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Feeling of guilt

Aug 11, 2017 10:40 AM

Hi everyone. 😊 okay so now I am feeling happy that I did my surgery but.. at the same time I can't help but to feel guilt . I keep asking myself did I take the easy way out .🤔 is this like a step of healing or maybe grieving ? I mean is this a normal reaction ? I do give up easy on things if they get too hard and I know there's a out then I go for it . So maybe I did take the easy way out . Idk 🤔🤔 Anyways. Thank you everyone for any advice ((Gentle hugs))

Aug 11, 2017 10:50 AM

You should take the easy way out to be pain free.

Aug 11, 2017 11:05 AM

Thank you 🤗🤗 I am so Thankful to be pain free. I hope the guilt goes away soon tho

Aug 11, 2017 12:04 PM

I think the surgery u had has a lot to do with us feeling like women. I also had it and I think I had to grieve that loss to heal emotionally. ❤️

Aug 11, 2017 1:01 PM

I don't think you need to guilt trip yourself! You deserve a pain free and happy life.... proud of you!

Aug 11, 2017 1:19 PM

@Frustrated. Thank you 🤗🤗 you're right . I need to allow myself to feel the way I need to so I can get through the emotional part of it. . I think the emotional part is worse then the pain was .

Aug 11, 2017 1:20 PM

@Nienie 🤗🤗 Thank you. I appreciate that a lot . 💕💕

Aug 11, 2017 4:15 PM

Aww I'm sad you feel like that, You should be able to take the easy option! You are no less of a person for doing that surgery, I think you are just grieving but i think the feeling of guilt will go, I'm proud of you 💕

Aug 11, 2017 6:02 PM

@Littlelola Thank you 💞💖

Aug 11, 2017 6:41 PM

Frustrated- I can relate to your comment. When my grandfather died I was devastated. I've been diagnosed for major depression, PTSD, anxiety disorder, and OCD. SO I got really depressed... I couldn't get pass that he was gone and I didn't make it to Chicago when he died. I live in Texas. I had to go to out patient treatment for my depression. I thought in my mind that if I didn't continue to grieve then somehow I was forgetting him.?? To me I deserved to be in emotional pain because I wasn't there in his last moments. It was until I adjusted my thinking and forgave myself did I start to heal. I still working on that at times.

Aug 11, 2017 8:54 PM

@MochaBarbee. I understand what you mean . The same thing happened with me when I lost my grandpa in 07. I was over 4000 miles away and couldn't be their . Letting go is always a hard thing to do. But forgiving ourselves seems to be the hardest thing in the world . May they both R.I.P. .

((Gentle hugs))

Aug 11, 2017 10:59 PM

I don't think you took the easy way out. You had surgery which requires patience, healing, pain, and lots of emotion. I wouldn't say that's easy!

Aug 12, 2017 1:22 AM

Westrengirl you so right.

Aug 12, 2017 10:28 AM

@Valdeen. Thank you. I will give this more time . My doctor wants me to go back to counselling but I am so done with that .

Aug 12, 2017 10:28 AM

@MochaBarbee 🤗🤗🤗🤗

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