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Feeling useless

Jul 19, 2015 7:50 AM

So, yesterday I stayed in all day but did quite a big list of housework. Kinda knew I'd pay for it today, but I suppose was just wishful thinking! So today, another lovely sunny day, me and the kiddies are indoors. I'm glued to the sofa feeling so down, and zapped of all energy, sore from head to toe. Meant to have done more housework, or at least played with the kids, but my partner is gonna get home from work and nothing has been done :( Sorry for the whinge, just feeling frustrated and upset

Jul 19, 2015 9:58 AM

It's ok Sarahjane. We all tend to overdo it & pay for it later, on days we feel good. Board games, I-Spy, and activities like that are good for the kids and easy on you. We use to draw together... One makes a mark (shape, lines, zigzags, etc) on a page & passes it on to the next person who adds their mark, and on & on until all the marks become something, abstract of not. It's a way of letting them be creative and spend time together.

It's a hot sunny day here and we have things to do but I'm just extremely tired. I've already taken a nap this morning. I plan to take it easy. You rest and recoup from yesterday. We're not superhuman. Actually some days very far from it! Lol 🙏🌼

Jul 19, 2015 10:40 AM

Thankyou so much FlappysLady
I got a nap this afternoon while my eldest was out playing and my youngest cuddled into me. Just got up and did the dishes and prepared the side dish for tonight. Now sat back down while my youngest is colouring at the table.
The mark making thing is a really good idea! I will use that on a bad day in future :)
Thankyou again!!

I saw your posts about the clinic, good that they're looking at it with new eyes. 💙

Take care xxx

Jul 19, 2015 3:59 PM

It's now 10pm here and I'm alone and tired, so I'm going to make the most of it, and get some sleep... If my body lets me!

Jul 19, 2015 7:58 PM

SarahJane87, You did housework and because of the issues you have, your pain levels are worse today. First thing you have to remember is that there isn't anyone here that's useless and that includes you!!! I'm sure your children know that you have pain and there are things that you can't do (or do for a long time or several days in a row). I went to be by my Best Friend's side this week when her Sister died. I'm
Still not back to myself. Everything hurts and I invited get over to see her for her birthday and was only able to sit with her for an hour and had to excuse myself. Never apologize for what you called whining. There are no apologies needed and there are no judgements here. Try not to be so hard on yourself and know you have an entire community of people here that understand. Any one of us, including myself, are just a keystroke away. All the best to you.💕😊

Jul 20, 2015 7:10 PM

Sarahjane, A reaching mind use to be part of my insomnia. After discussing sleep issues with my doctor, and hearing his suggestions and trying to follow as best as I can, I rarely have reaction thoughts keep me awake. Some of the things I now do are 1) make a list of to do's about 5-6 pm and lay on kitchen table (so I'm not as likely to see it), 2) watch nothing intense after 8pm, 3) watch something funny or listen to relaxing music or read 1 your before bed, 4) go to bed and get up at the same time every day (even on sleepless nights), 5) never stay in bed trying to talk asleep longer than 30 minutes... Get up and sit in a chair and read.

It took me two months but I'm sleeping much better at night, without the racing thoughts.

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