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Do you believe in fate

Aug 13, 2017 7:52 PM

Do you ever feel not in control of your life? I have a lot lately. Feel like I fell in love and married someone I may have settled for. My life started spiralling out of control 35 years ago I think when my family moved to Toronto and now it is so far off from the dreams of that little girl. Wish I could gain control back. I guess I feel so far off from who I thought I should be not sure I can gain that back. Then I see the world spiraling off orbit and living in so much hate and pain maybe it's the world off kilter. Only time I feel hapoy is at Church working with kids or when I live in my fantasy world in my head.

Aug 13, 2017 8:07 PM

Hi I'm not religious and I don't believe in fate, I totally understand how your feeling when your chronicly ill it's hard to feel in control maybe you could speak to some people at your church or spend more time there if it makes you happy, I hope things get better for you message me if you ever want to chat πŸ’•

Aug 13, 2017 9:47 PM

Hey πŸ€—πŸ€— I am not 100% sure I believe in fate . But I do think our past is what makes us who we are today . And who we may became in the future.
I live inside my head everyday . That's my safe zone . Nobody can hurt me there.

Hang in there. ((Gentle hugs))sending preyers your way

Pm anytime you need to talk. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

Aug 14, 2017 8:32 AM

I always though I was meant to be so much more and do so much.

Aug 14, 2017 9:05 AM

LisaAnnk I get how you feel it's like you had your life planned out but now it's all changed but you have to grieve the life you thought you would have and then get on with your new normal. It took me a long time to accept my life isn't going to go the way I thought it was but once you do accept it you find things that make you happy again. πŸ’•πŸ’•

Aug 14, 2017 9:30 AM

I agree with littlelola. Accepting doesn't mean u have to like it. It just means it's the way it is. I used to be such an over achiever and it's a whole lot different now. It's ok most of the times but also there are times when I allow myself to cry for a few minutes and then get on with whatever I'm doing. πŸ‘β€οΈ

Aug 14, 2017 11:07 AM

@Frustrated. How do you control how long you cry ? I try to but once I start it's like rain. Lol.

Aug 14, 2017 1:58 PM

That's the way it was for me at first. Like the flood gates just opened. Then it
Got less and less. Prayer helps me a lot too. πŸ™

Aug 14, 2017 2:02 PM

I more pray for other people over myself. I been that way since I was little. So In time I will get stronger .

Aug 14, 2017 2:28 PM

I too pray for others more I think mentally I wss broken at a very young age

Aug 14, 2017 2:46 PM

LisaAnnK.... I personally am also religious. But I don't think it is a matter of religion. You need motivation, a drive, a strong desire for something....... and pain almost makes us feel like a blunt knife...

I believe you make of your life what you want! You are the only person who has the power to change things! If you need changes then make it yourself because this is YOUR life and YOU need to be happy! Be selfish for once....you deserve happiness love, laughter and all that stuff despite the pain!

I made so many changes in a one week period. I made the decisions myself and I took responsibility to committing to it. I can't tell u the difference it made in my life😬😬

You can still have ur dream life sweetheart!

Please pm me if you need more practical examples of what I do....but do some soul searching, find your desires and execute a plan to make those things happen!


Aug 14, 2017 3:20 PM

@Nienie. I fully agree 😊

Aug 14, 2017 3:50 PM

I don't know if I have enough strength for that

Aug 14, 2017 4:49 PM

Hi Lisaannk I am Lisa Ann D and I'm 52 years old and I feel the same exact way so I don't know what the answer is but I hope the very best for you.

Aug 15, 2017 6:19 AM

You are meant to do so much in your life. I'm not sure what religion you are but I am a Christian, I pray to God for help when I need answers. Maybe you are meant to serve children at church or maybe God has something bigger for you. God is in control of your life and will only do what best for you. In Jeremiah 29:11 it says:
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord , β€œplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Find something you love and do it and maybe expand on that. You love working with kids at church so find something that has to do with that.

Aug 15, 2017 2:36 PM

Strength is not necessarily defined by physical capabilities. I define strength as so much more! Every single day you deal with pain, you get stronger.... every day you say no to the dark thoughts u get stronger.... and even those shitty days you also get stronger! You, @LisaAnnK, are strong.....

You are strong and beautiful and you are enough! Be fierce and confident and be accountable for your own happiness!

I know, easier said than done, but I back you!!!πŸ’ͺ🏽

Aug 15, 2017 3:06 PM

Thank you maybe I don't have enough people who tell me that. I never believe in strength of me. I need to start believing that like you said harder to do. I need to figure it my back pain took away my career as an Early Childhood Educator it's got me down. I sometimes feel like there's no getting back up. What do I do now where do I go. Not sure. I need a plan.

Aug 15, 2017 3:19 PM

LisaAnnK I don't know what you're health issues are...nor do I know what physical needs there are to be an Early Childhood Educator ...but is there any way of finding out if there are "branches" of Early Childhood Education that don't require the physical aspects.... like I assumed that educating children would involve picking kids up and playing with them...maybe things you can't do...but what about early education of handicapped children that are in say wheelchairs and can't be picked up? You could have your physical limitations met and they would have a loving,caring teacher...a win win....like I said I don't know what's involved on either end...but I do know it's never to late...you could go back to school tomorrow and get certified in a new specialty...I know that they are always in need of great human beings to teach! Maybe that was God's will...and the only way he could direct you to what would really fulfill you was to limit you physically. Just a thought, that might encourage you...πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰ There may be just one child that is waiting for you to touch their life.

Aug 15, 2017 4:17 PM

@LisaAnnK, I know exactly how you feel. I also have been an Early Childhood Educator sine 1997 and I had to stop working cause I was getting sick all the time that my job just laid me off. I thought if I could just get Medicaid and fix whatever was wrong with me then I would be able to go back to teaching. It's 3 years later and I just now received Medicaid last month. Now here is where I have been dealing with fate. I found out January 2015 that I have SjΓΆgren's syndrome, and fibromyalgia. Going without healthcare has taken a toll over my body. So now I don't think I could go back to teaching because I also have herniated discs in my back, torn cartilage in my knees, severe anxiety and depression, problems with my kidneys, degenerative disc disease, osteoarthritis, brain fog, joint pain and chronic pain. I'm thinking now that I finally gotten health insurance and having to be seen by every specialist there is, that it's not meant for me to teach anymore. Maybe the reason that it took so long for things to get better that it's because I can't work anymore and I'm realizing that my life has changed in a different direction. Hope I made some sense.

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