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Embarrassing but can't hold it

Jun 22, 2016 6:27 AM

I really don't know what's going on with me... Now I can't hold my number 2's. Went all over myself this morning. Than I'm God I'm home alone. Jeez what next?

Jun 22, 2016 10:49 AM

I've been there. I have a problem w my stomach they can't diagnose where I throw up after I eat and have # 2 accidents after I eat as well.
Try to keep a record of when it's happening. And see a G.I.
In the meantime I recommend investing in Incontinence briefs. Embarrassing to buy and wear, but less so than the alternative.

Jun 22, 2016 11:01 AM

Thank you! I will do that. Was diagnosed with pancreatitis last week in the hospital

Jun 22, 2016 11:02 AM

Good luck hon. Soft hugs to you.

Jun 22, 2016 11:04 AM

Thank you! Hugs to you too

Jun 22, 2016 11:18 AM

I have IBS-C but have been hit with incontinence more than I care to remember. I went through pelvic floor therapy for pelvic floor dysfunction (PFD), the cause of lost control. My PFD was dx by a Gynecologist but he sent me to a pelvic floor specialist. I have both bowel & bladder dysfunction.

I found a very useful app called "Bowel Move, by mSurfLab. It's a great way to track and note change & possible causes. And it's very easy to share our show my docs.

At one point they had me on linzess for the constipation and slow transit. It was causing diarrhea, but the PFD was the cause of my inability to hold it until I got to a toilet. I use psyllium fiber to help bulk up the stool, but you must drink lots of water. Right now my GI surgeon has me off psyllium and using Miralax & Benefiber instead, until my stomach & esophagus heals. Hugs & prayers as you find ways to cope with this! It can be very embarrassing, to say the least! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 22, 2016 11:35 AM

It's one of those things that people don't like to talk about, but the fact is, it does happen, don't feel embarrassed. I have to have my Carers do my bowel care as I am quadriplegic, not ideal at 36, but it's gotta be done! By being able to talk about it with others makes it that much more 'normal' there are loads of people out there who have bowel issues.... It's just great that you feel you can actually ask about it!😊

Jun 22, 2016 11:50 AM

It has happenned to me. I felt just like you. The good part is you were at home. Trust me. I feel you

Jun 22, 2016 12:17 PM

Thanks Jahmac, for being an inspiration of strength to me. It's not embarrassing with family who know & understand. But in public places it is. I've lost some of my inhibition to discuss body issues over the past few years, which has helped, including being able to discuss here. Following my recent stomach surgery I'm more gassy than all my life's years added together. My hubby asked me what I'm going to do if it happens in public. I told him I'm going to point and blame him! Lol😉. No, but seriously I told him I'd use it as an opportunity to educate others. Being raised that girls/ladies don't discuss those things (body functions), and everyone should walk off alone to belch or pass gas, it's been a struggle to overcome. Hugs & prayers everyone has a good day! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 22, 2016 12:29 PM

I've has days like that also, I thankfully i generally get painful gas issues as a warning, and have enough time to make it to a bathroom without soiling myself, although there have been very close calls! Sometimes large thin pantyliners are a blessing!

Jun 22, 2016 12:30 PM

I see it as educating too. None of us chose to have the illnesses, accidents etc that happened to us. I had went from a Chef who worked a 90+ hour week to having to have someone feed me, dress me, take care of ALL my personal hygiene, at 32 that was a massive adjustment to try and make, we'll come to terms with. 4 years later, I've had shitty shitty times but I'm working hard now and can feed myself, I can change and clean my suprapubic catheter,yes I have 24 hour care, and I have to have people clean me after taking care of my Bowel Care regime. I have spoken to some senior schools about Spinal Cord Injury, I've spoken to newly injured SCI patients my sort of age and female, specifically about things like bowel/bladder care and so on, because there is always this huge barrier that seems to be in the way. Why shouldn't we be able to have someone/somewhere that we can ask questions and discuss and not feel embarrassed about something we have no control over!! You have the right to be able to talk about such things. 😊❤️

Jun 22, 2016 12:47 PM

Some spinal issues cause loss of control but i also have gastro intestinal issues. So far I have made it most of the time. Shit happens 😄 I seem to be able to clock mine when I am having bad bouts so I know to stay home.

Jun 22, 2016 2:09 PM

Thank you everyone for all that you've shared. Now I don't feel so bad, well embarrassed 😉

Jun 22, 2016 2:38 PM

Oh Flappsy, I bet that your hubby really appreciated the point and blame thing.. LMAO!!!! Just want to say that I am glad that we are all able to express all of these issues here and not feel so alone. It's horrible. I had that happen to me months ago and started to cry. I was home and thank God my Mom said "it's ok, it happens, don't cry". Bless those of you who have had this happen and always remember that you're not alone. {{{{Hugs}}}} 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jul 03, 2016 6:56 AM

I have bladder and bowl disfunction! I saw a continance nurse on th NHS which was such a help! But just reading all ur comments is so helpful thanQ all x

Jul 03, 2016 7:27 PM

I had a surgical repair for bladder prolapse and it was the best thing i have ever done. #2 is a different story... i have recently had accidents twice :( i have ibs and am a lot better if i make sure i always take my fibre

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