that never happened. I didn't file for over a year after I was put out of work as I was hoping I would be able to go back. Well after my 3rd surgery I knew I was finished & had been diagnosed with CRPS . Even the case worker told me he had never seen such put together immaculate paperwork & the disability dr's even said I was severely disabled yet I think because of my age & no attorney they denied me. I am hoping that seeing a judge will help me & that I won't have to go through this for another few years...

Jun 09, 2015 7:20 PM

I have to tell you Flappsy, I have never heard of any or this stuff with conferenes all I know is that by the Grace of God, I was granted my disability right there on the spot with no conferences. I think, personally, I would go with the conference first to get my foot further in the door and then during this procedure, make arrangements to have the face to face appeal since you have been waiting for a hearing for way too long. I would definitely check with the attorney why he doesn't like the first idea and wants to wait for the face to face appeal. My fear would be, the more time that goes by, the more opportunities it gives THEM to keep changing the date and putting things off. You are in my prayers, my friend and I really hope that you finally get what you need and desereve. All the best, as always, Flappsy!!!!

Jun 10, 2015 10:48 PM

LMB, I totally agree with you. My brother in law got his approval 6 months before he died of cancer!

024, I'm sorry you've gone through so much. My pelvic surgery in 2010 was suppose to be six month recuperation them back to work. By last year I realized I'd never return to work because the medical problems just keep adding up. I'll add you to my prayer list. Room all I've learned your age is what they are holding over you. Mine is my college degree and I'm 53, still not old enough!

AlwayZ, I'm trusting my lawyers choice. He's the best in this area. Trusting in the Lord too! Thanks & (hugs) to all! πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jun 10, 2015 11:41 PM

Thank you Flappyslady.. I need every prayer I can get. I really need this disability more then you know. As I am sure with everyone else by the time you get awarded it you have run out of your savings.. This system is so messed up. They give it to people who don't really need it & they ruin it for the people like us who do.. I need it in more ways then one... I am blessed that I have a roof over my head because of my parents, with that being said being 36 & living with your parents sucks! Especially having to rely on them for everything & then getting the " oh get over yourself" or " just don't think about it!" " suck it up" I love my family but we fight as hard as we love & I need to get away from them. It's to toxic & with that it causes my flare ups- it's a double edge sword... Winters they are away & I am isolated & in so much pain I need someone at all times ( lucky I have my uncle to take me grocery shopping or get my meds) then when they are home I am happy to not be alone & to get out more, that being said I also want to strangle them. They don't get how your life is ripped from under you in a blink of the eye. No one really does unless you have gone through it. That's why I am happy I found this community where I have read many things & can relate in so many ways & to know that I am not alone helps. Thanks for making reassure myself that I am not nuts.. Also I pray we all get the help we need. We are the voices of what disability was meant for & the abuse of it from others makes the sufferers who need it pay for the screw ups.. System needs to change. It shouldn't be about age. It should be about what it's for: DISABILITY!!!

Jun 11, 2015 12:53 AM

Well put 024 well put

Jun 12, 2015 11:13 PM

My mom has 3 heart problems, a fused spine with degenerate disk disease and 100% nerve damage on her left side of her arm n hand and 50% on her right side of her arm n hand, it took her 3 years with a lawyer to get her disability! She has worked hard all her life to support her family and when she needed it it she was denied 3 times with a lawyer! Good luck on your disability hearing!

