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Grrrrrr... Flakey doctor screwed me!

May 05, 2015 3:01 AM

So awhile back I mentioned the fact I was going to find a new primary care doc... My doctor of 30 years was so rude, sarcastic and ridiculous the last time I saw him I made up my mind to NEVER go back to him. I'll die in my driveway first!
And so the twists begin.... I went to a different doc in the same medical system, which is known for their remodeling and aesthetic appeal rather than quality care. I had a very rough few months with some depression but the most terrifying anxiety ever... I began having some hypertension and like I said " I'll die in the driveway first!" ...after a horrible evening and eventually getting a few minutes sleep I woke up ALIVE!😁
So I got into this new chick, quack, nut job.... Mind you I was on the edge of losing my mind, this woman barely made eye contact, gave me no feedback and at every word I said she would make this weird exaggerated "ahhhh", "ohhhhh"... Literally she looked my direction a total of two mi Utes the entire hour long spot... She had her face stuck in her laptop taking what I just found out were some absolutely insane unfounded observations of my behavior. She even put a quote in about my psychologist that I didn't say!
I had already decided not to go back the following week for a follow up so I requested my medical records be sent ASAP to a doc in madras which is farther for me and nasty in the winter. I also requested a complete record be sent to me .... So I'm reading through this twist report from that 1 visit and she said I was exhibiting inappropriate behavior for my age!!!! Wtf?! And she went on to say that I had inappropriate mood and affect, expansive behavior inappropriate to age, flight of ideas.... On and on!!!
So, I have friends who are totally stunned because that isn't me! Maybe part of it was because she was raising my anxiety level by leaps and bounds... I mean changing docs after 30 years is traumatizing while I'm on a comp case, getting discriminated against by my employer, pain, etc.... If she knew her ass from her head and looked at me she may have realized she was exasperating the symptom! Sorry, I'm on one because I still can't believe she wrote that... Good mojo for all tomorrow😘

May 05, 2015 4:45 AM

I so sorry you've got to go Thur this again I hope it gets better and your in my prays to get a really good dock

May 05, 2015 5:52 AM

Thank you Eddie... I'm hoping with my back doctors input I can make her remove it... She is so far off base she's in a different game!

May 05, 2015 11:49 AM

OMG, Oregon!!! I had that happen to me with a doctor and it was an orthopaedic surgeon.. He was listening to me and shaking his head and smiling, all the while, his face in his laptop... I looked at him and said, "Perhaps you can let me in on the joke, because as far as I can tell, I haven't said anything remotely funny. Maybe if you put that f*cking computer down and actually LOOK at me and LISTEN to me, we can get somewhere". Well, he didn't like that and told me that I needed to go back into Manhattan to the doctor who operated on me and he wasn't going to help me. I left, told them I was NOT paying a co-pay because as far as I was concerned, I didn't have any doctor service and immediately wrote a letter to the American Medical Association about this doctor. I then checked my Insurance, went ahead and found another doctor who was a peach, listened to me and took very good care of me. I wish you all the very best of luck in finding another doctor. I understand the anxiety because I suffer with it as well. However, if you get my Greek up, then look out!!! I can tell just by your posts that you are NOTHING like what that asshole wrote in her report and I would report her. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you find another doctor to help you quickly.

May 05, 2015 1:26 PM

Oregonhomested, I completely relate to what you went through. I ordered the report from the Neurologist who did the neuro-psych scam on me. The crap he wrote made it sounds like I was imagining everything, and his suggestion was that I needed weekly psych counseling from him and his psych students. Good thing I have a history with my psychiatrist (20 years). He disagrees with that doc and the previous psychiatrist who wanted to do some new fangled brain stimulation that amounts to shock therapy but I said no! My psych doc says I suffer from major depression but I don't need either of their suggested treatments.

I'm so sorry you went through that. It's hard to find good doctors these days who really care about us patients rather than how much they aren't being paid by the insurance. I hope and pray you find someone worthy and caring! πŸ™πŸŒΌ

May 05, 2015 11:14 PM

Thank you so much friends... I so appreciate y'all... I am also going to talk to my occupational doc about it. He will support me. I'm absolutely going to report her, I certainly didn't deserve that bogus crap! You guys don't know how much talking to you helps😘

May 06, 2015 7:36 AM

Am sorry you had to deal with all of that crap. I hope you can find a doctot in the group with a touch of compassion or empathy. As far as the stupid quacks we say 'poor thing he did not even have enough sense to dump p!ss out of his own boot'. Is it even an option to change groups? Maybe you should start setting a recorder on the counter. Doctors get really flacky when the see a recorder. Sometimes I use my cell phone recorder and do not tell them. My state does not require me to tell anyone that they are being recorded. Some states only require one party to be aware. That party is me. Also if they try to charge you for medical records sometimes you can say 'continuity of care' and tell them doctor is out of town maybe they won't charge. Of course if you can get someone at your psych's office to grab them for you that would be nice. Technically it is illegal to release any medical records that were not generated by the doctor - Dr. A is not supposed to give you a copy of Dr. B's notes. Best of luck.

May 06, 2015 8:28 AM

I am absolutely going to a doctor out of the medical group... We quit using them for hospital care and imaging already... I have an appt later this month to establish care with a doc that comes highly recommended by a friend. It will mean a longer drive but I'll just take an extra stretch stop. They better not charge me for my records as they told me it didn't cost and since EVERY doc in the city belongs to that particular group all their reports from each were included. I'm definitely watching for a bill. 😑

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