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Mar 18, 2016 7:11 PM

Although my pain hasn't been too bad today my mood is really low. I have spoke on here about problems with my Mum but I know it's not that although I don't know what it is. I'm thinking a lot about my ex and I'm trying my best not to contact him but I can't say it's him I'm feeling down about either. It's just he would be the one I would usually turn to when I'm feeling down. I don't know what to do to pick myself up. I have done nothing but moan lately and I'm just feeling really unhappy.

Mar 18, 2016 7:21 PM

I am sorry spiritualgirl that you are feeling low and lonely. This is a nice place to turn to to get the support you want but there is nothing better than a physical person in front of you that you can lean on and trust with your feelings. Many of us do not have that because our loved ones don't understand what we a re going through but they do love us none the same. I am here without my rant from yesterday to listen to you. So I will look back from time to time to see what you have to say. I will listen if you want me to. Say what you can let others hear and we will offer comfort for you. I hope today was a better day with your mother though. I know being a caregiver can be very tough.

Mar 18, 2016 7:43 PM

I understand where u are coming from it is hard to not turn to the one your use to . but u have us. We are for you. If u like u can join the fire circle group we have formed here if u need faster response. But as for how u feel now. I say feel your feelings. Your come up when u have dealt with what has u down. Maybe u just meet to rest. We r here for u.

Mar 18, 2016 8:31 PM

I haven't seen my Mum. We aren't speaking since we had that argument the other day. Maybe I feel guilt there I don't know. I just don't feel myself at the moment. I am not happy in my life but I'm not sure why. Maybe now I'm away from my Mum I'm a bit lost. Maybe I am so used to looking after her I don't know what to do with myself.

Mar 18, 2016 8:31 PM

Hi SpiritualGirl,
I am so sorry that you are feeling low today. It is understandable for you to think about your ex considering that he was the go to person for you in the past. I agree that you should allow the feeling to run its course. I pray that it will pass soon.

Mar 18, 2016 8:48 PM

Thanks AngelicSmile your name actually made me smile 😊 I hope it's just a down day and it does pass. I'm thinking too much I need to try and switch off. xx

Mar 18, 2016 8:50 PM

I have to say yes it will pass.give had several down days and down moments and we all have and will..so just lesn on us and we will halp u get through it.

Mar 18, 2016 8:56 PM

Thank u. My best friend gets married next week and I just don't want to burden her. She has enough to deal with. I just feel like I have no one. I'm tired of being tired all the time and sore. I miss my friends and my life. We all do but I feel like they are sick of me being sick and tired of my excuses not to meet them so they have give up.

Mar 18, 2016 8:56 PM

Glad my name made you smile. Don't think so much. Just try to relax and take life one day at at time. If that is too much, take it a minute at at time. Also try to focus on happy things that you like to do. For me, I love all kinds of music and reading the Bible especially the Psalms. When I am feeling low I surround myself with uplifting music and meditate on the word of God.

Mar 18, 2016 9:09 PM

I have just started my own girlband so music is definitely helping. As for the bible I haven't read it much lately which is awful as I remember how peaceful I used to feel reading it before bed. I haven't done that in a long time. I've been to tired to do anything. x

Mar 18, 2016 9:13 PM

Good that you have your music. Focus on that. It is a healer for the mind. It always put me in a happy place and put a smile on my face.

Mar 18, 2016 9:29 PM

SpiritualGirl, I'm sorry you are feeling so depressed. We all go through it from time to time. It's possible the argument with your mom may be part of it. And the fact that your ex was who you use to turn to and now you can't, that's a factor too. As Angelicsmile said, music and Bible reading helps me a lot. Let your music be an outlet for healing. Hugs & prayers you will see a light in the darkness soon! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Mar 18, 2016 9:36 PM

Thank you FlappysLady! I think a lot has been going on in a short space of time and it's all got too much for me. As u say we all go through it and hopefully as time goes by I will learn to count my blessings and remember that there are people who have it so much harder. Right now though I can't seem to stop feeling sorry for myself and crying. Maybe. I just need to let it all out. I just wish I could turn to my best friend but I cannot spoil her special time xx

Mar 19, 2016 1:12 AM

Spiritualgirl, listening to your post, you seem like a real nice person. I am sorry you are having a hard time with your friends. I think if they are still your friends, then they know things must be hard on you even though they do not understand. How can someone understand chronic pain unless they have it, right? I imagine that must be disappointing to you as well as them when you can't meet up with them. They sound disappointed. Sounds like it is because they will miss you and they still care about them. Do you still keep in touch with them on the phone though? I am sorry you are having a down day. You know, the book of Psalms is a very uplifting book when you are feeling low. Sometimes, I stay away from reading the bible because I always think I have to read a couple chapters. But maybe it will make you a little more cheerful if you make it your goal to read a few verses from Psalms. I only say that because of your name. Best wishes for a better day tommorow. You say mum, are you from the U.K. I think that would be cool. I always wanted to go there.

