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Excuses, excuses... is that what I'm doing

Sep 30, 2016 2:12 PM

I'm not sure exactly when my fibromyalgia began. I've had all the symptoms since I was in my teens but got diagnosed a few weeks ago.
I wonder sometimes if what I'm feeling is fibromyalgia or am I just making excuses and just being lazy? I know it must sound strange not knowing your own feelings, but I guess all the doubt others have had is impacting what I think of myself.
Does anyone else ask themselves this question? Do you ever wonder how much you feel is really your condition or not? I try to do everything I have learned about dealing with my symptoms including not pushing myself to hard physically. I take breaks often when doing something physically strenuous and I am trying to keep my stress to a minimum. I am very lucky to have my ex mother in law living with us and she helps out so much. Which makes me wonder if I should be doing more to help around the house? We all take turns cooking and cleaning. I guess I'm insecure right now.

Sep 30, 2016 2:22 PM

I think everyone has doubted or second guessed themselves at some point. I find its usually when i have an ok stretch and then i somehow manage to convince myself that I'm just lazy and it couldn't be that bad. Then it gets bad again and I'm reminded that im not just weak it is really bad.
Also everyone else telling you you are just lazy will wear you down and make you belive it if you listen to them (also a problem of mine).
It's a fine line doing as much as you can and living without making it worse. I keep stomping all over that line and paying for it later.
It's real. Don't be like me and let others convince you that you are the problem and that your lazy

Sep 30, 2016 2:43 PM

I have this same battle going on. I've been diagnosed with lupus. Years of not being believed by docs and family members when I was ill even in hospital, mixed with neglect when sick and in general from my parents and abuse has made it very hard to believe I not only have lupus but I'm as sick as I am. I thankfully have a supportive Husband who does believe and can see how sick I am but that leads to another battle in my mind. Guilt,feeling useless and like a burden. Also messages instilled in me by my family. It just sucks.

Sep 30, 2016 4:03 PM

I totally get what you are saying ... I was tempted.to post pretty much what you wrote ... For me is it fibromyalgia, chronic pain leftover from back surgery or PTSD backlash ... Does the stress set off the flare of fibromyalgia or does the PTSD trigger it or all of the above ... Weather changes or over doing. I am at a loss trying to figure out sometimes as well.
I try to selfcare and pace myself ... Still waiting for this flare to end. Thank you for asking this question. Gentle hugs ((()))

Sep 30, 2016 4:03 PM

Ctsego I ask my self that every day and some times feel like a burden to. I understand full heartly. I have bad days and good days. Sending hugs to you if you feel like a hug I'm here 🙅

Sep 30, 2016 4:50 PM

You very right. I guess I just had to hear it from someone else. My husband always reminds me when I am doing too much. I think I should be pushing myself more but I'm afraid to. I'm just confused. This is all so new to me.

Sep 30, 2016 4:52 PM

It's okay I still do it sometime big hugs always around

Sep 30, 2016 6:09 PM

I think we all second guess ourselves. It is really difficult to separate how you really feel when doctors (and others) constantly tell you everything is normal. There are so many variables with autoimmune disorders. Keep moving forward we believe you.

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