It's so hard to deal with this chronic pain and not be depressed or have anxiety. I am severely depressed and closed off from everyone with horrible anxiety on top of it. I need to see a therapist so bad but I can't find an office that is accepting new patients. I feel like I'm falling apart and completely alone even tho I'm constantly around my husband and son. How do you cope?
If you don't mind me asking where are you located? Not asking for your address lol just geographically? Deep breathing, in your nose to the count of 4 hold for 4 then exhale slowly for 5 seconds. As you exhale try to relax your body and mind from your head down to your toes. It helps me to keep in mind that I cannot allow myself personally to have a massive anxiety or panic attack in front of my child. It is terribly traumatizing to them. I completely understand feeling alone and desperate with depression and anxiety even when I'm with people. If you are on Medicare you can call them and get names or go to their website. I always look online and read the reviews on doctors. Just remember to breath! You definitely need to talk. There's so many people in this community/family that at one time or another are available to talk. Sometimes just being able to get it off our chests helps. Reach out we are here to help as much as we can. Keep looking for a doctor you will find one. Much love and blessings to you. You are in my prayers my friend.
Lays ha, are you new here? This is a wonderful place where you can voice what is going on. I am sure you would not want to share your deepest and darkest thoughts. That we truly need a therapist for. But if the pain gets too much and you need someone to listen and have empathy, thus is the place. If your family who you know loves you very much doesn't appreciate the pain you are going through and the limitations you are facing, this is a great place to rant about it. We offer suggestions. We tell you what has worked for us. If you have been part of this group, than you know this. I don't know if you know this but every county is suppose to have a mental health office with therapist and provide services on a sliding scale basis. I hope you get the help you need
I didn't give much advice on how to cope. I don't know if you are a religious person, but soothing scripture that incite strength, calmness, peace, and courage is found from the beginning of Psalms on. I have been in a mental hospital twice over fifteen years ago after someone died and then when I was depressed from a long period of time. The things they have you do is talk. When we are depressed, we become introverted. We almost exclude as many people as we can in most cases. So we need to fight to do the opposite. Reach out to friends and family and just keep letting them in. They also show you hobbies to distract you and make you feel good about yourself. Is there some hobby you use to do that made you feel good that can take your mind off things for a while at a time. At the same time make you feel good? I don't think we should bury our problems but distractions help. When I am hurting, I write poetry, it helps me think and work out my problems and it is art. A journal is therapeutic. These are some things that have helped me.
I live in Maryland. Yes I'm new to community and just trying to get the feel of everything. I have a toddler who senses when I'm having a really bad day and having a panic attack. It absolutely killed me when I saw him mimicking me once. That's when I knew I needed help. Sometimes the hardest part is admitting you need the help. I would love someone to talk to just about every day struggles and I'm glad I found it here. Thank you for the encouragement
Laysha this is the place to vent . I've been and still am feeling the same way u r. I've been considering a therapist but with all my other issues i can't see adding another doctor to my list.however I will if need be. I've started using an app I heard of from a wonderful person here. Its called "calm". Its free on play store. It has meditation and relaxation techniques. I've only been doing it for two days but so far so good. But please whatever u do don't feel as if we here won't understand. We will we do we are here for you..
For anxiety you can only do so much when it becomes out of control you can't bring yourself out of it and the longer in it the harder to come back. While they were finding medications to help they gave me Loranzapam well all the basic "pam" drugs work on the same idea. Anyway I would take them only when I couldn't control it which at first seemed all the time then once I got calmed down I didn't need it as much. It really helped and I still have them but have went from a few times a day to a few times a month. It has taken sometime but I finally found a place that takes my state issued insurance. I wish I had an answer but I walked, vented, deep breathed, prayed and everything else and I was to far in the zone. Unfortunately you have to find what works for you so there is no easy answer. I hope you find the right combination that works for you. This is a great place to share, vent and get suggestions. I can guarantee almost all of us if not everyone has been through something similar and all you have to do is start your own topic or jump in on one that is already started.
Welcome Laysha! I'm sorry you're going through such heavy depression and anxiety. It seems the two go hand in hand. I understand how you feel.
My first encounter was post partum and I ended up in a psych center when my baby was 8 months old. I felt so overwhelmed and anxious I'd lock myself in the bathroom crying. My hubby went to our pastor who started therapy with me. But then I went over the edge and shook my baby for crying. I immediately felt horrible, old the worst mother, and I didn't deserve to live. I lost it and clawed myself all over (unknowingly and uncontrollably) to keep from hurting the baby. I was hospitalized the next morning and stayed there 2+ months. I had no idea about depression, anxiety or the affects they have before my hospitalization. I'd felt alone and overwhelmed, but a lot had to do with the chemical imbalance in my brain. I was on meds for 8-9 years then off until my 40's, on& off. When I became so sick in 2010 it hit again. I returned to my old psychiatrist for medications (he doesn't believe in psychotic drugs for everyone). He said the chemical serotonin was imbalanced again and is likely need to start on Nortriptyline the rest of my life. I'm to start counseling next week with a psychologist. My hubby is a wonderful man, but he talks too much to hear what anyone else says. I accept that I needed some professional counseling. There's times I've worried I'm going crazy again. But I think I'm just overwhelmed with all my health and lifestyle change.
I shared my experience to let you know how much I understand. Children will mimic what they see us do. But you need an outlet to express yourself. Venting, crying, asking for advice, etc... It's what we are all here doing. We help each other. Profiler's suggestions, of journaling is a very good place to start. It helps to write down your thoughts and feelings, even if you have no one to share it with. And I went to a country health department several times for counseling. They usually makes payments on a sliding scale according to household income & size. My daughter was getting counseling last year for free because she's the only income and there's 6 in her household. She just had to pay for meds, at a huge discount.
Besides counseling and journaling, and here, do you have any hobbies? Have you tried planting flowers, and teaching your toddler how to make mud pies? Or taking walks in the park near your child's Mayo time, so he can sleep in the stroller? I can't cross stitch like I want to, or sew like I use to (OA). But sometimes I still do a little. I also relax in a shower (rain shower head). I read or play brain games (to help the fibro fog). And I listen to "K-Loce" radio, a contemporary Christian music station. It's like listening to contemporary pop or soft rock, but the words of the songs are uplifting. I always end up singing along until my voice gets hoarse. And I have a Bible appi read a lot, and of course this community. I wish you the best in finding what works for you. As others said, we are all different. These are my coping methods. Sending (((hugs))) & praying for you! 🙏🌼
Amanda I live in the White Marsh area of Baltimore County. I want to thank everyone for their suggestions. I really will take them into consideration. I love reading and watching movies but sometimes it's not enough. Sometimes I need someone to talk to and this place is wonderful so here. Thank everyone.
I didn't really notice I was having anxiety or depressed until my husband said something. I told my gp what was going on along with all the pain that keeps getting worse. He prescribed me lexapro 20 mg. It has been my miracle drug. It increases your seratonin (sp?) It has put me in a better mood,,increased my energy level, and helped somewhat with the pain I was asking my gp about maybe being fibro. Just my suggestion, don't know if you've tried it or how it would affect you. I know it is also given to fibro patients.