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Fiance having trouble coping

Oct 12, 2016 1:42 AM

We finally got me a diagnosis. I have fibromyalgia and as happy as I am to have a diagnosis I'm scared for the future.
My fiance is thinking of all the things I won't be able to do and he has to go to therapy to help himself come to terms. He said this might even be a deal breaker. What on earth do I do?

Oct 12, 2016 3:03 AM

Hang in there sweetheart πŸ€— give him some space to get his head straight 😚 ...its not about what u cant do... but all the things you can do. 😊 he loves u... hes just frightened πŸ€— ...u are still the same person inside ⚘ he will come round πŸ€—

Oct 12, 2016 9:07 AM

LittleMilk -
Am so sorry. It has to be a hard thing for your fiance to learn. When you love someone you want to "fix" them when they are hurting. They can't fix this. Am glad he is willing to talk to someone to help him work through the emotions he is going through. (((gentle hugs)))

Oct 14, 2016 2:44 AM

Wow littlemilkflower...I am at a loss of words for you. My heart aches for you and the situation you are faced with...

I think the best thing you can do is find out what works for both of you in terms of changes to routine and certain compromises you have to make.

It is a big adjustment to both of you, take your time and be patient with each other. Remember that you are not your pain or your condition.

I hope that everything works out - we are all here for you🌸

Oct 14, 2016 7:01 AM

Oh, Milk flower I am so sorry to hear about the diagnosis. But I know that you are relieved to have a name for the pain. As far as your fiancΓ©e is concerned I think he is doing the right thing by going to therapy. Maybe even see if you both can go together, that is the therapy, I think it would help you both sort through both your emotions and help both of you cope better on how to deal with it together. He'll come around. Sending you supportive and loving gentle Hug's and Prayer'sπŸ™πŸ˜˜πŸŒΉ and some sunshine to brighten up your day! πŸ˜‰πŸŒž

Oct 14, 2016 11:20 AM

LittleMilkFlower, give him some some to let the info settle in and realize that he loves YOU and he loves ALL of you (good and bad) and things will work out. I'm sure he is thinking that you're going to change and be always laying around waiting for him to come home and take care of you. That's not how it will be. You're strong and you'll figure it ours

Oct 16, 2016 2:29 AM

We talked and he is coming around to it. He's getting his meds looked at and he's still wanting to do therapy. Things have gotten way better.

Oct 16, 2016 3:52 AM

That is such wonderful news!!! Super happy for you🌸

Oct 16, 2016 5:44 AM

Keep your chin held high lovely. I'm a firm believer that all good things come to those who are patient, understanding and caring considerate souls. Life shouldn't have to be hard. Hell it's not supposed to be πŸ€—πŸ˜
With time every thing will work and even if it does go a different course, believe in yourself. Geeze wish i could take my own adviceπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Best of luck πŸŒΌπŸ’œ

Oct 16, 2016 6:07 AM

Littlemilkflower
I was also diagnosed with fibromyalgia beginning of the year. It is a very emotional time especially when you realise what it's all about and you're scared for the future. But remember science will come to our rescue. They had a breakthrough this year in finding out exactly what causes this syndrome. Apparently we have to many nerve ending receptors in our hands and that causes all the pain, fatigue fibro fog etc. there are many articals on this and hopefully we will be able to get some relieve or even a cure for this.
Keep your chin up drink your meds and sort out what works for you.
Some tips: cannibis oil, meditation and gentle yoga helps for me. The pain is manageable but the cognitive impairment is what's getting to me.
Hope you can find some relief and you have all these supporters on this group to help you through anything! We can never stop hoping!!! πŸ€—πŸ‘

Oct 16, 2016 6:28 AM

Sending you hugs... This is my biggest fear to be honest.... I tell Tree all time that I am afraid he will say enough enough and get tired of me not doing things why I can't wait for some one I see to help me get me on some meds to relieve me so maybe I can start to live a little I don't expect to be jumping outta planes or running marathons just living moving some... I am thankful he is coming around.... I think I hope if u love some one truly then u should and would be there for them no matter what and learn on things together but I'm old school n weird lol not many believe in these things any more or even the stay n work it out factor.... Sending u hugz before I really go of on a tangent lol

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