Mar 19, 2016 4:33 AM

I know I think I will read the bible again as I know how it made me feel before when I used to read. Even if it is only a few chapters a night. I know my friends do understand but they have moved on with other friends and partners now as they know asking me will probably be a no so they figure what's the point. Yes I was actually going to type Mom before as most of you guys seem to be from the US and type Mom lol. I am from Ireland but I always say I should have been American. I love everything about America - I am visiting the states in June. It will be my first time and I'm really excited. I'm going to LA. I guess that's something to keep looking forward to. I definitely need a break. Where are you all from? x

Mar 19, 2016 9:44 AM

SpiritualGirl I feel low everyday even though some days my pain level is low. I still have anger and hate towards my ex because he made me crazy lost self-esteem, friends and everything i used to be. I totally understand ur low/depression :)

Mar 19, 2016 9:54 AM

Profiler, I'm in the US and I noticed that several ppl here use different vocabulary like 'mum' I guess Pain Companion is in other countries. I like seeing all of the different words :)

Mar 19, 2016 10:38 AM

I am from Virginia in the U.S. It is pretty here. I live in a small town surrounded by mountains. It is a nice state. Are you going to travel while you are in the U.S? I don't subscribe to the idea that the idea that the U.S is better than other countries. I don't think you were saying that. Some people over here think that. I think all countries have something great to offer as far as their history, geography, and people. I love people from all backgrounds. I just wish I could understand them all. If I had a few wishes granted. I think that would be one of them. I have always wanted to visit your country to, spiritualgirl. From what I have seen, it is beautiful. I also want to visit Scotlant and the U.k. That area would be my favorite place to travel. I am just afraid of planes. I know they are safe but I would feel better if they were held up in the sky by a chain or something. Lol. I think it is good you are considering some bible reading. I think it will cheer you up. I am sorry that you feel low though. I hope you are having a better day today.

Mar 19, 2016 3:30 PM

I'm in the U.S. Currently in Port St Lucie Florida but will be heading to New Jersey for the spring and summer months. However I was born in Jamaica and migrated to the U.S. when I was age 9 and lived in Massachusetts.

Mar 19, 2016 6:57 PM

Angelic, you sure have been all over the place!!!! How awesome that you had the experience to go to the places you did. I always wanted to go to Jamaica but never had anyone to go with, would have no idea of where to go AND at this point, am just too sick to go. Thanks for sharing your story!! {{{Hugs}}} 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Mar 19, 2016 7:29 PM

Alwayzinpain,
I really did not give any thought to the places that I have lived as it was a part of my journey. I guess you are right though, in looking back it is kool experiencing life in the various places.

Truth be told when I first moved to Florida from Massachusetts in 1989, I was actually running away from a very abusive marriage. As such, I did not see or experience the beauty of this awesome state. Then is 2011 I got married (again), this time to a most wonderful man. That marriage took me to New Jersey where my new husband resides.

Then in 2012 I suffered a bad
auto accident in New Jersey and also a slip and fall accident at work exactly five months after the auto accident and injured my left knee very badly.
Both accident triggered my Fibromyalgia and so my husband and I decided to move back to Florida for a better quality of life in the winter months. Hence, we became Florida snow birds.

So now we reside in Florida during the Fall and Winter months and New Jersey in the Spring and Summer months, at least for now. I am hoping that by the end of this year we will be in Florida for good.

Now you have the full story... lol.

Mar 19, 2016 7:46 PM

AngelicSmile, you are not suppose to tell people you are from New Jersey. Lol. I was born and raised the first ten years of my life in New Jersey. Then I moved to Virginia and everyone made fun of me even though I said nothing back and just smiled at them. They just couldn't stop. They would ask would exit I lived off of and they would make this weird really nasally sound talk that they thought was from New Jersey but sounded not even like someone who was born in the city of New York. Because I am sure all New Yorkers don't talk that way. May family from North New Jersey does. They are far from New York City.. But I was from the South and I don't think they have hardly any accent. That has been what has been described of me and my family. So I don't think their jokes have any knowledge to them. I liked New Jersey. I loved living by the Ocean. I lived a few miles from Toms River. I liked going to Seaside. Do you know if they ever rebuilt it after it burnt down.? I was sad to hear that. I had so many good memories there. I hope you get to move to Florida like you want to though if it will help you feel better. I would never want to live there myself. I could not take the heat. Anything above seventy five degrees and I feel like it is hard to breath and I got to stay inside in the air conditioned house. But I am happy you like it there. I am sure it is a nice place to live.

Mar 19, 2016 7:58 PM

Profiler, that is so funny.
I'm really not from New Jersey but I can relate to the North Jersey accent. Lucy for us, we live in South Jersey. I've only lived there for 3 years so I do not know much about the ocean side of Jersey. I'm glad that you have so many good memories though.... that is wonderful :-)
I think because I was born in Jamaica I do not mind the heat or direct sun. I am more active in the warm weather than the cold. So I am really praying and trusting the Lord that we will settle in Florida.

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