Jun 13, 2015 1:18 AM

024, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry that you had to move back home. I guess that you should be happy that you were able to.. I don't know if you read a post a few days ago. There was the man with six children. He can't really work now. He is making himself but he can't do the same thing very long before he has to change things up. But he can't quit. There are no services for him. It would be great if he would be able to move in with someone until he can get his disability. I am not telling you this to make you appreciate your situation. I am just saying some people Have no one else to turn too and I find that really sad. I hate to think of people in chronic pain having to make themselves work. That is just wrong. But what I wanted to say to you is that I am sorry about your situation of having to live at home and not having the empathy and understanding you deserve. Being told to suck it up or get over yourself is just terrible. I don't know how you viewed work but I loved work. If someone told me to suck it up. Actually my family suggested that I didn't do enough to get better. That I wasn't strong willed enough. That I was the weaker one in the family because I didn't fight back harder. I had to tell them finialy that if they believe that then they didn't know me. That I loved working that I worked at least 60 hours a week and I didn't have to work more than thirty. I worked more than anyone in my family and being disabled killed me. Being stuck home was boring and I desperate was looking for something I liked to do. So they really pissed me off and I told them not to call or talk to me for a while. Before my accident I was hyper, always working, never sleeping. At least once a week, I would go without sleep because I just had so much I wanted to do. That one time a week I stayed awake, I would thoroughly clean my house. I did it while everyone was asleep. So suggesting I enjoyed not being able to do the things I use to and that I gave up was one of the most offensive things my family ever said to me. I hope you do not feel it as passionately as I did, but I can understand that it hurts and why you wouldn't want to live there even though it's free. You would rather being taking care of yourself. It will happen soon 024. Don't do the video conference. Make this person look you in the eyes if they are going to deny you. In the end, they are just men. A man or a woman. They feel like we do. I think they like this video conferencing because they can avoid truly getting a good view of the person. They see a small version of them. They don't see you wince when you move your hand or struggle when you walk. But a person at a meeting will. Seeing it will affect him or her. I hope you told them you can't even hold toilet paper with that hand. That may sound funny but hearing something like that would make a man feel for you if he sees you tell him. Because no one would normally say that. So he would reason it has to be true. And he then can imagine that type of pain. I think coming in it from a pain issue is the best way. Sounds like you got a good lawyer. I hope it all Works out for you. I feel like you do. You see people who are drug addicts or acoholics getting disability for that reason. Or people who have a mental illness that keeps from working. I am not saying that some of them is not true. I have just seen a lot of people in that situation, that function doing the things they want to do. It seems like if they can't do the things they don't want to do, medicine should work. I could be judgemental though. But you deserve disability and I hope nothing keeps you from getting it and that you can move out of that house the following weekend. Ha ha. Best wishes to you. I hope you feel as well as you can today.

Jun 13, 2015 4:16 PM

Speaking of those getting it that don't deserve it... What about the two women fighting in Walmart... The one jumped out of a motorized cart, took a jumping leap and kicked the other woman! Then she was beating the heck out of her and enticing her son to hit the other woman too! If she's on disability she needs to lose it.

Jun 13, 2015 7:28 PM

I saw that on TV the other night, I was horrified that not only did she leap off that cart but was urging her young son to hit the other woman while she was hitting her. What a wonderful role model for her son. If she is on Disability she should be taken off if she is able to do all of that she is not disabled.

Jun 13, 2015 8:04 PM

I agree with both of you, I have severe back pain just about everyday! I don't normally mark it on here because I am mom with 3 kids and one of them is special needs and I have a elderly aunt I take care of, never have much time but for kids sporting functions and other kids and aunts and my DR's appointment's. I tried to fight for my disability but I have to go back to work to build the insurance part back up and I have tied that and I came home from work in tears everyday, that I have given up.. I tried it for a month but my body couldn't do it anymore.

Jun 13, 2015 8:17 PM

It's very hard for those who really need it! πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jun 14, 2015 7:39 AM

Sending you all the good, positive and strong mojo and throwing up a few prayers.... Here is to you finally getting some relief from worrying... πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ’πŸ 

Just sent you a pretty fish cuz he is a "happy" fish... Lol. U r in my thoughts

Jun 14, 2015 1:15 PM

Mopar Mom I feel for you, I hurt my back on my job I worked 12 hr shifts at the hospital as a nurses aide. I would come home in so much pain I literally had to climb up the steps on all fours lots of nights. Lol I was so stubborn I forced my self for a year after I hurt my back to work like that. It wasn't worth it now that I look back. Don't give up on getting your disability, get you a good Lawyer talk to your Dr about helping you get on it. Make sure you get all of your medical records from x rays, mri's, physical therapy, every Dr you have seen over from when you hurt your back until you went back to work and while you tried to work especially then, to make sure everything is documented. If you have been in the hospital talk with a social worker and see if they can help you lots of times they can. It took me 4 yrs to get mine and that's with a lawyer. My husband got his with his Dr and lawyer in 18 months after he filed. You can never tell just don't give up. You know the old adage the squeaky wheel gets the grease.

