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Sep 17, 2017 9:16 PM

No really.... I need some kind of woman who is very open to be able to have an open conversation about how much pain I am in and how badly I want to be able to be sexually attractive to my husband.

Actually, I won't narrow this down to women. I'll take a mans perspective. I just don't want to disturb the integrity of this amazing forum. This all comes back to my pain and how I have many different issues that make trying to be sexy for my husband How can I talk to coneine about this?

Sep 18, 2017 2:09 AM

We are all here for each other. Sexual health is heath. You can always message me. I have a disorder called PCOS. It causes facial hair, weight gain, and low sex drive. I used to have a high sex drive, however between the weight gain and chronic pain my sex drive took a hit. I don't feel up to it half the time and the other half I don't feel sexy enough.
There are others who I'm sure understand. Feel free to continue the conversation here or message me privately.

Sep 18, 2017 5:14 AM

You can always message me if you need to talk.

Sep 18, 2017 9:13 AM

I have to admit that I have no idea how to sent a private message haha

Sep 20, 2017 10:37 PM

I tried to send you a private message but it says you are using an outdated app.

Sep 21, 2017 2:55 PM

PainedSteph1990 I understand your pain I often have pain during sex and it is difficult sometimes to talk about it. But I'm here if you need to talk to someone.

Sep 21, 2017 4:37 PM

Ladies, I have the same issue, I love my partner, but we struggle sexually as I live with pain almost constantly, even my lady bits hurt. This has lowered my sex drive massively, bit of a emotional cycle

Sep 21, 2017 10:54 PM

Yesterday, My husband wanted me to lay on top of him (strattle). Not even have sex. Just hold me. My back and hips hurt too much. My husband thinks I don't want him to touch me. He doesn't understand.

Sep 22, 2017 12:32 AM

I tofally understand stand this struggle in 22 I know young but I have only have been married 2 years and i still have this struggle. I know newly weds do it a lot but for us its not a lot its when I'm feeling my best. A doctor told me that with how many medications we all take its normal to have a low sex drive the pain and fatigue from having chronic pain to barely do simple home tasks... Sex takes lots of energy no matter how you do it. So explain the side affects of your medication to your partner if they sont understsnd. Be honest and stick to the facts. My husband totally understsnds he hates it and wishes we could have sex more but he respects it. Which is great but it leaves me feeling bad and guilty of being a bad wife. I know im not a bad wife but occasionally I feel overwhelmed with guilt and the thought of being a bad wife creeps in. Ladies I totally understand and I don't really have an answer how to help any of our situations .... But just know your not alone and I hope we can find answers in time.

Sep 23, 2017 8:53 PM

Ok. So I am not a woman but my wife told me that she was not touching me without an advanced medical degree. She thinks that she will make my pain worse if she touches me. So I understand how you feel too feel SO FRAGILE...

Sep 23, 2017 9:39 PM

I have no sex drive, my hubby has an extremely high one. I feel like I'm letting him down and many times I just bite my lip and suffer through the massive amount of pain. You're not alone.

Sep 24, 2017 7:32 PM

This is a sex drive thing and a being in too much pain to do it thing but this is also a too pained to shave in the shower thing which is what makes the sex thing difficult. I don't want my husband to feel prickly areas on my body and get turned off. I don't want him to look at me that way. I know that that is INCREDIBLY superficial but it's real. Anyone in THAT pool with me?

Sep 26, 2017 6:01 AM

I feel you! You also need to feel sexy and being silky smooth makes you feel sexy which makes any sexual interaction more enjoyable...

Good luck girls❤️

Sep 28, 2017 1:43 AM

Hey ladies and gents I understand all that you are going through. If your partner loves you enough they will understand. I’m lucky my hubby is great. Low sex drive is a real problem with pain. Medication is a huge factor in lowering your sex drive. I don’t have a problem talking about it. But don’t worry as it only makes it worse.

Sep 28, 2017 4:32 AM

I'm dealing with intense burning pain all over my body, even the lightest touches cause me intense pain so shaving, has happened maybe once every other week since July.
Sex is now only orally done and I can not stand any touch or stimulation at all. So we have really intense make out sessions with each other, I go down on him and do things to him and then we cuddle. We are hoping that the pain doesn't stay as intense in my girly bits. He has told me that as soon as it doesn't make me bawl and double over in pain he wants to even the score. But with the medication I'm taking it really doesn't matter much to me.
If you ever need to talk I'm happy to be an ear Dear.

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