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Exhausted emotionally and physically

Oct 29, 2018 9:22 AM

Fatigued from pain and emotionally drained. This week is just getting started and not on the best start. I am realizing how terrible a mom I really am. I fought hard to keep them from Thier fathers abusive wife and won and my husband and I even won the adoption battle in court so my husband could adopt them, then over the months my daughters friends started to kill them selfโ€™s, leaving my daughter heart broken, then a my daughter friend started a nasty rumor causing problems with her and her boyfriend to break up and last night that โ€œfriend โ€œ who started that rumor killed him self, her ex boyfriend I guess is blaming her but I am at a loss as how to handle it she has lost 5 friends to suicde in 4 months alone and a break up and her best friend started dating that boyfriend right after, anyway teenage drama,, that part I can handle as much much I am having a hard home trying to get a handle on her emotions to even try to talk to her, she is shutting me out and she has cut in the past and I am seriously worried. I am to the point of taking the door off her bedroom so she canโ€™t shut herself in do something stupid. I am also waiting to hear back from my drs office about a councilor for some therapy for her. I hope I am at least going in the right direction. Have a blessed week everyone, sorry for the rant ๐Ÿ˜”

Oct 29, 2018 2:16 PM

Wow that sounds really shitty. Don't be too hard on the cutting, but let her know you are there for her if she wants you to be and that you are willing to search with her for other options to cope with her emotions. Therapy wouldn't be a bad idea, hopefully she is up for it herself.
Nevertheless, your concerns only show you're a good mom and certainly not a terrible one.
Take care!

Oct 30, 2018 4:41 PM

I would say - being a previous teenage cutter - don't force the issue. My mom drove me crazy. Give her some space let her know your there - little positive notes in her room, a love filled text etc - she will come to you, your her mommy and she loves you. Death is hard for us to deal with as adults, my friends brother died suddenly last week, I can't imagine how it must feel at such a tender age.

Maybe start doing activities you know she enjoys without asking or letting her know you are going to do it. It might lure her out of her room, relax and open up.

You are not a bad mom. If you were you wouldn't care as much as you do. There is no manual for all this. I think you're doing great ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ‘

I hope everything works out. You'll be in my prayers.

Take care

Love Hayley x

Nov 01, 2018 10:16 PM

Sorry itโ€™s taken so long to respond but this week was just as exhausting as Monday was, took both daughters to a football ๐Ÿˆ game to get them out today and it seemed to help them both, when getting them home I was helping my step daughter in the house and we lost grip and she fell and when fell she hurt her foot and I went down with her as well and threw my back out and cut my left arm from my wrist to midway and my elbow, but good news KEW2012 is my daughter and I are doing a twitch stream together on Sunday, we were really close and I want to be able to support what matters to her and the fact that she is already an affiliate I think she has a nac for it, I want to see how the world ๐ŸŒŽ in her eyes and try to understand what she feels. Maybe this will give me some insight, thanks for the advice, have a blessed weekend everyone ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’•

Nov 02, 2018 8:39 AM

That's fantastic news, not the fall obviously but you guys being together.

Best wishes

Love Hayley x

Nov 04, 2018 1:14 AM

Ahh bless you! I hope you are feeling ok after cutting your arm, and your step daughter too from her fall!! My step daughter used to cut herself from an early age until she was 15-16. She is now 28. I remember at the time that all she wanted was for someone to not judge and be upset with her, to just listen and go to support meetings, which is what I did. It took a while but she did it. This was all due to bulking as her thyroid levels were not right so she had gained weight. Itโ€™s truly shocking what bullying does. As your daughters friends have sadly not wanted to live anymore with it. I used to walk with my daughter to school and then go and see her in her breaks and then walk her home. She ended up going to a support school but I think it helped massively as we could of had a very different end to her schooling. I hate bullies, I think educators should be talking more about suicide that stems from bullying but the school curriculums probably think itโ€™s too harsh! Sending you and your daughter lots of healing. Xx

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