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Feeling useless

Jan 29, 2016 6:19 PM

Hi all. I hope your day has been good.
Due to lack of sleep, and increased pain due to weather fluctuations I'm in an emotional slump. I know i need to rest and take care of myself but i just feel so useless. I'm supposed to be getting the house ready to sell but I haven't been able to get the energy to even go check on the property let alone paint or fix things. I should be doing housework and laundry in the house we are living in but I can't seem to do that either. I shouldn't have drove home from work because of how i was feeling (i layed on the floor and tried not to cry for the last hour, luckily i don't work in the public eye) but I needed to do something useful so i stopped at the butcher shop to get meat for supper. I think i figured out how bad i was doing when i couldn't park my car, apparently the normal spaces were too small (i panicked and was convinced my car wouldnt fit in the space) and i needed a space and a half. I also tried to repack the dishwasher... it took me an hour to do that. Currently i have no interest in the things that i would usually find fun. Does anyone have any suggestions (besides sleep because i would sleep if i could) on how to pull myself out of this slump?

Jan 29, 2016 8:35 PM

I'm sorry u feel so horrid. I'm just now coming out a bad slump myself. Sadly the only thing I know is to suggest what u r doing now. Talking about it. Let your feeling out no matter how dark u think they r. The more u let out and sheed light on things the more power u will gain.
I understand feeling useless its a daily fellinfe I have to deal with . when ur body won't allow u to do the things u want to do its hard to except. Just know u are doing the best u can and when u csan do more u will. Until then ask for help. Maybe xsall and get a moving party started have snack and drinks and everyone comes over and puts things away and helps straighten up.
I know how it is to judge what to do when ur in pain. I drive in pain too and it can be dangerous but I'm sure u know how far to push it. I also suggest u rest. Even if u r not sleep just laying down or sitting in your favorite chair watching a show.
Do u have any mindfulness games? I use mental yoga to help me slow my mind to focus on something else so my body can slow down.
I hope u get rest soon and some of these things fs help

Jan 29, 2016 10:17 PM

Gotobef, it sounds like you're suffering depression and stress because you're trying to cope with selling one house and taking care of the other one. Do you take anything for depression? If not maybe you should let your doc know how you've been feeling. I think most of us have depression because of all we are trying to deal with.

It's hard to feel useful and productive when you look at all hat needs doing, and just feeling absolutely overwhelmed. I use to be so organized, but now my house (1 room really) is a disheveled mess. I get frustrated because I plan to work on it all then get sidetracked and accomplish nothing.

Newfibrogirl's suggestion of a moving party sounds good. Maybe you could do that. Sending hugs & prayers this gloomy cloud will soon pass! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jan 30, 2016 5:12 AM

I agree with Flappys, it does sound alot like depression, I also suggest that you see a doctor to get you on some kind of Anti Depressants.

I just recently had to help my adoptive Mom move in 2 days, we ended up having to hire movers to come help pack and move the house. If you can, maybe hire movers. That is if your budget allows you to, it would take a great deal of stress off of you. I will be praying for you! Mean time take it easy and rest.

Jan 30, 2016 9:27 AM

Gotobef, I really can't add much more except that I suffer depression as well and have felt as you do. The suggestion to see a doctor is a good one. You may benefit as I have from an antidepressant. Sending you gentle, reassuring {{{Hugs}}} 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jan 30, 2016 2:24 PM

Thanks ladies.
I know i should get help but antidepressants scare me.
My mom tried most of them after my parents divorced and she went a little nuts on them, not to mention the headaches and vomiting if she was late on a dose.
No one on my moms side has been able to tolerate them, and I'm pretty sure that all my problems are genetic and from that family since they are all both physically and mentally unwell, so I'm scared to try. I'm also afraid that if I get on one that I won't be able to come off it, and I hate taking drugs.
There is also already the issue i have with being taken seriously being a 29 year old female with the diagnosis of fibro. I'm 100% sure that having fibro and depression as diagnosis will ensure that no one ever takes any concern I have seriously ever again. The stigma is still there, society pretends its not but it is.
I'd like to try any and all alternatives to medication (that wont get me fired) before I try drugs.

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