So many of u know my story well. Others not so much . we all have issues with family and friends not understanding our new lives. Heck we don't understand our new life..ha... But in addition to that I'm seeing my new issue is overdoing it. I know I have limitations but figuri g out what they are before I've passed out or gotten stuck on hickind trail. I've always been an over achiever and now I'm in a position I'm being compared to my slacker of a nephew. And trust that is an insult .. But how have you guys conqures this area of figuring out your new limit but yet still seeing progress as far as maintaining your health.
I haven't figured it out yet. I struggle with feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness if I don't get something done, even if I recognize my body telling me to stop. I tend to tell myself that I can rest a bit or eat something once I get whatever task completed. So instead of listening to my body and resting or eating i push and then binge eat or make my condition worse (usually both). Then I feel like a useless pile of crap for not being able to do anything so I go do things and its just a downward spiral. I know this isnt the answer you were looking for but I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in your struggle.
No..it's fine..I need to hear this..it does help to know others struggle with this too. I don't like haveing to explain my limitations to others or if I'm out and have an episode ( passing out falling) it embarrass them and me. And I still have the need to teach them wrong . when I'm laying down while my elderly mom is working in the house or lifting water and I'm sitting in a wheelchair I see people look at me like why is the fat girl not doing anything. I know I'm to old to let things like that bother me . it it does.
I've given up on trying to explain things. I asked for help at work one day (from someone who doesn't work directly with me) lifting a heavy computer on to a cart so i could go fix it. He laughed at me (im 29 and he's 55) because he thought i was joking. I yelled at him (I'd tweaked my shoulder just pulling it out of the cupboard it was in and didnt want to hurt myself more) for laughing at me when i was being serious. I heard about it later from others that he said i was getting him to do my work because im a lazy entitled little brat. It really bothers me when people say things but it's a win for them if i let it show that they got to me. So I do the very unhealthy thing of bottling it up and exploding on someone when it gets too much
I feel the same way.and do the same thing. I have a shoulder with 50% mobility now because of a work place task I was physically and to do. I lifted an Industrial oven to clen under it. The sad thing g is this all happened at the same Tim I pneumonia and ended up in the hospital. So I had no way to prove it was work related. I don't know why I still feel.the need to explain but I know when I start it's not gonna go well.
I haven't figured that out myself. I went and started a business as I've gotten sicker and I'm having a hard time stopping. That said I'm the only one most of the time doing it all for the business. Hubby is very supportive and helps wherever he can but he works a full time job too. Sorry I couldn't be more help. My business is my passion too and my sanity.
I work in an environment where they say it is a "healing place" yet there are those there that are everything but healing. I run from the conflict and the stress that they try to impose on me. I go in my office and close the door but they knock on the door. It is so obvious. The other day I sent my boss an email indicating that she was a source of unnecessary stress. She has not responded. I had just gotten fed up. It was not to be mean on my part. But I have repeatedly told her that stress increases my pain. I also realize like you said holding it in adds more stress. I would like to work in peace, live in peace, and now I am at a point that I am willing to speak up to tell people that. Why do some seek out the weak and vulnerable just so they can look powerful?