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finding myself lashing out....

Sep 23, 2015 1:00 AM

Just really feeling frustrated.. Tired as normal. Busy working to get my dad settled with nursing care.get my mom ok with with leaving him. Sister still hurting with broken arm and on top my nephew has a Car accident neat the same spot my niece was killed in a Car accident. Hsvring surgery in two week. And my boyfriend is in am other city working. Feeling as if I'm not Abe to deal with this.. Really just tired of trying. Lashing out at family snapping on boyfriend. Just really feeling alone and so done. Ugh...

Sep 23, 2015 1:35 AM

Newfibrogirl2, you are not alone Sweetie!! We are here for you. Right now you have a tremendous amount in your plate and dealing with chronic pain makes it all the harder to deal with everything else. I would try if you can to not think of anything but the moment you are in. I have a very hard time doing that but another community friend actually made that suggestion and it hit home because at the time I was overwhelmed with stress and worrying how I was going to do things. He said, don't think about what will be. The only things we can control are the things happening right this moment. Actually, it's not even control, it's how we deal with issues as they come up. I am sending you {{{{{Hugs}}}}} to let you know that I am here for you and that you are not alone. You will make it through all of this. I will be praying for you and your family. Remember, I'm just a keystroke away. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Sep 24, 2015 10:50 AM

I understand exactly how you feel. I've been really stress plus just got a new job that frowns upon being absent for any reason. And living in alaska with fibro is not an ideal situation lol.

Sep 24, 2015 11:55 AM

So sorry you are going through all this at once! I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. Anytime you need to vent we are here to listen. I'm sending you soothing, healing, and calming vibes with a cyber hug. I hope things settle down soon.

I think we all get tired at times, please don't give up the fight. When you finally win this battle, I hope you can look back and say to yourself "Wow, I did it! It wasn't easy, but I am strong. The results were worth this fight!"

Good luck, and remember we are here for you.

Sep 24, 2015 12:24 PM

New fibro girl It seems sometimes everything happens at once and it is so overwelming. Like Alwayz said stop take some deep cleansing breaths and start with one thing at a time to confront. Always remember it's always darkest before the dawn and God won't put more on us than we can stand. Will be praying for you and family. Hugs sent your way.

Sep 24, 2015 12:38 PM

Thank you all.. I do have an issue with multitasking. Doing as much as possible at once just yo get things off my plate.... But your right...I have stop take a beat and pick one thing to deal with.... My boyfriend is awesome. He took my lashing in stride and got me to admit I was just scared.. My surgery is in about. A week he is gonna meet me in the city the surgery is in and my family us really showy g up for me.. They are really circling me and shielding me from my moms stress.....lol..

.. This community is great and thank you all again for being here. It really helps me to organize my feelings.. Today seems to be a low pain day but I feel like I've been running for five years..my heart is racing and I'm totally washed out.... Gonna try go make it an low key day...has anyone had these physical symptoms ...?

Sep 25, 2015 4:02 AM

Yes, I absolutely have had those symptoms. When I am overwhelmed and can't cope any longer, I feel like my chest is right, my heart races and I sometimes get the shakes. It's not easy to deal with as I already had an anxiety disorder before all the pain issues. Basically I try to do breathing exercises, meditate, listen to music and just try to chill out. I'm sure if you try any of these techniques it should help. If you need to chat, let me know. Sending you {{{{{Hugs}}}}}πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Sep 25, 2015 2:55 PM

Pain is a nasty beast, but throw some fear of the unknown in and look out! I try to watch my words especially when I am hurting. Words can hurt someone more than physical pain sometimes. A slap will stop stinging, but words can make a person second guess their self worth. If you tell someone enough that they are a piece of crap they might start thinking they are. My 'filter' does not always work and painful words can just fly out sometimes. What matters is how you handle it after. Always apologize sincerely. Those closest to you are probably the ones within the strike zone. Just try to be mindful and do not be afraid to be honest, I warn when my pain is too much to deal with. That does not mean that I expect a free pass. I do not feel that it is ever alright to just be mean. Wishing you the best with your up coming procedure. Not making light of pain, but I once made flashcards with my pain number as a warning sign. It was my twisted way to deal during a stressful time.

Sep 25, 2015 3:22 PM

Limb thanks..that is exactly right. And that's a great idea.. I've had the conversation with my mom when I was not in a deep pain. That when I do start acting rough and stand offish to please just let me be... Most times I separate myself from other in order to not burden them with my pain nor to do any undo harm. But u r right..pain has never been an issue with me until the last few years. And recently its getting hard. So thank you all for ur kind words. I do take it all in..

Oct 01, 2015 8:53 PM

LMB, the flashcards are a good idea! Newfibrogirl2, I can't really suggest anything others haven't already. I'm glad you and your boyfriend talked and he's so understanding. I'm praying your procedure goes well. Hugs & a prayerπŸ™πŸŒΌ

Oct 01, 2015 9:15 PM

You are not alone and snapping at family is part of the symptoms of fibromyalgia. When my daughter introduced me to my son-in-law before they got married I heard her tell him one night don't get a fended or angry at her mother because the person he met was not the person that raisedher

Oct 02, 2015 9:14 AM

New, Weezie is absolutely right. It is Always darkest before the dawn and sometimes, I feel like god must have a sense of humor but he doesn't give us anymore then we can handle. Like for me, just recently diagnosed with possible endometriosis. On top of that I have MRSA, 2 compressed discs in my spine which are not fixable, facet joint arthritis(L4-S1), and too much other stuff to list. When I heard the news about the endo, I thought to myself, "Why god why?" Only because of issues that happened in the past, but with lots of help from here and from my family, life is slowly starting to become easier. Please let us know if you need anything.

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