Well yesterday I received a text from the DWP telling me not to forget my medical appt today, awful nice of them considering I hadn't even been notified that I had an appt for a medical. I'm so nervous and worried about it, I've no-one to go with me, it's in an area I don't know and it's public transport for me too. I can see them telling me I'm fit for work. I've been having anxiety attacks since I got the text. Wish me luck everyone
Good luck.....remember don't tell them you're planning in going back to work because they will tell you that you're fit for work. They watch you walk from the waiting room to the interview room as well and how quickly you respond to them calling out your name. Not to be horrible buy it probably would be better if you had a panic attack while in the interview. My interview was an hour
Tell them how you cope on your worse day....I made the mistake of saying how I am on a good day as well as the bad days, saying that I might have one good day a week but they used the good day example saying how I can do stuff....like washing up for 10 minutes before I have to sit down and rest which of course means that I'm capable for "some work".
I hope yours went ok Sezzy. Although it sounds like they have been their usual self with you - assholes. I'm like you on a good day I can manage some bits but it's aggravated by my alcoholic sister who I live with. The walking will be ok as my pain is mostly upper body and I have been honest on the form and put that info on. I won't tell them I'm hoping/planning to go back to work. I will be in a mess before I get there as I don't know where I'm going.
I'll keep everything crossed for you. Keep me uptodate how you get on. They are being very very strict with people at the moment. My best friends hubby literally cannot walk and he's been made to look for and accept work as a meter reader 😮
You should tell him to go to the citizens advice and to appeal the decision because that's ridiculous and if his doctor will write him a letter saying that he's not fit for work that will help his appeal
I can't do those without getting pain and then dizziness that makes me want to pass out. I don't use a handbag because I can't carry it on my shoulder it's too painful as it feels like I'm being weighed down. Right I'll do that then thank you
If you tell them all that that is good but they may still want you to try so if you do start to get dizzy stop an sit down they can't force you....some of it they have to see I know it's ridiculous but that's the system now
Mine would be the same if they were near me. Mine live away from me and I miss them more and more everyday. I've lost my whole family (well other than my sister) which makes my A&D even worse cos I feel so alone
You'll be fine, just remember to not play down your condition and tell them about your bad days and don't tell them too much about your good days but it sounds like a good day isn't much better for you than a bad day! And bring your meds and any other info that will help you that you haven't already given them like doctors letters and bring any appointment letters if you have any hospital appointments coming up as well
I've got some letters and my Dr did me a letter. I couldn't get to see my cpn in time to collect her letter. Most days are poosniff Im not able to do much and spend a lot of days in bed. I feel so sick, I keep trotting to the loo too
I wish there was something I could do to help you thro but your soo many miles up north and I'm all the way down south 😢 I wish I could help with mending bridges with your family, hopefully with time they'll come back to you xx
Thank you Sezzy, just talking is more than I get most days. 😊 I hope they will too, my niece is having my first great niece this year after her mum died last year and I'm missing all of that as she no longer speaks to me either 😢
Give it time, whatever has happened will heal with time. One day at a time and maybe writing a letter explaining your side of things will maybe pave the way forward for a reunion but it will take time xx
Ah right I have both but this is the one I use. I will have a look. That's me got to gather my stuff together and make the journey. Hopefully it's straightforward else I'll get lost due to the fogginess of my brain after my morning meds.
Excuse my language but the fucking arseholes cancelled my appt. I was on the train heading to the appt and they phoned to cancel!! I could continue my journey and wait up to 4 hours to be see. No chance I'm a bloody mess just getting organised 😡😡. That's he second time they have cancelled on me at least the last time it was the night before. I'm furious I feel sick with anger on top of the anxiety 😷😢😡
I'm soo sorry that you've had to go thro all this for them to cancel again and it's them cancelling so it won't affect you. You should definitely put in a claim for the travel expenses you've had to pay out today
Hiya, sorry I didn't reply earlier I've had a flare up so not been on. They don't really care if it affects us, well not that I can see. They did tell me that I could claim both sets of travel expenses which I will be doing. My friend told me about her and her husbands experience last time they went, they had just arrived for his f2f and they were asked if they would be able to come back at another time as too many people had attended, they refused as she had taken a day off work to ensure he could get there and they didn't leave the office till almost 6.30.
Oh no after all the stress they put you thro I'm not surprised that you had a flare up but I wish you didn't have to go thro it tho, its just not fair that they put you thro that. The government don't care what they put us thro and it's ok for them to cancel on us as many times as they like but if we cancel then it's used against us! Doesn't matter what we do we're going to lose!!!
I hope your flare has started to subside now xx
They are just so awful and it's affecting soo many people it's just horrible