As I have mentioned before, I have 4 children and my two oldest have been living with my mother for this school year. This was considered the best option since I'm not supposed to drive and an apartment we can afford on my wife's salary is small and in a bad school district. This was all discussed with my mother for months before everything was decided and finalized (down to who's car insurance they will be on).
My relationship with my mother has been contentious at times, and throughout the last three years since my original diagnosis, she has repeatedly denied my condition. This spring, they found two bulging discs in my spine. Her response was that I needed to recognize other people are in pain as well. She has decided that since she was in the room when a neurologist told me I had no lesions in my brain and therefore my tremors aren't related to brain issues, that I actually have a mental issue and not a physical one. She also told me I wasn't caring enough when she had an eye removed 20 years ago. (An elective procedure she scheduled the week before I graduated HS)
Fast forward to this fall, when I have had a significant change in symptoms that has me using numerous appliances and learning how to do simple things without further worsening my problems. Despite any evidence, my mom has decided I needed to work harder to "get better" and that I should be grateful because my condition won't kill me.
I've also begun to get horrible messages from siblings saying that I need to grow up and go back to work (I was a chef). My grandmother has begun harassing me on social media. Oddly, the only support from family has been from you dad, who has always been distant and in his own world (he lives in another state).
I know the family messages are coming from things my mother has said because she's also told my children that I'm being a baby and need to go back to work.
So, has anyone else had to deal with the open hostility from family members? I've tried to explain things, even showing them letters the doctors have sent to insurance and government agencies. Nothing seems to bring understanding, let alone compassion. I'm at the point of cutting off contact.