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Frustrating life

Dec 23, 2015 8:10 AM

Life is so frustrating and stressfull.

Dec 23, 2015 8:15 AM

Yes it is but I think that applies to everyone. I think that our chronic pain adds to it double fold because it complicates matters and makes things so much more stressful. I am sorry if you are frustrated and under a lot of stress today. I hope it can get better and someone can possibly offer you a way out if it is that type of situation. But I am sending good thoughts your way.

Dec 23, 2015 8:48 AM


Dec 23, 2015 8:51 AM

I meant if there was a situation that was causing you stress, that someone can help you with. I was hoping that could happen. That did sound wierd the way I wrote it. Sorry about that.

Dec 23, 2015 9:04 AM

Profiler!! Where the hell have you been?!?! I have missed you. I was just going to start a thread asking where you've been. I hope all is well with you? You tend to disappear for a bit and then come back but then I worry when I don't see you. Sending you much love, {{Hugs}} and prayers my friend. I hope that you have a Merry Christmas with your family and that the year ahead brings better things.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Dec 23, 2015 9:40 AM

Alwayz, I was just so sick. I was resting and my breathing got worse. Then my writing and typing arm got in severe pain to where I couldn't even use it to eat. I had to use lidoderm patches on it to cut some of the pain. I have missed you all so very much. I have been thinking of you. I have just been trying to recover. This was the worse pneumonia I have ever had. In the past I would cough up a little tinge of blood but this time I would cough up straight fresh blood into a tissue and there was quite a bit of it. I was scared but I didn't go back to the e.r . I gave the antibiotics a couple of weeks to work. They eventually did. But I am sure it must have made me a little anemic because I was right on the line before then.

Then, when I am gone for a while, it is harder to return because I feel like I have turned my backs on you all but the truth of the matter is when I get depressed, I have to think things through. There has been a couple of times I have been depressed on here and it was a bit too dark. But if I just spin things through my head for a while, I work them out. I wasn't badly depressed. Just having problems with the wife. Sometimes, being the people pleaser that I am, everything is one sided. But when I needed some help with something that was Extremely important to me, she refused. It hurt me. All she had to do was to listen. It took a lot of strength to not retaliate. I have an evil side to me that I work hard not to use. I haven't retaliated against anyone in many many years but when I do, I go for the jugular in words. But I worked through it. I am glad to hear from you though. I missed you a lot.

Dec 23, 2015 9:52 AM

Profiler, I'm so sorry that your pneumonia was so very bad. That sounds very frightening to cough up fresh blood!! It's not something to take lightly. I want you to really hear me when I tell you that there isn't ANYONE here who has EVER thought you turned your back on us. You've always been right here reaching out when we have a bad time and help us get through it. You're a very upstanding, compassionate and wonderful guy that I am happy to call my friend. I am so sorry that you had problems with your wife listening to you. I understand how hurtful that can be and how it can put you in a tailspin when you're not feeling well to begin with. I've been sick myself (over a month) and depression, I think because of the time of year. The weather has been so wonky, my pain levels are soaring and I'm starting to have a Fibro Flare and am already in an RSD Flare. Happy day, a double whammy!! Well, as they say, life goes on and that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I'll get through it, I always do. I'm glad to have you back, Profiler, you're a much needed and admired part of this pain family. I missed you as well. {{{Hugs}}} and prayers.πŸŒ»πŸ™πŸ»

Dec 23, 2015 11:56 AM

Hfgh, I'm sorry you're struggles are overwhelming you. Challenges and struggles are a normal part of life for everyone, but I use to think it was only/mainly adults who went through it. But in finding this community I've learned children struggle and suffer daily as well. I hope you will allow us, this community, to help you through. We've all gone through different struggles throughout our lives. So there are many who may have suggestions to offer you. Either way, please know you don't have to go through this alone. You can vent, cry, talk, share, and no one will judge you. We solo understand chronic pain, though we may have different causes for it. And we all know what being judged feels like. If you're willing to open up, to let us be your support group, we are here for you. And if you'd rather not then that's OK too. Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I truly hope you can find inner strength to get through your struggles!
(((Hugs))) πŸ™‚πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Dec 23, 2015 12:11 PM

@Profiler, You, my friend have been dearly missed! I have missed your words of wisdom, comfort, and humor. You have the ability to make me feel peace when you respond to my posts. Please try not to disappear so long again.

I'm so sorry you've been sick with pneumonia. That can be a brute sickness to struggle through. You make sure to rest and completely heal so you don't relapse. It's sad to hear your wife wouldn't listen to you. Many times those close to us would rather keep a "blind eye" to what's really happening with us. It's scary to them because it's out of their control. Recently when I had to remind my hubby "this is never going away, I'll never be cured," he shared with me how scared he is off losing me. It was so sad to see the fear in his eyes. I told him I hope to be around for many years to come, no matter how painful it may be, and although the sjogrens possess the highest risk so far too my life & body organs, he should trust God to keep it in check. I'll say a prayer for your wife to be willing to talk with you & listen. (((Hugs))) & prayers you will stay well! Merry Christmas sweet friend! β„πŸ™‚πŸ™πŸŒΌπŸŽ„

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