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Dreading seeing another doctor...

Nov 25, 2017 7:19 PM

Ugh, I hate seeing doctors about my pain. I've procrastinated for the past 6 years, just seeing them a few times or even just one time over months and months. I end up just going to urgent care or the er for acute problems and deal with the chronic pain as best as I can.
Most times I go in to a pcp for my pain (along with everything else) I leave disappointed, frustrated and humiliated. They either label me a drug seeker or a hypochondriac right off the bat. I guess they figure it can't be that bad. I'm too young to have all these problems. Or I'm just crazy. I really have no idea. I mean the last doc I saw 2 or 3 times. He was all nice and said he would get me into pain management and other specialists. When I went through my paperwork to provide proof for my mmj card, I saw he documented that I "appeared to be under the influence of a drug." And he really didn't help much with the refferals. Like, I never got into pain mgmt and that was months ago. I live in a small town all owned by a healthcare company or whatever from the only hospital we have. I decided to travel 2 hrs to see a new doc next time. But I am dreading it. Like folding laundry...

I just need advice on how to get the doctor to take me seriously and listen to what I say and not just blow me off like the rest?. I mean I'm starting to get a little nervous with how quickly I am getting worse now.

What's the secret to finding a good doctor? Or getting any doctor to take me seriously?

So stressful.

Nov 26, 2017 11:50 AM

I'm in the same situation as you. I've seen at least 50 doctors who won't take me seriously, have called me a drug seeker, tell me I'm crazy, tell me I'm lying or faking. I'm at the point in my journey where I've just stopped asking for advice and won't go to the doctor unless I absolutely have to. I'm desperate for a diagnosis, but can't bring myself to ask for another referral to a rheumatologist for fear of being told that they don't know what's wrong or that I'm faking.

Nov 28, 2017 1:42 AM

Do you still need advice? Been dealing with doctors for over 20+ years and I know your frustration.

Nov 28, 2017 5:40 AM

I normally do research on the doctor before making an appointment with any, I am very picky about who I see. So far I've found great doctor's that way. When you go to the next appointment I would be honest with the doctor, don't give up on yourself as you are your best advocate when it comes to your health. You'll be in my prayers.

Nov 28, 2017 7:21 AM

Thank you glad to know I'm not alone on that one. I will take all the advice I can get

Nov 28, 2017 8:53 AM

When i went to my doctor i am with now i told him i am tired of being called crazy and i dont want pain killers or muscle relaxers because they dont work. I said i want to know whats wrong with me. I was very straight forward and serious about the situation. My boyfriend also recommended this doctor with for me because his mom and his grandmother go to him and they both have chronic pain.

Nov 28, 2017 9:05 AM

Yeah that's where I'm at. I have to take a stupid amount of opiate pain relievers to get relief so I am trying to avoid that route until there are no more options. I've tried probably every muscle relaxer, even soma, and only baclofen helped a little. I'm past that and am wanting the same as you- to find out what the hell is wrong with me. Something isn't right and I know it. I just want someone to take me seriously and try to find out what the problem is for once.... But I probably will say that up front now lol

Nov 28, 2017 9:13 AM

I would say that right up front. Make it a point that you are not seeking pain killers, you are seeking an answer. Right now im on perscribed anti-inflammatory meloxicam and nerve pain medication gabapentin. Those help with some of my knee and back pain, but nothing else for me.

Nov 29, 2017 11:43 PM

Everyone is giving awesome advice.Dealing with Drs. is the WORST!!! After years of crying, I just got tried that I had to boo-hoo cry until I got some help/relieve. Every time for over 15yrs until I snapped.(snap= not going to any Drs and in bed). Couple of years later, decided I have to be the one to change, they will never. So, I did.
I try to interview them before, then when we meet, tell them a little about me and some of what Ive done to help myself, let them know I'm NOT here for opioids. Doing this while staying strong & confident. Oh, my little secret, I try to only go when my pain is at it's lowest. Ex: pain worse in morning, winter time so, I try to go in the late afternoon(before traffic of course) when sun is out. I do better in warmer months. Look, their isn't a magic way. I'm a professional and got better care then my good friend who was over weight and didn't finish high school. Crazy!!!! but true. Oh, 2nd secret,if you can have someone with you that is NOT afraid to stand up for you and to the Drs. is a lifesaver, my CNA
friend saved me from death(another story 4 next time).
Good luck!!! Did more???? I'm always here.

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