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Feeling like retreating to my island

Apr 04, 2016 11:28 AM

It's been a whirl wind of activities and drama for me and family. Pain as been extra high I've hit the wall several times this weekend and getting medical help seems to be getting harder and harder . my sister says she went to the ER thinking she was having a heart attack. And now says that her shoulder and neck are all locked up . I say it like that since this is the same sister who told me I grown to much and why don't I cry to the drs like I do to my family. So anyway mom and I went to her house to help her out. So I was down playing my pain and issues so she could get the attention. Of course when I got home I crashed the pain flooded in.
So long story short. I feel like just shutting down. No one really around to talk to. And I kind of feel like maybe I should just shut up and be in pain.

Apr 04, 2016 12:14 PM

Whoa babygirl ,you can call me or anyone of us ...your sister is a whack job...and you are a Loving caring sister, and daughter. Promise me you will utilize all the coping skills we teach each other and instead of giving up on your self because of the pain ...breathe through it, relax, pray, and stay grateful. You are one hell of a woman, yes today is rough, but you have the spirit of a fighter and the heart of Jesus. I love you. You ready to buy an RV and move next to me in my trailor park??? Lol, imagine just imagine having to live next door to cra cra! Lol

Apr 04, 2016 12:42 PM

I wish I could help you get away from that mess. Mental state causes physical pain, and we ned a lot more quiet time than others to recharge. You've done your duty and more to help people who don't seem to get it, and you are polite to them even when they abuse you.
Hold on, darling. The only way things will change is if you are here to make and embrace it. The easiest thing to do is take that next breath, so sit and be lazy. Distract yourself with your favorite book or a funny show or video online.
You deserve every good thing simply because you are alive, and we all want you to have the best.

Apr 04, 2016 12:50 PM

I'm with PrincessChaos. Spoil yourself and take the time to recharge. Reading is one of my favorite escapes from pain (if it isn't above 8/10 at the time). I just pile my squooshy pillows up, get my ice packs and TENS, and settle into my own personal fort! Any novels that you are interested in recently?

Apr 04, 2016 5:33 PM

Thanks to everyone here.. Terri..I'm.not quote ready for trailer park living yet.. To much of the city girl still in me..but thanks for keeping the olive branch out.. Princess and flown thanks for your kind words. I'll be honest I'm still struggling with a lot of things and still feel stressed but I'm trying to keep my hope held high. Not being able to get the medical treatment I need when it's so close to me is frustrating. It's just a few thousand dollars between me and better health.. Ha..lol...over had TMJ pain for over a month and it looks like Ive got another month to go before I might could get the help I need. So it's an adjustment. But I'm trying and for now I'll postpone my trip to the island..

Apr 04, 2016 6:38 PM

Newfibrogirl, Your sister should be ashamed of herself. Next time she's ugly tell her to remember her pain and multiply having it 24-7-365 for the rest of her life. And she'd still have it much easier than you.

When you say city girl, how big of a city are you talking about? Our city has several, but they're in rural areas mostly. We raised our girls in one in the country... A whopping 15 minutes from here! Lol And now I completely understand what you mean about being a city girl. My hubby says he wants to move back to the country so he can have enough land to have a garden & tractor. He just really wants the tractor. 😉 But I told him I'm too much of a city girl now to ever be more than 10 minutes from anything I need to go to. Lol🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 04, 2016 6:45 PM

Thanks flappys.. I don't know what to say about my sister.. I'm to the point I'm done trying to get them to understand.
I have live in a merto area about half the size of Huntsville. But I'm in the retired area of the city so things are slower more personable.. I love the true county except for the mosquitoes ants the heat and sweat..ha..lol

Apr 04, 2016 6:53 PM

Hey now us trailor trash girls are the best!!!!/
Actually let me clarify, we chose a fifth wheel..instead of a regular house. It was all because of me and the fact it is easier to tidy, and relocate when we can/ want to visit other places...but the only place I really wanna go is Austin, Texas... My grandson is there so I will set my fifth wheel roots there..I love cities but I do enjoy living outside in more country town...when I was younger I adored Dallas!!

