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Sep 03, 2016 10:57 AM

I dont like the term disabled/disability but i am yet to think of another, better, term....ideas...?

But in the meantime, i think we need to change the word "normal" to "common"....im sure "normal" people wouldn't appreciate being called "common" he he

But also, i think we need to teach kids to use the word common in the hope that the "normal" kids will stop singling out kids that are different in whatever way that may be...people need to understand and appreciate uniqueness!! We are all unique after all :)

Sep 03, 2016 11:31 AM

What IS normal anyway?? We function by guidelines of what society deems normal. Well, doctors do the same thing. Now.. "Normal" body temp is 98.7 degrees, right?? Well, MY normal is 97.0 degrees.. So does that make me abnormal?? In doctor's eyes, maybe, in mine... Nope!! So it's all relative. Normal for one may be totally off the chart for someone else. We're ALL normal people who happen to have diseases or syndromes or whatever the hell causes our chronic pain. I don't think that makes us abnorma... But then again, I've always been a bit off, so what the hell do I know.. LOL!!

Sep 03, 2016 11:41 AM

i use "impaired", because my pain prevents me from actively practicing everyday activities

Sep 03, 2016 12:13 PM

I agree the word 'normal' should be used for objects etc, but no one person is 'normal' as we are all different....unique :) i just dont like the terminology 'normal' to describe a person....neither the word disabled...i do prefer the word 'impaired' though :) even though im sure there is still an even better word that doesn't make reference to how we are limited in some way...perhaps we should use the phrase multi-skilled or something? I know ive learnt new skills having to deal with fibromyalgia...

Sep 03, 2016 2:07 PM

Unlucky, can I use your comments in part of a post I have been putting together for a while, just reading this filled a hole in the post that I am having problems articulating. Post for my blog.But yes, I have always said that common, normal, and average are words that are missed used like lay and lie.

Sep 03, 2016 2:21 PM

Can i ask what type of blog it is please?

Sep 03, 2016 2:23 PM

I blog about my illness, and just what crosses my mind when I can't sleep. Its called funnytailbones.wordpress.com

Sep 03, 2016 2:40 PM

Oh i see..yes I suppose that will be fine, assuming it wont be used out of context. And thank you for asking first :)

Sep 03, 2016 2:46 PM

I have several readers that ask me to ramble on about topics , these readers have ask me to keep their commennts private so I do! Some have had their family, co workers, etc read it and I seem to get positive feedback.

Sep 03, 2016 2:52 PM

I appreciate the respect :) let me know when you've posted it and I'll take a look :)

Sep 03, 2016 6:50 PM

Ok, you can follow the blog if you want to

Sep 04, 2016 10:22 AM

Adaptable....i think this word should be used instead of disabled...we all have to adapt our lives according to our health...i think this is a much more positive word as it refers to how we do something about our health rather than referring to our 'not being fully capable'....

Sep 05, 2016 7:50 AM

No one likes the word disabled. My brother was choked by the umbilical cord during birth and his ability to process and learn is slow, having a need for repetitiveness to absorb any real difficulties (is: at 63 still can't do a check in account). I remember my youngest coming home from school (K-1st grade), and she was so excited because she had learned a new word. She said, "Mommy, uncle*** isn't handicapped. He's challenged!"

Now as for myself, having started with medical issues at 28, and almost each one unusual from the norm, my hubby & I, and almost all my doctor's have always tagged me as "complicated." One doc jokingly told me I'm never going to allow doctors to have an easy case with my problems, and we all laughed when I replied "I want to make y'all work for the money you're paid!". In one college class I was among the "outliers" because my medical issues weren't among the norm. Titles don't bother me and never have. I'm just a normal, challenged, complicated lady I guess. ***sigh, boring. I think I'd love to put unique in there too! 😉💕🙏🌸

Sep 05, 2016 7:59 AM

I think a big part of it is that people automatically assume that when someone is diagnosed with a handicap, they think it means "by comparison to myself".

What they fail to grasp is that each impairment diagnosed means "by comparison to the potential of the person diagnosed".

That is how it is possible to be impaired, yet still in better condition than "non-impaired " individuals.

Sep 05, 2017 9:15 PM

Ok, I know this post is a year old but I finally wrote about this thread on my blog. I didn't use any names or where to find this thread. I had started it well over a year ago and my brain would not settle, but I finally published it today. Unlucky, if you are still out there the link to the blog is https://funnytailbones.wordpress.com/2017/09/05/average-normal-person/

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