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Dont have insurance , they dont care.

Jul 06, 2015 1:23 AM

Hello! This is very nice to be able to tell my story and not have people think ur just "whining again". My story is kinda long so I am sorry. I was a senior in high school and partying with friends. I was the only one in the back seat and of course not seat belt. The driver didn't know the road and went straight off and it a convert. I flew out the back window and landed on my back. At the hospitol I was told I had punched my lung, broke some ribs, and scattered my vertebra. I was in a lot of pain but I was 17. The Dr on my 6th day in the hospital told me "just take it easy for a month and ur vertabra will heal on it's own. So like most teenagers I went though my life. Gave birth to 3 beautiful girls and always had moderate pain but nothing I couldn't work through. After my 3rd child at 28 it hit me hard. I couldn't give her a bath or even hold her w/out my upper shoulder blade stabbing me to tears. I had also notice upper back slupping over the years.went to my family Dr who gave me a MRI. Well my back we broken for 15 years and I just kept pushing which actually made it a lot worse. Had fusion, next year my mussels wrapped around the rods so we had to remove them. I ended up having to quit my job which made me lose my insurance. My orthopedic surgeon treated me like a "drug seeker" and told me well maybe U can be a car salesman or a weather girl. I feel like I've just been dumped off and no one cares. I don't have insurance so I can't go see another orthopedic or anyone else. I pay for my local nurse practitioner which prescribes me tramadol because it's cheap. I am in pain every day of every minute of the day and some days I don't even want to get out is bed cause what's the point??

Jul 06, 2015 2:56 AM

Oh Noodles, that's terrible. Ugh, just because you are a teen doesn't necessarily mean your body will miraculously recover back to the way it was. I'm sorry you then had to deal with a crappy doctor. No one should be treated like you were - no excuses.

If u have no job, you are more then likely eligible for your states Medicaid program. It is a lifesaver. My husband is on it. Thankfully, he is able to go to doctors and get prescriptions no problem. My thoughts are with you!

Jul 06, 2015 9:46 AM

Noodles, that is terrible that the doctors assumed your age would help you heal quickly and dismissed you. Too bad you can't sue him, because he definitely did you harm.

You stated "what's the point?" Your children are. They may not understand your pain in depth, but they need you. It's not about what you can buy them, or how much you're with them. It's about assuring them you love them, and treasuring what you do during the time you can spend with them (quality over quantity).

I know it's not easy for you. But I had two young children when my spine issues started. You'll see my story on another post, encouraging another mother, to not give up and not feel guilty because she can't be the ideal mom (she envisions in her head). We all envision perfection, but the reality is that no one is the ideal perfect parent. What is a good parent is making the best of what you have to offer them.

Your children are observing you, and through your daily life they will learn how to help others and how to be compassionate to those in need. When it's hard, lean on us, and teach your children there will be days of struggles in everyone's life. Teach your children age appropriate ways of helping you through chores and little tasks helping mommy not hurt so bad. At the age of 6-10 my children were learning how to sort, load the washer, unload the dryer, and helping to fold and put away the laundry. Teaching chores to help you out developes pride in what they accomplish, and independence & maturity for their future career responsibilities, their adult lives.

Painful days are part of our lives, and some will be worse than others. But don't give up and don't give in to let the pain rob you of the little moments with your family. We are all here for you, night and day; someone is always here. I'll be praying for you. (((Hugs))) from a other who has been there. 🙏🌼

Jul 06, 2015 11:39 AM

Thank U for your kind words! Honestly if it wasn't for my girls I would of gave up already. Oh and my husband of course!! They have all seen what I have to go through and do understand my pain. But my own mind has trouble sometimes knowing I'm going to be in pain everyday for the rest of my life. I do know U have to put that thought in the back somewhere but it's hard. And God knows I really really wish I hadn't settled that car insurance claim at 17!! :) it is very nice to have someone to talk to!!

Jul 06, 2015 12:47 PM

Noodles, I think we've all mad the mistake of settling to soon with insurance companies. Live & learn. Lol🙏🌼

Jul 06, 2015 2:39 PM

Have you applied for Social Security Disability? It's a long process, but worth it for your future. You could be eligible for Medicare, RX, and the $ to afford insurance - even though it's government supported, you still end up paying a bit for it. Usually that's off set by disability payments. Get a lawyer who specializes in SSDI, though. You should not try to apply on your own! It's a lot of bureaucracy, though. Even though the lawyer will charge you a percentage of the back pay that you are due from the time you were no longer able to work, it is well worth it. Without a lawyer, you will most likely get turned down and get nothing.

Anyway, there's plenty reasons to keep trying. At the very least, you will inspire your children to strive for their dreams, no matter what -- and that type of love is life affirming for everyone. Please don't give up! Your family needs you!

Jul 07, 2015 8:02 AM

Thank you! It is so nice to have people who actually understand what I'm going through. I started the disability process last year. Got a lawyer filled all the paperwork out but when they ask about a Dr I'm at a loss. Isnt important to have a Dr to back U up? I don't have that. Also I've been hearing a lot of stories about people getting kicked off of disability for silly things Llikegoing swimming with their children. I am in alot of pain but idk if I'm ready to just hide in my house. It feels almost like giving up. I'm very conflicted about the whole thing. What do U guys think???

Jul 07, 2015 8:13 AM

Noodles, I don't intentionally hide in my house but because of my issues that's what my life has become, predominately homebound. I any even get out by myself anymore. I applied last fall and I'm waiting to go before a judge with my lawyer. I haven't stopped living but I certainly can't do even half what healthy people can do.

You have to follow your gut instinct. 🙏🌼

Jul 07, 2015 12:17 PM

Noodles13, the point is that you are a vital part of your family and that YOU are important and mostly, you have one of the toughest jobs in the world and that's being a Mother. You did what the doctors told you to do and unfortunately, I think the doctor gave you poor information. I hope and pray that you are able to go online or make an appointment with your local social services office and get some help with coverage. There are several programs available for folks like us who need help. I think you should go on www.us.gov and look up the different programs that are available. If you are not working any longer because of the pain, you should have been offered continuing coverage so you were not left with nothing. Since that was not the case, there are other avenues. I'll do some research and see what I can find for you, just let me know what state you live in so I can figure out the guidelines. I worked as an insurance broker when I was able to work so I should be able to get you the info you need and send you the link for it. In the meanwhile, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and use this group of wonderful people here to get whatever information you need and/or just for support.. You'll get plenty of that here.

Jul 07, 2015 1:34 PM

No insurance, no help!

Jul 07, 2015 4:05 PM

Omg thank you so much!! I live in Missouri. I would love nothing more than being able to go to the Dr and find a specialist that might have some hope for me! I have lived with this pain for a long time and I'm not looking for a miracle just some relief. U guys R the best!!! :)

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