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Family, taking advantage & verbally abusive

Aug 30, 2015 11:30 AM

Has anyone encountered a situation where a family member, verbally abuses you because they resent you? Takes advantage, I guess because they know you haven't the strength to do much about it.

This crap raises the stress level which in return causes flare ups, It becomes a violent circle. I know in my heart not understanding my health issues and only knowing the vibrant, energetic and do all person I once was, acting out this way is denial. Still in knowing all that doesn't make it right.

I guess what I'm asking is , any avice as how to go about helping that person through what their going through so it changes the effects it plays in my life. I've always been "face it head on" type of person but there are some people who think if they ignore it, it won't be. Instead of showing love, anger is the alternative.

Aug 30, 2015 6:31 PM

Tinyboo, I take of my aunt who has many health issue's, and and someone really need's to understand the health issue (s) before they can even start take care of someon, my opinion is for that person to go with you to your DR's appointment's and do a lot of research on what the conditions are. I learned a lot from my aunt's doctors and a lot of research.

Aug 30, 2015 7:31 PM

Had this issue with my stepmom. She ignored me, yelled at me, made scenes if I didn't clean (I couldn't walk), and moved my walker just out of my reach. She has a personality disorder and, unfortunately, nothing helped. Our family liked intro treatments, but they were the same as how we treated her all along. Kicking her out was the only option. I hope it doesn't come to that.

Aug 30, 2015 7:59 PM

Thank you both. That the person's in question actually take me to my Doctors appointments. I guess that's why I'm so baffle. I guess I'll be turning this one over to God & praying a lot. I get frustrated knowing they know my situationan and still make a negative choice. Ugh!!#

Aug 30, 2015 8:38 PM

Yes.tinyboo let GOD have it. I know its gonna be hard. Of was for me . my mom is this way sometimes too. She believes me and she does help me a lot . however sometime she acts like nothing is wrong. When my dr gives me a new diagnosis she simply says " don't claim anything . its all gonna be fine". Niw I'm just as into leting GOD do his work and I know the tounge is might. However my body is in major distress . and I'm big on research. I want to know what I'm walking into. And also what I've been spared from. So basically tinyboo. I understand what your going through and I do hope and pray your family comes together with u on this 100%. And u are able to enjoy some flare free days with minimal pain.

Aug 30, 2015 8:46 PM

Tinyboo, unfortunately I think many have this at some point in their life. My hubby was, until I took him to every doc's office and let them explain to him the when, what, and how. He's a different person, has become my biggest advocate. I'll keep you in my prayers, that this person's attitude changes for the better. 🙏🌼

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