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Feeling I don't belong

Mar 28, 2017 10:37 PM

Does anyone ever feel like you don't belong anywhere? I feel that way all the time . There are times I just to myself to go to sleep and I'll feel better in the morning. Which I do but the feeling keeps coming back and I just want to close everyone out and lock the door until I feel better
Thank you ahead of time if you respond.... .

Mar 28, 2017 10:41 PM

Ya. I feel that way frequently... currently... And it's not like you can tell the people around you, especially if they care, because then you just get outy. And pity really makes me feel like an outsider and alone...

Mar 28, 2017 11:03 PM

WestRengirl, I know exactly how you feel. I have been in my deepest depression right now. I sleep all the time and try to make myself sleep more than I need to. I stay at home all the time and I am disconnected from the world. Things feel bleak but I am trying to make myself realizes that I have the power to open my world up. I can not wait til someone comes to rescue me because it probably isn't going to happen. And truth be told, I wasn't really wanting that anyqqway. The pain was just beating me down. So I am just trying to figure out some ways to get some exercise and reach out to some people to talk too. Plus I figured I would come back here and say hi.

Mar 28, 2017 11:58 PM

Sometimes I feel like we need just one "fuck it" moment to push us out of our slump. Ya pain happens and it sucks, fuck it I'm going outside. Ya people constantly act weird or are full of pity, fuck it I'm going out for drinks. Ya I'm alone in this pain and no one around me understands, fuck it I'm going to do that class I've always been curious about. Just one "fuck it" moment and maybe it will make a difference later on. Maybe not with the pain, but screw the pain. Sometimes, when we are able, we gotta try to not care about the pain and just say "fuck it". At least, that's how I try to get my life back and rejoin the world of the normals, at least for a little bit.

Mar 29, 2017 3:16 AM

Westrengirl yep that is exactly how I feel most of the time....To be more precise I feel like I'm sitting on the sidelines of life where I'm watching everyone else live their lives, that they're moving forwards​ and I'm out of reach just watching everyone else, including my kids.
This is why I'm trying to get myself back and doing exactly what JazzHallinan said with the "fuck it" moment.....I couldn't find a better way of putting it, thanks JazzHallinan 😉
This is how I found my new boyfriend, I had had enough of being left on the sidelines in my life and I wanted something for me. To be honest I wasn't expecting on finding​ someone I was just looking and Eharmony had a free weekend and I started talking to this person and we seemed to click and here I am with a new boyfriend!!!
We've been seeing each other for nearly a month now and things are going well and with him I don't feel like I'm left on the sidelines, I actually feel like I'm taking part in my life but I still feel detached in other areas.
I'm pushing myself to not feel detached in my kids lives which sometimes works but I'm still very much detached from the rest of life and not fully functioning at home most days and falling behind on everything 😢 but I've referred myself to a couple of charities and organisations like Mind (mental health charity) where I'm doing a course which is a bit like group therapy and confidence building programme and they are helping me out together a budget so I know what goes in and out so I don't over spend. Also referred to Live Well which is an organisation which will help me build myself​ up to go to the supermarket without needing someone with me and help organise myself at home.

I'm trying to push myself so I'm not on the sidelines of life and feel detached from everything, some stuff I've tried has worked but others haven't but I'll keep plodding along until I can get myself to where I want to be x

Mar 29, 2017 6:52 AM

Profiler it's so good to see you here! We have missed you!

I can understand how you feel Westerngirl, because when the pain is done with me I feel weak and I'm not able to do anything but I am usually pushing myself to hard

Mar 29, 2017 9:46 AM

@profiler please update we have missed you! I have been trying to pm you and it says you are using an older version. Glad you are back! Maybe you are posting on CMP and we have Pain Companion now so we can private message!!!

Mar 29, 2017 1:58 PM

Thank you everyone . Everything you all said got me thinking . And I will one day get myself to take a step forward instead of a thousand steps back .

Sezzy I am happy for you . ☺☺☺☺

Mar 29, 2017 2:20 PM

I often feel like I was born in the wrong era. Anyone else?

Apr 01, 2017 7:56 PM

I totally know what you feel about not fitting in. You know those quizzes on Facebook about the most commonly used words? Believe it or not my most commonly used word was pain! Gasp!
I seriously found that embarrassing and tried really hard to focus and not use that word anymore.

Apr 01, 2017 8:19 PM

Julianna. I honestly don't even get on Facebook anymore . I personally don't trust it . But I do understand what you are saying . There is a lot of words I didn't realize I said a lot until my daughter got in trouble at school for saying them . So my family together as a team is trying to support each other . 😊 I feel like I fit in more on here .

Apr 02, 2017 1:12 PM

I now have pain companion. So I am up to date.

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