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Oct 06, 2016 10:56 PM

Im going in for surgery on monday and we have been struggling since ive been off work. Now social security is fucking us around and im at my wits end. I cant take it anymore. My wife is stressed out to the max which is taking its toll on me. I could easily walk into the afterlife right now without any hesitation. I should be happy im finally having surgery but all the other emotions are taking over.

Oct 06, 2016 11:26 PM

I am so sorry Mark. It often seems that everything goes wrong at the same time. You know that old saying about you are never given more than you can handle? I think someone over estimated what I could handle.

Take some deep breaths. Try to tackle the problems one thing at a time. Prioritize. When you look at everything that needs to be done it can easily overwhelm but if you break it down to small steps it becomes doable.

Do you and your wife have any hobbies? Have things you enjoy doing together? Find time this weekend for the two of you to do something fun together. If nothing else - pop popcorn and watch a movie together. Anything to take your minds off the stress this world's throwing around and just be in the moment.

Oct 06, 2016 11:27 PM

PS - best of luck with the surgery and recovery.

Oct 07, 2016 2:51 AM

Hang in there. Focus on the surgery... when's it's over, you'll be able to focus on the other crap. The surgery will cause post op pain but relive that awful nerve pain that driving you bonkers. Take care of yourself. Keep supporting your wife. Now is the time to ask for help from friends & family. You're heading towards better times... this surgery will be life changing for you. Just hang in there for your kids... your family needs you and you come through the worst. This won't break you. You've got this... and we all have your back... xxx

Oct 07, 2016 4:35 AM

Mark, I know that the stress and daily bullshit can overwhelm you.. keep your focus on your surgery and recuperation. Everything else will fall into place. Nothing is worth making you "walk into the afterlife". Think of your little girl. Sending good karma, positive vibes and some extra rope to grab onto since you're at the end of yours.. hang in there, you go this mate!!! πŸ’•πŸ˜Š

Oct 07, 2016 5:42 AM

Hi mark... πŸ˜™we are all here for u to vent to buddie.πŸ€— Surgery will help everything to fall into place... and πŸ˜™we are all rooting for u mate. Everything is going to be ok πŸ€—

Oct 07, 2016 8:55 AM

Hi Mark. I understand all the kaotic thoughts you can have before surgery and the great amount of stress that comes with it all. My husbands advice for everything bothering me is "just breathe". I know how annoying hearing that can be but after 16 years together it turns out to be the best advice I've ever gotten. Try to spend some relaxing quality time with those you love doing something fun.

Oct 07, 2016 5:32 PM

Hi Mark, I hope you're doing a bit better today : )

Oct 07, 2016 7:16 PM

Hi all. Im doing a lot better today. Was just very stressful yesterday getting fucked around by social security. Focused on my operation on monday then everything will fall into place from there. Thank you all for your support and well wishes xxx

Oct 07, 2016 7:51 PM

Awesome, best wishes : )

Oct 07, 2016 8:38 PM

Glad to hear things are better today Mark!! Sending good karma your way for a successful surgery and rapid and complete recovery. All the best!!😊

Oct 08, 2016 8:57 AM

I'm glad you are doing better ☺️

Oct 08, 2016 11:20 AM

Glad u r feeling more positive Mate πŸ€— sending good karma ur way πŸ˜™

Oct 09, 2016 4:33 AM

Hi mark, I feel for you. Social Security is doing a number on me as well!! Keep your chin up mate. All will be good soon. Sending you some positive vibes😊

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