I am so sorry for what you are going through. I know it's difficult but try to relax take a deep breath and let it go. Right now it's not in your hands. You gotta let go and trust that everything has a purpose. As for your preteen try to give her some grace she/he has issues of their own and they are trying to figure out where they belong and what is happening to them through this time of transition. I encourage you to have faith and try to smile as well as talk to your preteen explain why it hurt you and also make a plan for you two to help eachother through your individual hardships and find little things to relate to that would make understanding eachothers pain a lot easier. Trust me it will be ok and everyone here is here to support and love on you. I wish you the best and all things encouraging. Smile please:) I know it's cliche but afterall what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Did you know it is actually impossible to feel pain while laughing? I'm not kidding. I took a pain management course and it's true. Go watch Ellen or anything that makes you smile and laugh. I promise this life, even with pain, is beautiful
PS I teach teens. They can be tough don't settle for verbal crap. You are the mama and that means a ton. You got this! PS when all else fails take their charges for their devices. It's way worse than taking the device itselfs
MyscticMum. You are so strong. You posess a ton of strength. How do I know? I read your profile... I remember a few of your comments and looked them up.
You were there for others that felt totally desprete and suicidal. Your constantly telling people your there for them for support and available to talk to. With all your going through physically, mentally and in your home and family. You have not a plate full but a plater full. You have done so with such grace.
Its ok to stumble and fall. Its ok to stay down on the ground, turn your self over and sit and look around for awhile. Take a break... Drink some water. Regain your composure. And when your ready... Get up.
I understand preteens (both of mine were girls) and now teens (as of last week the youngest one!) They are such a handful. As Kenz said there trying to figure things out. My oldest is my hard case. She battles with a battle axe and a shield with spikes with me. I Finially got her to tell me she is trying to understand perpressure so she makes the right choices when it happens. I told her I can understand that But I and her mother are not your pers. We are your parents. Things have gotten a little better since that talk but things will take time... For all of us to adjust.
Maybe next time shopping get some ice cream bars. Sit down with him/her and talk things out some over the ice cream bar? May open some doors... If only a little.
Praying for your pain, your heartache, your husband and your children, your houshold.
Thank you all so much for the wise words having slept on it and reading these I feel I can get through this. Need to let the hurt go never thought your own child could hurt you so much this isnt a one time thing its been getting bad for months now. Will have a sit down with her later and discuss how she can better focus her frustrations... will let you know how it goes x