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Grieving and just want to vent

Dec 11, 2015 4:54 AM

Hi, I just found out a friend of 10 years passed away from complications due to severe diabetes. I am devastated. I never met her, we only talked on FB and met through an online game. Her name is Trina Payne. She was one of the strongest women I have had the utmost honor of knowing. I have been crying on and off all day and I am beginning to have a fibro flare. My husband was just an ass to me on the phone and I just wanted to drop kick him. He is in prison, has been for 20 months now and I really needed him and once again he is not here. I am facing major surgery to see if I will be able to walk without pain, if it doesnt work I will be in pain the rest of my life and not able to walk. I need him. I am living with his mom who does not really like me and I have no friends where I live. I will have to take care of myself when I have my surgery, my mother in law is leaving for a month. I will not be able to put any weight at all on my foot for two months straight while it fuses around the " hardware ". I feel like a wuss because my friend Trina had lost a leg and was about to lose another one but was always there to help anyone who needed it. She endured soo much. I am tired of not having anyone to help, and people only contacting me when they want something. Thanks for letting me vent, blessed be.

Dec 11, 2015 9:46 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss krissie. You sound like a trooper though and you're taking care of what needs to be done, despite not having much (if any) support. Try to do something you enjoy even if it's small to get yourself in a better mind set and stay positive. Here for you hun!

Dec 11, 2015 11:49 AM

Krissie, I am so very sorry for your loss. It does not matter that you never met this friend, what matters is that you touched one another's lives and were both better for it. We just recently lost a member of our pain family (Eddieray) and, although we've not met, all who knew him grieved his loss. He was among the first people in this wonderful community family to welcome me and even though he suffered he was always at the ready to help any one of us feel better. I am so sorry that you are facing having a life altering surgery all on your own. Your Mother in Law doesn't sound like a particularly caring person however, on the good side, you have a roof over your head. I am in NO way diminishing your situation, merely stating that with the bad, there's always some good embedded in there somewhere. Perhaps you can check with your insurance company as they may be able to provide you with some home care with p/t and o/t. It would be a good thing to check into. Know that now that you are part of this wonderful group of fellow pain warriors, you will NEVER be alone. There is always someone to help when you need it no matter day or night. There are never any judgements here. We understand. You can vent, rant, cry, laugh, celebrate, whatever and we will all be here by your side. We pray for one another, hug one another, give support, advice, make jokes, etc. we are a tight knit group and we are always here to either help you through a crisis or celebrate a good day. Keep your chin up. Try to stay positive and know that you have an entire community of people behind you. We are all merely a keystroke away. Sending you {{{Hugs}}} and prayers.💕🙏🏻🌻

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