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Fibro fog get you in trouble?

Jan 19, 2017 11:30 PM

Ever have one of those days where the fibro fog was so bad that everything you said and did was so wrong that everyone was just pissed at you?
That was today. I couldn't do anything right. If forgot to give my daughter money she needed for work. Then, I forgot to get my parents medicine, not once, but twice. Had to got out and get it. I couldn't form a coherent sentence all day long. I kept starting and stopping. I would stop and catch my breath and counting the three and starting over. All the while everybody is look at me like I'm an idiot. And then, the sarcastic tone of voice comes out of the " friends" who don't get it. I even had one person unfriend me on Facebook because she did not understand what I wrote. I took full responsibility and apologized and explained what I meant to say without blaming my fibro, but as of yet no response. Even this babbling took me forever, due to rewriting to make it make sense. Yes, the pain sucks, but I feel like I'm losing my mind.
Thanks for listening to my problems. I needed an outlet. And, if you have any copy skills or tricks I'd love to here them. The websites are ok, but I'm looking for real life answers.

Jan 20, 2017 3:38 AM

Post its, reminders on your phone, Alexa, and use your support system as much as possible. The fog sucks I know I forget what I am talking about mid sentence lol. I just laugh and I know I seem airheaded but oh well. I know the truth.

Jan 20, 2017 5:31 AM

Oh yes, except I forget things st work or do them badly (misread numbers all the time!) so hard to focus I'm lucky I have a nice boss. I forget which bills I've paid and then the account goes into overdraft. Yes I have to write it all down and even then I don't know where i put the thing I wrote down! I feel you

Jan 20, 2017 7:51 AM

Oh yes it does happen to me too. But am lucky I have good friend and family that help me when those days happen. Cause I've put my finances in trouble more then once cause of that brain fog, even tho I do write most of what needs to be done. So on good days I try to catch up and revise what I had to do.

Jan 21, 2017 4:54 PM

I have bought some blackboard sticky stuff that I've put on my fridge. I write the date plus reminders of what I have to do for the day and two following. A separate part for appointments. It seems to be working. Although sometimes I still forget 😞but it's better than nothing. Hope this helps πŸ€—πŸŒΌ

Jan 26, 2017 10:43 AM

Oh yes, been there done that! Every day now though. 😢

Jan 27, 2017 9:55 AM

Happens to me regularly even when I'm not in a fog.. LMAO!! (Maybe it's meπŸ€”πŸ™„πŸ˜œ) Nah.. it's got to be them!!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Jan 28, 2017 12:55 PM

I'm sorry but I'm a little stuck on how someone would unfriend you on not understanding what you meant, that comes across as a bit shallow on their part. I get that she doesn't understand what you go thro and I myself would (and have done many times recently as my fogginess seems to of got worse) explain that yes I have a condition that causes me problems but it's not my intent to upset people sometimes I just can't get what I want and mean to say out properly then I would give them the links for the spoon theory and the "letter for normals" and if they try to understand then that's great even if they don't fully get their heads round it at least they try.
To be honest anyone who doesn't understand and just unfriends you for no good reason then they are people you don't need in your life.....it is your life to live and to be happy with the choices you make for yourself not choices that are to make other people happy. I will admit it's not easy when you feel everyone is pushing against you but in the end it's your life not theirs and you have just as much right to be happy as anyone else.....I have learnt this the hard way so please be good to yourself and try not to worry about what other people think, you are an amazing person who doesn't need to deal with petty people and their views.

You will have good days and bad days so if people can't understand that then leave them to have their views and do what is best for you.

Sorry I didn't mean to go on but sometimes things hit a cord and I can't help myself!!!!
If I've said anything out of turn please accept my sincerest apologies xx

Jan 29, 2017 3:36 PM

That's a brilliant statement!!! It's not always that easy to remember though.
Thanks for the reminder Sezzy!!

Jan 29, 2017 4:26 PM

LMAO Flappsy!! I'm so glad I already went to the bathroom.πŸ™„πŸ˜³πŸ˜‚

Jan 29, 2017 4:35 PM

My phone is so full of reminders, notes, daily alarms, i think we all can relate

Jan 29, 2017 10:31 PM

Wow this was the most scariest thing dealing with fibro, because I am a 31 yr old mother of two sets of twins and I am active in a lot of things and I thought I was going crazy and I cried when I realized what was going on because this whole Fibromyalgia thing is new to me but the fog was and is a hard thing for me to deal with and I do write everything down and keep reminders

Jan 30, 2017 9:00 AM

Oh wow Cfibro I have trouble running after and trying to remember everything my 14yr and 10yr.
Hats off to you young lady having 2 sets of twins!
I try to do several things to help me....I have one of those mums calendars where there is a section for me and one for each of my two, in that I write any appointments, birthdays and anything else that needs to be done. I also put it into my pocket diary in my handbag and on my phones calendar with lots of reminders set. But I tell you I still forget! I write a shopping list for food (the cheaper supermarkets don't do online delivery and I just can't afford to get a weeks shop in the one that do online delivery) then forget it and end having to change the whole weeks dinners that I'd planned! I'm having to keep track of everything going in and out of my account so I don't forget I've got DD's going out and spend the money but it still happens.
I try to be organised but that normally goes straight out the window as soon as I go into a panic!!!!

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