Jun 14, 2015 3:07 PM

Thank You Weezie12, I will have a lot of calls to make. I have seen a chiropractor done physical therapy and had an MRI done and done the steroid injections to having the rdf done every 6 months. I have some pinched nerves and I also have several bulging or herniated disc's.

Jun 16, 2015 1:22 PM

I pray that everyone who needs it gets it. We already suffer each minute of everyday physically as well as it takes a toll mentally. Yet we still try to work or whatever, but disability doesn't see that. I am still waiting to see a judge. Just glad I kept all my records, even receipts from visits as well as all my MRI's & have all my surgical reports 4 in less then 2 1/2 years & injured for over 3 years. I went back to work as I loved what I did, however going back prior to surgery messed me up worse & came home in tears everyday from the pain. That being said I would give my life to be able to do my career again or any for that matter. It's much better then feeling like a 36 yr old loser who can't work at all.! I see dr's at least 2x's a week as well as in pain so bad that days like today I can't move... Yes I am very fortunate that I have my family to give me a roof over my head & to help me out. Drive me around etc.. It sucks that I can't be independent any longer or that I have to throw my pride out the window & take the help offered. I know that my lawyer said that every dr including disability dr all agree & have no doubt that I have CRPS & major pain. I have been hospitalized for the pain & severe dehydration from pain.and had initially caused extreme weight loss (15lbs in 3 weeks, I was already only 100lbs) I gained some back since however & I also have heart rates & bloodpressure that is unstable. Every time I see a dr it's different. Always low pressure & higher heart rate. I can't even fly because of the barometric pressure. Again I pray I don't have to go through this again & get disability this time. Like I said before, I have all the documents & applied with no lawyer got denied & now on the appeals process hired a lawyer.. It's been 14 months since we filed the appeals. I don't think I have the energy to go through this over & over as I am sure you all feel the same...

Jun 16, 2015 8:30 PM

024, don't get discouraged. My lawyer said it could take 48+ months for finalization and approval. πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jun 16, 2015 8:46 PM

Flappyslady!! I hope not... I don't think I can mentally or physically handle much more. Sometimes I feel like just giving up. My lawyer thinks I will get called for a hearing within the next month or 2 fingers crossed I get it then. I am like a little kid every day when the mail comes if I feel good enough I am the 1st one to get it, otherwise I wait for my parents to bring up my. Mail however every day I am like " is it here. Did it come?" Etc.. You only get 20 days notice before your hearing.

Jun 16, 2015 8:59 PM

I agree it's emotionally trying, the waiting. But I have faith it will happen at just the right time, for each of us. I've heard that those who give up usually do end up denied. A woman I know gave up waiting and took a job part time. She physically suffered by doing so. When he trial finally came up the judge said since she's gone to work twenty hours she could increase her hours until she was working 30-40 hours, even if it meant working two jobs. Stay patient and believe! πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jun 16, 2015 9:10 PM

Thanks Flappyslady. The only thing I can say is I have no choice but to wait as I can not work at all. Like I have said before I am blessed to have a roof over my head & a family that can help me while I wait. I have been out of work since September 2012 & it sucks losing all your money however I think if I didn't have my family to help me I would be on the streets or not here today. So either way I have no choice but to wait it out. I am just hoping that I get it this time just to have a little bit more independence. Or the option to move to a warmer climate.

Jun 17, 2015 1:53 AM

I did my hearing via the web and it was great as if you were face to face. But you got to do what's best for you. ;+)

Jun 17, 2015 1:35 PM

I read these posts about what's going on with all of you folks having to actually "battle" to attain something that you have worked hard all your life paying out of your pocket to the government and they keep taking that money and it is specifically for the possibility of you not physically or mentally being able to continue to work until you're 65 or older. Then, when it happens, you have all of your medical records, your team of doctors writing up letters on your behalf explaining that you're not going to get better and that you need to stop working. Then the battle begins, denials, hearings, more denials, trying to survive because you can't work and have money coming in, the time keeps passing and you keep being told no. I find it very sad that folks that just CANT work any
More and are scared about how they will live and for how long before you lose everything. My heart aches for each and every one of you going through this. You are in my prayers. Try to stay strong, keep coming here and talking to people who understand what you're living with. At least you can find some solice in knowing that you are never, ever alone. We're all here to help and support each other. Hang in there,
You're in my prayers... I hope that everyone has a peaceful and less painful and distressed day.

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