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Grief makes me feel numb

Nov 25, 2015 4:47 PM

Yesterday I had to take one of my cats to the veterinary hospital, she looked ill and she wouldn't eat and I was very worried. She stayed overnight to have her put on an IV and her blood analized. Around 30 minutes ago I recieved a call from the veterinary hospital, apparently she had undiagnosed diabetes and passed away due to sudden diabetic shock.

I had very very intense pain earlier from cleaning for hours, but once I got the news my whole body went numb, I feel a light burning in my back but it's not painful. Nothing hurts, I feel very floaty and incredibly nauseous. My heart hurts though. I'm sorry, this forum isn't really for this but I don't know where else to talk about it.

Nov 25, 2015 5:25 PM

Im sorry for your loss. Hugs.
Take care of yourself

Nov 25, 2015 5:27 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my service animal suddenly also and my heart broken in ways I never knew were possible. As for your pain. For me my emotions are certainly tird to my pain. When I'm stressed angry and even when I'm happy. If I ha r any level of emotional upset to any degree it causes pain. So yes its possible. And this forum is to come and receive comfort support encouragement. So its no problem to come and vent rant or just say what up. We are an open closely knit family. There is always someone here to listen. So welcome to family

Nov 25, 2015 6:55 PM

I am really sorry for your loss.

Nov 25, 2015 9:13 PM

Very sorry for your loss.

Nov 25, 2015 10:32 PM

I'm so sorry, I haven't replied cuz I felt the simple response wasn't...real.
Grief is terrible, and losing your pet (aka family or best friend) can be horrible. I know a summer ago, my godmother's cat was dying. Now, you might be thinking "not your cat, not the same thing!"

Anyway, her kitty Tara was like her daughter(or best froend), they cuddled and hung out, and took walks together. She was 16, but acted very young until she got a cyst. I got to take care of her over that summer, because my godmother had to work.

Thing is, Tara was the only cat I ever loved. I have pretty bad allergies, but they seem mutual to cats, if we're in the same room we both start sneezing. Anyway, I was heartbroken to see her fading, and so was my godmother, although it was much more.

I can only imagine what you're going through, but if you can, find a way to acknowledge how important she was to you, whether that's a dream, or creating a song or drawing, or anything to process.

Grief is hard, and I hope you will begin to feel better soon.

Nov 25, 2015 11:39 PM

Wade Jen, I don't know what I'd do without my dog's as they are my best friends, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend, I will be praying for you and your time of sorrow. πŸ™πŸ˜˜

Nov 26, 2015 12:48 AM

Wade Jen,
Pets are like our children/best friends, and the loss of one is devastating. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you gentle hugs and prayers.

Nov 26, 2015 8:36 AM

WadeJen, I am so sorry for your loss. Our furry babies are a part of our families and our hearts. My heart is broken for youπŸ’” and I pray that you find some peace through your grief. In time you will be able to think of your precious kitty with a smile over funny antics and snuggles and purrs. I'm sending you gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers along with my sympathies for your loss. Remember that the smiles and happiness that your kitty brought you will forever outweigh the heartache. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 26, 2015 8:53 AM

Wade Jen, I am so very sorry for your loss, losing your family members is always so difficult. Grief is felt in so many different ways, and I am finding, with the pains that we have during to our illnesses, we aew more sensitive, thehrefore is more intense.

After reading the various forums, this is certainly the type of forum for this, we can understand. Gentle hugs as you grieve and a shoulder for your tears.

Nov 27, 2015 12:56 AM

Thank you guys so much for your support. I'm taking comfort in my family and other cats, it's just hard because she's been with me for 14 years and her death would have been preventable if we had taken her to get her blood tested.

Nov 27, 2015 10:23 AM

Oh honey, don't beat yourself up for that. In sure that she was healthy and happy and gave you no specific reasons that you could put your finger on to think she needed tests. I know you loved her with all your heart and obviously took good care of her because she lived to be 14 years old. My heart and prayers are with you. Gentle {{{Hugs}}} πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 28, 2015 7:02 AM

The loss of a beloved pet is hard. I would have gone numb myself.... It's the fight or flight response. Hugs to you.

Nov 28, 2015 9:51 PM

WadeJen, I am so very sorry for your loss! We went through this a year ago when I came home to find out dog unable to walk. I rushed him to the vet. He was put on IV & antibiotics because his blood showed infection & inflammation. He died in surgery, due to massive blood loss from tumors in his liver. It took me until this year before I really began to get where I could even look at other animals. Now we have a wonderful new pet who's brought joy back in my heart. You will be in my thoughts and prayers! Grief is awful but a necessary thing. Let us all help you through. And may God help you through the pain! (((Hugs)))πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Nov 28, 2015 9:55 PM

I am sorry you lost your friend.

Nov 28, 2015 10:11 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my furbaby Halloween night one year ago. It took quite a while to recover from that, but we finally did and I had to really push my husband when I felt it was time to get another dog. Our Mcgee had been with him for 14 years and I had only been with him for 13 years. They become our best friends and our comfort. It will get easier but it is going to take alot of time.

Sep 17, 2018 6:23 PM

I'm sorry for your loss just take a moment and cry it out and remember to breathe. For the numbness try taking a long bath it sometimes helps especially is you have some Epsom salt to use as well. Xx really sorry you lost your baby

Sep 17, 2018 11:13 PM

I’m wishing you peace. Don’t use guilt to avoid grief (I learned this, cuz that’s what it does...everyone would rather do anything...even beat yourself up than feel grief).

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