Apr 04, 2016 6:56 PM

Terri.personally I think no matter if u live inna trailer or on park Ave. You would be a cool chick..but hey if u ever do end up on park Ave or anywhere near it remember we cousins.. Lol and I love to visit family.. Lol..park Ave has the best shopping ever..

Apr 04, 2016 7:09 PM

I had never heard that phrase in my life until a couple of years ago & from a very good friend, of all the dumbfounded things!! Trailer Trash with capital letters, she was speaking of an area of town with a resort feel where another friend of guess who's had a 5th wheel home. I know my mouth fell open & my eyes got huge! In my family that would get you a bar of soap to drink!!! Now I realize it can be used as humor! I sure hope you listen to Terrirules & not your sissy.

Apr 04, 2016 8:10 PM

Why shoot, we have those darn skeeters in my little city/town! Lol 😉

Apr 04, 2016 8:12 PM

Who said we're trash Terri? Only rich people who don't take out their own trash, so they wouldn't know it if they saw it. 🙄😉

Apr 04, 2016 8:13 PM

Not to sound dumb but what's a fifth wheel? Lol

Apr 04, 2016 9:46 PM

Terri, you are not the only one who adores Dallas. If anything, I would much prefer to be there rather then stuck in Delaware. My dad and stepmom are in Richardson. So if I could go anywhere it would be there, minus the tornados and the snakes(don't get me started on that one either). LMAO!!!

Apr 05, 2016 5:40 AM

Terri, I asked my hubby what a fifth wheel was and he laughed at me. Then told me it's the travel trailers that hitch up into the truck bed. And I was like, "oh. I really feel dumb!". It must have been the fibro fog!😉 Lol. But seriously, that sounds like an awesome way to live, being able to move around to different states and visit family without imposing. It's definitely not like the trailers I lived in. 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 05, 2016 9:44 AM

That is my dream, to get a little travel trailer and just roam around.
When I grow up (63 now ) I want to be a silver alert!

Apr 05, 2016 9:45 AM

Flappys.. Don't feel bad I was the same way.. I just didn't say anything

Apr 05, 2016 9:53 AM

There is not much you can do when a loved one doesn't understand . My mother is 90, I am 63 and she mostly thinks I am faking it. I gave up being hurt angry and offended. This would be hard to fake for over 20 years so I have to put it down to her being in denial. She can't face watching me be in pain the rest of my life and her not being able to do anything about it, so she pretends it isn't real. I pretend she can't help it. We get by. I lean on my other means of support and protect myself as much as possible.

Apr 05, 2016 6:42 PM

You know you are probably onto something Weeroo, about your mom not wanting to watch you hurt. When my mom was so sick my granddaddy cried, saying he couldn't bury his daughter. He was 90, her 65. He died in March before she died the following July. And when I'm in real bad shape I can see the pain in my dad's eyes & hear it in his voice as he tells me to take care of myself. 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 05, 2016 8:08 PM

I agree with you both. My mo..has told me that it hurts her to see me in pain. She is sad because she can't hug me without hurting me. I can understand how painful it can be to see someone you love in pain or sick and can do nothing to help. It a delicate dance to find the line where u are caring for yourself properly and still trying to understand and be kind to those who love u.
But sadly even with all this.some people ( the healthy) manage to walk this walk with us in compassion but others just give up and choice to cruel by nkt accepting the reality of what is.

Apr 05, 2016 11:33 PM

New...didn't see everything and words are blurring right now, my sis does the same thing, and it's hard to deal with. You sound like me today. I feel like just curling up in a ball, and just let the pain take me. I've been trying to just let it wash over me today, but that's not going too well.

Apr 06, 2016 8:26 PM

Stay strong Ferretbandit. Rest and hang on sweet girl. Hugs & prayers tomorrow will be better for you! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 07, 2016 3:04 AM

There's nothing I can say that everyone else hasn't already said!
I know how you're feeling though! I hope things start to look up for you, apart from that just be over caring and over the top nice to your sister I've found it annoys them more when you're nice ! Although the sometimes the energy levels are not there to do this!
I wish u all the best hugs and kisses! ❤️

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