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Feeling alone two weeks after surgery

Oct 20, 2015 4:55 PM

So its two weeks post op and I'm feeling as of my family thinks I'm crazy or just want drugs. Been feeling down for three days. I call the Dr and she feels I have a bug. She aske to go to my gp. I'm also having pain nrwr y surgery area. My sis says "well they not gonna keep u on pain meds forever" . keep in mind I have fibromayalgia and Lupus. So clearly my pain is worse. My surgeon is 3 hours away and does not feel I need more pain meds.
I've got diarrhea nausea fatigue and dizzy. I did get a flu shot while in the hospital. Im feeling as if my family is not taking this at all serious. Right now I'm doikg most all my own self care. Getting up , showering , ect
My mom does re dress my incision.
But over all I just feel bad and feel as if I'm doing this alone. I was told today that I can't keep going to all these doctors it cost to much. Keep in mind I'm barely keeping anything down and I'm being scolded bout money. I hope this makes since I just need something. I want to feel better of course but right now I'm trying to keepy emotions in check.

Oct 20, 2015 5:12 PM

I'm so sorry NewFirbroGirl, families can be great and they can also hurt us more than anyone else. I think a lot of people have a really hard time empathizing with something they cannot understand. Two weeks is not very long to be having to do all of your own self care. When I had my neck surgery my sister came home from Germany for 3 months. Of course I didn't need her help that long but it was nice to have her here with me. We're all here to listen and lean on. You're going through a lot and being emotional seems totally appropriate to me. Be gentle with yourself. Healing takes time. Blessings to you ✌️💜

Oct 20, 2015 5:14 PM

I'm sorry that this is going on. If i may ask what kind of surgery did you have? I ask because most surgeons who understands that their patient has fibro they understand that the pain lasts longer.
How many days ago wad your surgery?

I'm sorry you've been having trouble with your family. It's hard. Sometimes we have to actually ask our family for help. But asking for help is so hard

Oct 20, 2015 5:16 PM

Thanks anonymous.. I love my family and they do try but when I'm down it seems as if I'm just in the way. The surgeon said the same thing u did. As far as me movingore then she thought I should. I'm trying to be careful because I do not want to have anything extra on my plate.as far as injury. Thank you for understanding. I suppose I'll have to scale.back on my activities and just try to rest.

Oct 20, 2015 9:23 PM

Newfibrogirl Im sorry to hear that, that is something I can relate.. :/

Oct 20, 2015 9:29 PM

Thanks all for responding..I've been working to kerp y feeling in line and I've actually been doing really good with tending to me for once. I do hate being down. Being new to this pain world and now having to deal with some odd symptoms that appear to be the flu or something. This is a hard spot but u all know that. I'm just really frustrated right now. Feeling bad and out of control.

Oct 21, 2015 12:44 AM

Sorry for your pain and stress, newgirl, I have so been there, it seems our society doesn't know how to treat the I'll anymore. I get angery when people tell me it's in my head, I just want to slap them upside there's. I insist the doctor listens, if they don't I report them to either hospital or medical board. I know how hard it is to fight when you are on less then empty. If there is anything I can do please feel free to get ahold of me. Clayton.constance@yahoo.com remember there are to many of us for it to be in your head. Love and light moshell

Oct 25, 2015 7:14 PM

Having those kinds of emotions after surgery is normal. Having fibromyalgia and lupus just adds to it. There is an app on Google play called Calm, it's free and each session is about 10min. I have found it very helpful for me when my emotions are getting the better of me. Gentle hugs and lots of love coming your way. It also sounds like u may have reacted to the flu shot. I did. Ended up in the ER for pain meds from my muscles spasming all over my body.

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